Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
Hello! Here we go with our live session for the week 🎉
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
One of the things I see over and over as a coach is that when a person is about to experience change or is in the middle of the disruption of change, there can be a tendency to shrink. To “play small”.
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Fox
30 Dec
Is it normal to cry every day
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
Hi there- it sounds like you’re experiencing a surge of emotion that is telling you there is something important to pay attention to?
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
We feel uncertain and things are long new and scary and - for reasons we wish weren’t so - our brains start to think of dozens of reasons of how we might fail. Or not be good enough to make it through .... Sound familiar to anyone?
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Tropical FishCEO
30 Dec
Been there. But I think I’ve gotten better at internalizing that success is just one version of how things work out
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
So how do we flip this script?! Well we make a conscious effort to fight the stories and tap into reality. We’re going to explore a couple of these strategies today
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
1) be mindful There’s a reason mindfulness is talked about in so many platforms and respected. It works! One simple thing you can try anytime - but especially if you’re feeling thrusted into chaos or overwhelmed by emotion ... simply look at and name 3-5 items in your immediate surroundings (in your head or out loud) When I do this I find myself inhaling and exhaling slower as I name the objects. This simply act roots me to the hear and now. It slows down my mind to bring awareness to my surroundings
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Tropical FishCEO
30 Dec
Great tip. Screen grabbed :)
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Tropical FishCEO
30 Dec
What’s else Samantha? I’m writing these down! :)
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
2) ditch the all/nothing language When we are in shaky ground it can be tempting to rely on absolutes “it NEVER works out for me” or “I’m ALWAYS left to do it on my own” Our thoughts and words we say to ourselves are so incredibly important. These polarizing words and phrases keep us playing small rather than expanding out to the possibilities/opportunities available
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Tropical FishCEO
30 Dec
Love this
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
What if instead we simply played with language such as ... “What if it didn’t have to be hard...?” “I have lots of examples of when things have worked out and welcome the help and resources for this to work out too” “I feel lonely right now but this will pass. I have people who love and support me and help”
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
I get that often times we don’t FEEL like saying the calmer, opportunity-focused statement... We may feel like stomping our feet and shouting out how we’ve been wronged But here’s the thing. Our thoughts help shape our feelings. We can rewire the chaos to get in a path that is actually leading to what we really want
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
3) focus on our strengths The reality is we will have areas of our lives that feel like weakness, that we want to grow in. Ok! That’s part of being human :) Now, within this change and disruption is not the time time to give those our energy. Instead, lean into our strengths! Our bright spots! The things that you naturally enjoy or excel in or bring you energy
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
I find in coaching that sometimes our blinders can be really intense and it’s hard to see what we’re good at, or say loving statements about ourselves. It’s okay to ask outsiders for perspective! Ask friends and family “what to you see are my top 3 strengths?” “What’s something you see that I’m naturally good at?” And of course, to reflect to yourself: ✔️What are 3 skills I admire about me?” ✔️if I look to past changes in my life - what are some traits or strengths that helped me get through?
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Samantha LAuthor
30 Dec
It’s my sincere hope that these 3 strategies will help you root down into the BEAUTIFUL person that you are and not be capsized by the waves that often accompany change. If you have any questions or want to chat about your situation - please don’t hesitate to reach out!
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Tropical FishCEO
30 Dec
Great session Samantha. Soon we will have this community bustling with people. Thank you!!
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