My gf has adhd… she is very difficult to live with with & without her meds.. she started around 2years ago drinking more than just “casual “ she isn’t nice to me.. i don’t like the drinking but she thinks it’s coping with her “bad day” please help me … if i give up like I’ve been saying she claims it’s not frighting but i don’t think i have the patience to deal with adhd & alcoholism
It’s not fighting *
We are seeing trends of losing lockdown weight, getting healthy etc, is this some you both get into.
Is this something you can both get into?
"Coincidentally" this would help ADHD, and feeling healthier eating better the empty calories and health affects of alcohol are less attractive.
You have two choices, really. Help your patience with her or help your patience without her. It isn't about how much you love her. It seems like it's about how much patience you're willing to spare. I may be off course. If so, please do correct me.
That must hurt a lot @nichole-smith - I know you’ve really been struggling. And I think when it’s the kind of relationship that has “so much potential” - when we love someone for being “the (person) they almost are” (jm) - its really confusing… Either condition is a hand full. For me personally, addiction is a hard pass. Period. There’s no point in it. An addict only has one relationship and that’s to their drug of choice. The rest of us are accessories. And then once they get clean that’s when the real work starts, for everybody. Suddenly you’re in a relationship with someone who has the mentality of a teenager AND the car keys and the checkbook. Just sayin’… (jm) - Jerry McGuire