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OwlAuthor
28 Jul
How do I tell the guys I like that I'm unable to meet with them due to my financial situation - without telling them my financial situation? Meaning, I cannot afford uber to go meet up with them & then take Uber back. Even public transit can get expensive over time
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Tropical Fish
28 Jul
I suppose it depends on the guy himself and how open you'd like to be. If it's someone you REALLY like, just tell them straight up the situation. Maybe in return they'd offer to pay or come to you. If its just someone you have interest in meeting just tell them you're unable to meet them right now for personal reasons.
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OwlAuthor
28 Jul
So, this is kinda helpful. IMO, it is embarrassing to tell them my financial situation & that I cannot afford uber due to the pay structure of my job. I get paid every 2.5wks (technically 3wks). Plus, it makes me very self-concious. I know both of the guys make more money than me. One is an engineer at Tesla & the other has a remote job. Retail doesn't make that much. It's not like they told exactly that they make more money than me.
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Rabbit
28 Jul
Maybe a second job at one time I had three .
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Violin
28 Jul
I think you don’t need to explain the situation in depth, but you can tell them you can’t make it out too far from where you live. If you make a big deal about it he might treat it also like it’s a big deal. You could always make suggestions closer to you about where you want to meet up instead of going to see them.
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OwlAuthor
29 Jul
True, I could do that. I don't even know how I would ask them to come anywhere I am because they think there's nothing to do here & it is not the city
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GrapesHelper
1 Aug
Just be honest and tell them that cant do financially cant do these things without going into too much detail. If they care at all they'll understand and if they dont they're not worth your time.
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OwlHelper
1 Aug
Why can’t you afford 2 Ubers? It’s like 20 bucks tops, one time, right? Either way, just tell them. Nothing guys like more than feeling like they can help. Makes them more confident. For real. Trust me when I tell you, guys do not care about what you do for a living or you financial situation. Just tell em straight up and maybe they’ll offer an alternative way to meet up. Or maybe you can.
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OwlHelper
1 Aug
Sorry, I didn’t mean it to come off all judgemental. But it sounds that way. Sorry, I just type without thinking. I was just genuinely curious.
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OwlHelper
2 Aug
Honesty best policy, right ! Rw
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HedgehogHelper
10 Aug
How did it go @sj-d-1 ?
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OwlAuthor
11 Aug
I didn't tell either of them. Both make more money than me. One of them does freelance work in Photography & film. The other guy makes more money than him, so Idk how I can tell him.
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Guitar
15 Aug
@sj-d-1 you have to be upfront bold.
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Guitar
15 Aug
If you can’t then you can’t
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Guitar
15 Aug
Don’t be apologetic
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BearHelper
15 Aug
They should be offering to pick you up if they are real gentleman, or maybe you can walk somewhere and they can meet you there? (tell someone where your going incase) bring a tazer lol. Eventually though, if you guys connect that truth will have to come out either way, just feel it out and when your ready to discuss that youll know when the right time will be. 😊
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CanoeHelper
19 Aug
Invite them to come where u are for a get together
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