Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
Hello Wisdo world! Dr. Retirement is here for the next hour to discuss Setting Boundaries. What's up with you in that area? Let's chat!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
Very strange. The desktop version isn't working! If you did have a situation where you had to set boundaries where did you start? How did it go? Were you persistent? Or did you give in and move shift the boundary a bit now and then? Please share.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
Thank goodness for dictation, or I'd never be able to get the message up to you on my tiny keyboard on the phone. Arthritis in the thumb is acting up. Don't get old, it's a trap!!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
There's a great article on healthline.com under their mental health section titled "The NoBS Guide to Protecting Your Emotional Space". https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/set-boundaries
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
I'm having all sorts of problems, even with the phone version. Continuing, what boundaries if you needed to sit? How did it go? Did you find a need to shift them? Please share.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
That's what boundaries did you need to set, not sit. Sorry for not proofreading my dictation before hitting send!
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
And it should be what boundaries did you need to set?
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
Getting back to the article, they discuss how to build your own personal and emotional space. Also how to understand the nuts and bolts of boundaries. Why would we do this? Because boundaries improve our relationships and self-esteem, boundaries can be flexible, boundaries allow us to conserve our emotional energy, and boundaries give us space to grow and be vulnerable.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
They didn't discuss a few things to work on in order to determine your borders by examining your rights and needs. You want to ask what are your rights? Then you want to follow your gut. And thirdly determine your values.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
You'll also find in this article how to become a boundary setting boss! You'll learn to be assertive. You'll learn to say NO. You'll learn how to safeguard your spaces, and also how to get support.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
And you'll also learn how to recognize and honor other people's boundaries watching for cues, being inclusive of neurodiverse behaviors, and asking. They share, "Never underestimate the power of asking. You can inquire if a hug is okay or if you can ask a personal question."
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
Lastly boundaries are here to help us. If you want to know more go visit the website and read the article.
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Steven "Shags" ShagrinAuthor
22 Jun
That's it for this week folks, I've got to go to the kitchen and start working on dinner.
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