When you do things to make others view you in a certain way, you’re sending a message to yourself that the truth is insufficient. You can be kind, but don’t be kind just so others will view you as kind. Just be kind.
It’s okay if you’re a little impatient, messy, or don’t like the local sports team. Be honest about who you are. Everyone that loves you will still be around. Anyone you lose doesn’t belong in your life anyway.