Warning. Venting. This may get long. (ADHD is a very recent discovery for me.) I grew up really thinking my mom was one i could turn to when I had mental health issues. That she understood. Boy was i wrong! The crap she says about me...a severely depressed and anxious ADHD adult... Makes me want to cry on the regular. And when I recently started discovering my ADHD symptoms and trying to talk to her she just dismissed it. Oh, I was never hyper. I did good in school. I'm just too lazy. So these reasons i don't have ADHD. She will research any physical disease you may have until she knows more than the Drs. But this? Nope. I try to explain the signs and explain how it actually effects me... She tells me I'm just lazy. One day she just comes out "why do you care about this so much? What does it matter?" What does it matter? What does it matter that I'm finding out there's a real medical condition that explains why I'm so "lazy?" What does it matter that i could get some help and maybe finally fell like a functional adult? The rest of my family and most of my friends don't understand mental illness. I feel so alone! Like nobody understands me. I have nobody to talk to. I feel like I'm on my own with my mental health. It hurts so much! I'm so tired of pretending I'm ok, just so i don't have to listen to others bitch about it how it's all in my head or everyone has issues and I'm not special. I'm tired of being dismissed just because you can't "see" my illnesses. I'm tired of carrying all of this alone.
It’s hard when others don’t understand it. Have you had therapy to help manage things that your going through. And do you have any friends that you could trust and would understand if you spoke to them.
I have one friend who understands. But he's got so much of his own going on. But i haven't seen my therapist in over a year because my insurance doesn't cover it.
I’m sorry you are having to deal with a difficult parent who isn’t validating your experience. And it doubly sucks about therapy and your insurance.
Maybe my experience is a solution. Casually read out the DSM 5 criteria as if it were a magazine personality quiz. Mum was moving between joy at my faults being picked on and thinking I was making it up, it was so spot on. She then asked what it was I was reading.
That’s awesome! Lol
THIS.. Yes !!!!! My mom was my best friend oh until I knew and honestly she wouldn’t be my friend if I didn’t have to live with her because like that and the whole “why does it matter” lol because you call me lazy and hey go ahead and even give me the whole “I’m stupid” since I will GLADLY take that but you do not get to be the one to tell me how I am and that I’m choosing this because no I’m paralyzed and she has no idea and at that point she just triggers it