So I'm giving birth to a mixed raced baby boy (Korean and African American). I would like to give the baby to a interracial couple for adoption. However, the birth father wants to give the baby to his family members who wants to adopt. So I'm asking the impact of the child's mental health when it comes down to race, family, and identity.
Well I will have to say that we are doing good with our adoption journey we have had the home study done and passed we have to wait till our lawyer is in the office to see what our next step is ... I have loved being able to watch our beautiful son grow up from day one
Has anyone on here adopted a child mainly because they wanted and that's something you wanted to do just curious?
Hey guys. I needed a break, not out of laziness, partying or carelessness, from my daughter. I sent her to her dad’s. It was 6 months. Mind you, her dad and his mother hates me. I was the bread winner and she hates me leaving him and now she’s forced to take care of him. I was sure they, FOR sure the grandma, taught my daughter to be rude to me in some form; telling her my full name, allowing her to be in filth even when she steps out, rooting for her unladylike behavior, etc. I then picked up my daughter; soon after, I agreed to rent a cottage with a guy I “presented as a boyfriend.” He constantly disrespected me. We all were home 24-7. He was teaching my daughter to disrespect me. My daughter has been so rude to me, following how others treat me in public. I have always ignored disrespectful people in public, which are much. So anyhow, I’ve been spanking my daughter and having a tone with her. Doesn’t really work. I want to give her up for adoption, hopefully a one with a good family. She’s turning 5.
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Dose anyone know how you might go about adoption your nieces from their mother We’re in California
Hello!! I am Di an follow adoptee from China. I may not be able to help you with things regarding agencies and how and where to adopt the child from or what to name the child. I am here if anyone wants some advice from a fellow adoptee and maybe to understand a bit about the proccess so many go through to have a child. I wish you all well in your journey and if you need me feel free to reply to my message.
hiya! im am adoptee from South Korea. i would be more than happy to try and answer your questions about adoption or share personal experiences with you guys if you need. 🌹 wishing you all the best on your journeys and hoping that everything works out for you all.
I had the privilege to head my team on a relief assignment last year and I was amazed on how we touched lives of the kids in some orphanage homes... So I went further to take some classes on how to take care and provide homes for the kids and it has been a wonderful experience. So please feel free to talk to me or ask me questions on things you need to be made clear to you 😊
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Hey guys... I am from India.. I tried a lot to convince my girl friend to adopt kids..but she felt I have a problem to be a biological father.. my concern is the earth already over occupied by humans.. and what is the point of bringing new when we have more availability... I want to know whether there are like minded people in this forum
Hey guys. I’m not trying to be a foster parent and I’m not a foster child but I need some advice. There’s is a foster kid that I have gotten to know recently whose foster parents are moving out of town about 2 hours. However they don’t want to leave because they feel at home here and finally feel comfortable. They are supposed to be moving in a couple of weeks and the child has asked me to see if I can find any other options to where they can stay in the city they are in.
This Coronavirus makes me waaan die!! Just started a new job hadda stop that.. ima social bug.. I love people and this virus has separated me from everyone.. I don do well in isolation.. I freak the fuck out. I haven’t parents my dog but my bro has his family I can’t chill over there where lots cool stuff is goin on... no I haven to literally entertain myself b if I don’t I get ext self destructive...... then I want to smash everything break everything.. bc I feel inside horrible memories.... that haunt me daily.. just want to destroy myself on drugs.. 😓
Hi everyone. My name is Gina, and I’m 28. I was adopted at 3 months old, and I’ve endured the whole identity crisis that oftentimes adopted children face. I also managed to locate my birth family at age 17, and now have them in my life. I just feel like I can provide some really great advice or input for anyone who struggles with the idea of adoption, child or parent, or if anyone has any questions about it, etc. I love to talk about my experience and I love hearing about others’ as well. Feel free to get in touch with me! ❤️☺️
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Hi there. I’m not entirely sure where to post this, so I’m going to try a couple groups over the next days (forgive me if I pop up across some groups!). My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and known each other for 5. We were recently reached out to by DHS to undergo paternity testing for one of his ex’s from high school, who apparently has a 4 year old (he knew she had a child but only years later when they spoke again).The mother is extremely unstable, in and out of jail and addiction, and the father is unknown as of right now.. We’ve done the math and there’s a solid chance the little girl is his. Which puts us in a position once the results all go through to decide whether we will fight for custody. He already knows he wants to if she’s his, and from what I’ve learned of the mother I can’t say I blame him. The poor kid is in a terrible situation, and I almost hope we have the chance to help her. But this brings up so much fear and uncertainty for myself. I was never entirely sure of having my own children and have always been borderline convinced I would foster/adopt in the future. My boyfriend and I have talked about it in the future, but we are both still young and were not planning on “settling down” until a bit later in life than usual. I’d always pictured myself older and adopting older children for some reason. I guess I’d never expected it might happen sooner than expected!! I suppose I was just hoping to reach out and maybe find someone else who could have been through something like this. I know what the right thing to do would be if the time came, and I can say it even excites me despite the fear; but yea, that fear is definitely there.
