It is very demanding work. I can understand that.
Hey everyone. Tomorrow, Friday the 8th of January, at 4 EST, I will have my group session that is normally for widows and widowers . This time it will be a bit different. I invite you to visit even if you have not lost your spouse/partner, no matter how old you are. We will be talking about ways you can help and support someone who has lost a husband or wife or long term partner. So perhaps it is your parent or a friend or another relative who has lost a spouse. Come find out ways you can understand and help them, and perhaps some things that might not he helpful or might even be more upsetting, even if well intended. I remember that when I lost my father, ten months before losing my young husband, I really did not understand what my mother was going through. Only after I, too, became widowed, did I have an inkling. Hope to see you there and if you attend, come with questions. Ask me anything!!
As long as love lasts there will be grief. Grief is forever, but you don’t need to be miserable forever. Make friends with your grief. If you have repressed the loss of a loved one and have carried that for a long time, or lost someone as a child or young adult and were not allowed to talk about it ( allowed by yourself or others) this grief wound may feel raw and tender even 50 yrs later. Now is the time to give this your attention and to let it out. That is one of the things I help people do.
I left a message on a website for a place called Visiting Angels last night. They called me back this morning and told me no caregivers want to work because of the pandemic, and she apologized. Meanwhile, my mom is dying from sores and wounds and not able to move. There is just no help in this world. Don’t let them fool you.
When you enter a new phase of life, it may be scary. You may need some new tools and techniques to deal with the changes, but you will grow along with whatever life offers. A new stage may be just as wonderful, or more wonderful than the previous one. It may be more difficult too, but you have been through bad stuff before, and you'll get through this too. -Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC
I have had some profound successes in many areas of my life by using strategies to identify limiting beliefs, challenging their validity, and replacing them with empowering beliefs. Many of us have seen the science behind the power of our beliefs, because of the brains ability to always be attracting the things we are thinking about, even when we don’t know we are thinking about it. It’s happening on a subconscious level due to the programming we’ve developed in our lives. But studies are showing we can change the programming, and thus change the consequences or outcomes of our beliefs. Dr Joe Dispenza has beautifully written about and shown miraculous, biological transformations that take place by mindfulness, and reprogramming our beliefs...to the point of curing terminal illnesses. I’ve personally seen life turn around financially, and in love, using attraction and belief. Changing my self talk and questioning everything that is limiting. It sounds simple, which it is...but it’s anything but easy to stay aware of these thoughts taking place under the surface all of the time. I’d like to pose some questions for anyone that’s willing to listen. Has anyone experienced any success by altering their beliefs about a loved one? Particularly a person in your care, or a relative? Do you think that changing the things we believe about our mentally ill loved ones, their treatment plans (or lack of), their narcissism, their prognosis, etc can actually help them heal? If you’ve had any experiences in this realm I’d love to hear about them. I’ve read about many times where miracles have happened due to belief...even Napoleon Hill’s deaf son experienced a level of healing. One of the more amazing stories is that of Dr Hew Len closing down a psych ward for the criminally insane, due to them all having completely been transformed from their illness, and deemed healthy enough to leave the hospital. He did it by using a technique called Ho'oponopono. If any of you have any insights, experiences or successes regarding these principles, I’d love to hear what you think!
Any advice from anyone who’s put a family member in hospice, my grandpa went yesterday and I’ve never lost a grandparent before. It feels like it’s really solidifying the fact he’s getting closer to the end. The nurse told his son that they only last about a month, to her my grandma say that breaks my heart, to think within a month he may be gone just isn’t enough time for me to prepare for another funeral but I guess you never really prepare yourself.
Today at 4 EST, Fri, Jan 15 Are you really ready to start feeling better after death of your spouse or other loved one? Join me today and let’s talk about that.
Helllooo Wisdonians! Up today in Gillian’s corner we are journeying to a new destination and that is ensuring that you take care of you. We will be talking about generosity burnout! We leave the station at 2:00 pm EST so make sure you are aboard !!
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Tomorrow at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
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Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too. This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward. Come join us please to introduce yourself when there and join the conversation.
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This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️
I was born to elderly parents and I cared for them until both passed away they were my heart and souls and I’d do it over again no hesitation but what pains me is seeing so many elderly people suffering alone because family rarely visits or cares I remember hearing a story where the poor women was eating cat food because she had nothing to eat or when I worked at the assisted living facility and had to see the residents crying because they were afraid and alone how dare people treat their elders like this I hope when some of these scum bags get older they get the same treatment they gave their elders see how they like it
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On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentine’s Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentine’s Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentine’s Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.
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I have taken care of my mother since I was a teen, before it was my mainly my sisters job, before that, my dads. It's all I know. The care she needs has increased over the last year with medication changes and mental changes I have noticed and I'm sure as time goes on my responsibilities will increase. I am aware that often it doesn't seem like I do a lot as carer as my main role for now is support, Just monitoring her mental health, making sure I'm around to step in if she needs, finishing tasks when she gets overwhelmed, driving her places and keeping on top of Doctors appointments, I try to let her do things herself while she is still capable, and I feel I come across as lazy because alot of the time I find myself physically doing a whole lot, only really when she needs my help. Because my responsibilities aren't particularly obvious it's so hard to get people to understand how much it takes out of me. I find friends and family acting like I'm being dramatic when I say I care for mum because to them she doesn't seem to need care, I have one friend who seems to think I'm holding myself back from doing things and can't understand why I can't just go off and do whatever I want whenever, and even my sister who has lived away since I was about 17 rolls her eyes because she just doesn't see the deterioration. It is so mentally and emotionally draining, especially when I'm trying to take care of my own mental health as well, with ptsd, depression and anxiety it's a hell of a lot of work keeping myself in check so I can take care of her to the best of my ability. These days, especially after covid, I get like half a day per week to really focus on myself, and that's my Therapy day, I drive there, do therapy and drive home, that's it. Even days when I plan to do nothing so I can try to recharge a bit, I still have her there, constantly. I guess I'm just frustrated that people around me act like my mother is fine and that I'm either lying about how much I do or I'm overreacting. I swear it's a thankless job and people just don't get it. Thank for letting me vent, I hope you all are taking care as best you can.
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hello everyone, I want to know how hazardous this is and what I should do about it? My grandmother (99 with Alzheimer's) fell asleep while eating. As soon as I noticed, I tried to wake her up and get her to swallow or spit out the food but she fell asleep too deeply, plus my parents didn't want me to wake her up since it had taken her such a long time to go to sleep and she had been acting agitated all night long and keeping us awake. She is still asleep and breathing normally, but I'm worried about when she wakes up since her mouth is still stuffed with food. Is there something I should do to prevent her from choking when she wakes up? She doesn't understand things well and it's hard to talk to her because she gets agitated/frantic easily so I'm feeling pretty anxious about when she wakes up. Please give me advice if you can. Thank you so much!
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍
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I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.
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I've been living with my partner for 3 years now. He has just had bad health news in oct. On four problem. one is acute serousous of the liver, two mico colitis, three a pace maker after a cardiac arrest and died was brought back to life, four stomach cancer. I am his caregiver and he he getting worse. He is on hospice as we speak. I never caregiver to this extent and have slot of mixed emotions right now.
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