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GrapesAuthor
29 Jul
I don’t know how active this app is anymore but I needed somewhere to vent. I love my partner and usually he’s really good but sometimes he has these moments and I don’t know where they come from or how red of a flag they are but tonight for example I’m cooking hotdogs for dinner and I ask if he wants onions and he replies with a flat “yep” so I say “yes…please?” Just asking for some appreciation and he says it with annoyance and then says “do you want me to fucking beg you or something?” And I had no clue what to say so I just remained silent. I’m tearing up in the kitchen and I feel like I can’t ask for anything from him.
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MushroomHelper
29 Jul
That does sound very rude, maybe you need to just explain to him that being polite is all your asking for and how it makes you feel when he is blunt like that
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HedgehogHelper
29 Jul
Good lord that’s an ugly thing to say! Are you able to round back and talk about it later? This is a scary red flag in my book. I dated someone who threw a couple of flags like that and it turns out he was violent with his ex. Done! Lol
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Tropical FishHelper
29 Jul
You need love and he doesn’t get it. You need to communicate that to him . He might be troubled from other things .
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OwlHelper
30 Jul
In my opinion, it’s all in how you say it. Did you say it in a sort of joking way? Cause we here those kinds of things all the time as kids, and for some people it immediately triggers some hostility in them. It might be about making him feel like a child. Doesn’t sound like a very big red flag to me. No one is perfect, and if you expect perfection, youre in trouble lol. At this point I would just talk to him and tell him that hurt your feelings. See what he has to say. Remember, it’s all aboit how you say things.
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OwlHelper
30 Jul
*hear (damn autocorrect)
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