Hello! It’s awesome to even here that you are considering helping. My dad was a foster kid and that led me and my wife to foster and than adopt 3 kids ourselves. I’m not sure what all I could help you with, but I can assure you that having a young foster kid is only slightly more nervous than having a kid. At the young ages, kids hearts are so wide open and want to love. As long as you aren’t thinking to help for yourself, you have a great chance of being a huge blessing to this child. I wish you the best of luck! Feel free to reach out with questions.
So there isn’t a group for this but i’m not adopting a child. i’m an adult (with autism) that wants to be adopted. i’m looking for adoptive mom & dad. my biological parents are abusive & i have severe emotional baggage from what they’ve put me through. i live on my own & pay for all my bills. i’m high functioning. i’m in the military & i’m going to college. i’m very sweet & kind. i just want parents that actually love me & can help me understand things. it’s hard to be autistic & have zero guidance. i’m very empty & hurt & lost. i am trying to do it all on my own & i even taught myself everything i know now because my real mom & dad failed me long ago. i am 22, will be 23 in september. but i will love you unconditionally. i just need someone that loves me & understands. i need to meet parents that want to adopt an adult & are not aggressive. i need a lot of TLC & parents good with financial advice, legal advice, social advice, emotion regulation advice, etc. please help me.
Question for people who have gone through adoption: If you find out as an adult that you were adopted and your parents don’t want to discuss it is it possible to find out who your biological parents are? I totally understand closed adoptions and wouldn’t reach out to them or bother them just curious in general for myself and health background and what not and for my son etc.
Hello, everyone! 👋🏽 I’m not looking to adopt; I was adopted at birth! I saw this group and figured I’d jump on here to see if there’s any way I can answer questions and provide support regarding adoption, from the adopted child’s point of view. I’m now 22 and have gone through the whole of it with my adopted and birth families—navigating the emotions, meeting the birth families, figuring out what it all means in my life. If I can answer any questions or offer support in any way, please let me know! ❤️
Hi I am an adopted child and if anyone has any questions feel free to ask me, I was adopted at birth, it was a closed adoption so we didn't know the birth family, I chose to find them when I was 28 and met both my birth parents. I have views from the adopted childs side so feel free to message me!
There isn’t really a group for adopted kids here... but I kinda need advice. I’m 20 years old and I was adopted when I was an infant. I’ve had a open adoption to where when I turned 18, I could meet my biological parents. Well I just told my mom that I wanted to meet them and now I’m panicked. I have loads of questions and I don’t know who to go to with them. Is there anyone who can answer my questions about meeting them? I brought them up to my parents but just got brushed off like my anxiety over this doesn’t matter.
Free courses for adoptive families. I have nothing to do with this, but just passing it on.
Please go for counseling as soon as possible and get some therapy for your daughter too. Placing her for adoption is the most drastic option. Older children are harder to place. She might well end up in the foster care system and that is not a good thing . This must be a very last resort. I am sorry things are difficult for you. Spanking is definitely not going to help. It’s important to think of the best interests of your child. You can get past this and learn some better parenting techniques and ways of taking care of yourself too. Passing a child from home to home, even when with family, is going to build lifelong issues for your child. Please do get some help for both of you.
Hi all! I am new to this group and app. I am 38 years old and my husband is 41. We discovered about 5 years ago after years of trying to have a child that we unfortunately are not able to conceive. We did foster care for a few years and had 2 amazing kids (siblings) in our care for 2 years. They have now been reunified with their birth mother for 2 years and we continue to maintain a close relationship. My husband and I really want a family of our own though and we are in the waiting process with our agency/facilitator but it’s been a year and a half and her we are still waiting. My brother just told me he and his wife are expecting and then some friends of our who were in the same boat just revealed to me today that they finally got their baby. It’s so hard for me to be happy for others when I’m always grieving. I don’t know how to even handle all of this right now as we just sit and wait to be picked. I’m a mental health therapist and feel like I should have all the answers but I don’t. I just don’t know how to handle all this and stuff be an effective wife, daughter, friend, colleague, and therapist. Now I’m having a pity party for myself which I also don’t want. Any suggestions?
Tomorrow , Jan 21 at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris
Re: Adoption What is on my mind today is how astonished I often am when some adoptive parents won't share what they have of the adoptee's background and any legal docs in their possession with an adult adoptee who wants to know more about the birth family and background. I know that some people have not gotten past their own issues around infertility, if that was the case, or past their lack of feeling "entitled" and "good enough" to parent their adopted kids. These are things that can have an impact on a child's/adopted adult's self-esteem sometimes, and need to be fully understood and dealt with by adoptive parents, preferably early on. It is important for adoptive parents to also understand that their feelings can and will recycle and crop up again at different times in the future. When an adopted person wants/needs to know more (and often there isn't a lot available that answers burning questions and yearning for info) this doesn't diminish the relationship with the adoptive family, or mean that they failed in any way. I often work with adoptees, birth families and adoptive families, often around such issues. I am a parent by birth and adoption and retired adoption agency founder and director. I still do some coaching work in my private practice, with adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents.