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Hey anyone who may have wanted to check out today’s session. I’m not going to be able to do a session today as Thanksgiving week has gotten a little too crazy for me. But I would encourage you to look through what I wrote last week, and then consider what blocks you from the things that promote your brains health... i.e. what keeps me from social connection? What hinders me in pursuing regular exercise, etc.? We all have roadblocks and figuring out how to overcome them is a huge part of healing and promoting health. BTW these sessions are supposed to be at 4 not too even though the site still lists them at 2 Tuesdays. Thanks!
Today I wanted to explore how loss and grief can also be places of growth. Each of our cells are moving daily toward either growth or decay, so how can this not be true for our entire person? For anyone joining I’d encourage you to take a few moments to get your body into a relaxed state, breath deeply, and attend to the tensions of your day, releasing them as you exhale.
Hey guys! Hopping on today for a few minutes to explore... What does it look like to grow with a wholistic picture of self in mind? What are the different categories of your person you feel are important to pay attention to? What is your experience with wholeness and health when you leave one or more of these categories out?
For anyone checking in today. Take a few deep breathes to release the tensions of your day. Then ponder this thought: the process of being “born” paradoxically includes “death”... What do you think about this statement? Consider the world around you and your life. Do you agree or disagree?
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I sadly won’t be able to hop on today due to furnace problems I am in the midst of dealing with. But I’d like to encourage you to do one thing and ask yourself “who in my life causes me to grow? Challenges me? Pushes me in loving ways toward the edges so to say and helps me see new things about myself, others, and the world?
Going back to our relational connectedness, I want us to keep thinking about whether or not we are pushing the edges of our lives. Grow occurs when we are doing something that pushes us to our limits, or as I just said, pushes the edges. Those edges may be our relational comfort zones, how hard we push ourselves when we exercise, etc. but the truth is that without pushing the edges of any particular area of life we will not grow. So let me take you back to last week’s question I put out there? Do you have people in your life who help you grow?
Today I’d like to do something different as it doesn’t seem like just putting some thoughts out there for conversation always receives much engagement. What questions does anyone have? It can be about your life, a friend or family members... where are you or someone you love stuck and struggling to grow?
I am going to have to pass on a live session today. I received my second Pfizer dose and I’m experiencing flu symptoms. Working in a hospital setting and seeing people young and old either die or be so destroyed by it it’s unlikely they’ll ever fully recover, I would much rather have a day or two of flu symptoms than take a risk with Covid, so I’d encourage one and all to get vaccinated both for self and others, but not feeling great today. Take care!
I just have a short time today to hop on but wanted to follow through more on the loneliness and the idea of embracing our loneliness. I am painfully aware as I try to discuss any topics on this app of how much can get lost, but for anyone who uses this app I do hope it’s helpful. It is one tool we can use to try to connect and find solutions for the pain in our lives. So on to loneliness... Often people do not embrace their negative feelings and instead we try to numb ourselves. We can do this through behaviors which at times can be destructive, e.g. abusing drugs, or we can do it through healthier behaviors as well, e.g. exercise, work, social engagements, etc. Healthy and unhealthy behaviors can be used to mitigate and numb our loneliness. I’m not trying to say this is always bad. Exercise can be a good coping mechanism, but it’s all about balance. Any behavior when out of balance can become unhealthy, e.g. excessive exercising with an underlying cause of anorexia; or simply waking up anxious, exercising, feeling better as a result, and ultimately thus not processing our anxiety; going to a party doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but it’s not helpful if we are using the social engagements again to avoid the pain in our lives. Nothing gets resolved when we numb our pain. So we have to learn to embrace it, be curious, etc.
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I don’t have time to hop on today for a live session but while I was spinning this morning I ran across a Facebook post about some divers who had saved a whale from ropes and netting, and how following this the whale had gone around to every diver and gently given them a thank you nudge. It was a very spiritual experience for many of them which they described, as one man said “I’ll never be the same.” My thoughts is “of course... a giant ‘beast’ who could destroy you, gently nudged you as she might one of her young, you will be changed.” Here were my thoughts in response on growth. I’ll probably post this on the spiritual posts as well as growth and spirituality are pretty much inseparable in my mind. Ponder all this this week and see what happens in you. This is one place where humans got it right, and as a result they had a life changing spiritual experience. In watching documentaries on Jane Goodall lately, I love how she talks about the spiritual experiences she has with animals. It’s sad to me however, that the documentaries speak like this is a new thing, i.e. this truth was discovered and propagated by a, as far as I know, straight white woman of European ancestry. Native American spirituality, which we did our best to destroy, has all along spoken of “two legged people” and “four legged people” i.e. animals. Native Americans have a worldview of equality and shared space with creation, horizontal power structures, versus ownership and vertical power structures, something much more akin to true following of a Triune Creator than I have ever experienced in American Christianity. Perhaps one day even Christians will come to see who the triune Creator really is when we stop trying to get everyone to look and believe the same. There is so much diversity in creation and yet the Christian culture I’ve known in my lifetime seems to believe that everyone must look and believe the same things in order to “be saved.” What a small view of an infinite God. I believe Jesus is “the narrow road,” but what this means is that the road is as broad as Jesus, AND that Jesus can do whatever the hell he pleases with the damn road! Hug leper’s, let prostitutes kiss his feet, violate all the laws when they get in the way of love, except the law of love because the law of love is first and last, it is our arche and our telos, our beginning and our end. When Jesus said we have to become like children to enter the kingdom of God (i.e. to know what it is to truly live), I believe he was trying to tell us we need to have a “celestial openness.” This beautiful phrase was coined by Patricia Kuhl who studies infant linguistics. Infants ARE OPEN, this is why they can grow into something larger than they previously were. But as we grow we think we’ve arrived and then everybody should be like me. This has only ever brought death to growth and religions and cultures. If we want to be alive we need to become open. This shouldn’t be a hard concept even for Christians who say they believe in an infinite God, except that sadly Christian culture believes that in their culture and their way of being life will be found, i.e. there’s no life to be found in Native American culture (any indigenous culture as far as that goes) or Buddhism, etc. How sad. Many who claim to be Christians are nothing like infants, eyes open to the diversity of the world and seeking to understand all of it, and allowing their thought structures to be changed by new information. No, most of us Christians have been more like Pharisees, following all the rules we can find, harming others who do not follow our rules and believing they are on the path to destruction. If we don’t understand something, or it hasn’t been taught to me in church or in the Bible then it must be wrong, right? What a small “god” many Christians “worship” (and for that matter anyone who lies on the conservative spectrum of any religion). Those who allowed themselves to connect with a whale will NEVER be the same? Yes. Because an infinite Creator can not just be found in one small space, or one small set of ideologies, or one small culture or way of being in the world! To do so would be the opposite of infinite. An infinite Creator makes all of life sacred, or as Rob Bell says “everything is spiritual.” The apophatic theologians have a handle on things when they say it may be easier to say who God is NOT than who God IS. How do you define I AM? The whale knows something many do not, so perhaps we can learn from the whale what it means to be more human, like the Creator, who after all clearly said the heavens and earth display their glory. I am not saying these things because I’ve arrived, ask anyone I’ve tried to love. No, I love as poorly as anyone else around me. I am saying these things because I’ve spent my life struggling to overcome a narrow minded Christianity which made me more lost than found. I am on a journey of trying to become more like a child again, more open, and thus more alive... maybe even more like the whale. Hah!