Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Good glorious morning or afternoon wherever you are!
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Fox
25 Jun
Thank you I hope it was okay to share with Beca about our Mothers
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
No beating yourself up for being hard on yourself! Just notice when it happens, and show yourself some compassion talk to yourself as she was your best friend! Maybe do a little self soothing, I will be in your arms and legs and shoulders and giving yourself a big hug
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Fox
25 Jun
What can you do when you just feel like you’re going in the wrong direction?
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Do you mean the wrong direction emotionally Becca? Or life path or can you be a little more specific?
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Fox
25 Jun
Yes in life. I just feel like I struggle to know where I’m heading, or want to be
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Fox
25 Jun
I have just got a divorce it has been hard we had been together 24 years it has been very painful but my faith in God keeps me going
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Fox
25 Jun
Sorry to hear that! I recently broke up with my first boyfriend. Today is the first time I haven’t had him here on my mum’s anniversary. I’m glad you’re finding a way to stay strong
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
A technique I use when I’m going down the wrong path in my mind is called STOP! It’s an acronym for stop, take a breath, observe, and proceed
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
I agree Naomi big hugs to you! I found faith is critical to getting through challenging times. Faith, I believe that things will get better, that life will get better! And faith is a practice. If we don’t believe things are Going to get better, then we can just start practicing, faking it, until we actually do believe that it will get better!
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Fox
25 Jun
That’s what I’m trying to do
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
We can change your mindset, one step at a time! So maybe it’s starting with an affirmation such as I believe everything is working out perfectly in my life, and that all will unfold beautifully. I am exactly where I am meant to be on my path, and I am headed in the right direction
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Fox
25 Jun
I think I need to change my direction, just trying to work out how right now
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Fox
25 Jun
Sorry about your boyfriend that is special firs boyfrien like Norma said sometimes we have to take a deep breath and try to keep going forward
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Fox
25 Jun
Thank you. It’s really hard, I miss him a lot but in the end he stopped treating me right
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Great! Transition can be a trying time, because we know we’re no longer happy with what is and wanting something different but not really clear on what that is! It’s kind of like waiting for the trapeze bar and not knowing when to jump!
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Fox
25 Jun
Exactly, and all these issues (mum, bf, wrong path) make me feel really lost
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Saul a really great exercise to do when you’re not sure what to do on your life path is to do the wheel of life, I don’t know if you did that with me before? Were you take a look at each area of your life, environment, family, friends, finances, career, health, fun and recreation. Look at what it’s like right nowAnd rate each one on a scale of 1 to 10.
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Fox
25 Jun
Norma I know you are so right sometimes we have to keep telling ourselves it will all work out and I believe that is where our faith comes in and Becca sometimes we really don’t know what direction to take I have been that way myself this past year
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Fox
25 Jun
It’s hard isn’t it?
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Then you write, Right about each area, what you’d like your life to be like. No holds barred! Don’t worry about the why or the how just what you’d like it to be like.
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Fox
25 Jun
I can do that
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Then choose 1 or 2 or 3 areas, and Take a tiny step toward making that dream come true! Don’t worry if it’s the right dream or the right direction, because as you carry on down the path, you can always change your mind!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
It will give you something to focus on, and as you take each little step, your confidence your courage and your faith increases
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Fox
25 Jun
I’m starting by working on fixing my home. I remember telling you I will soon take 2 months off work
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
I remember when I left my last relationship, I totally lost faith. I felt like my life was just hopeless, I felt so helpless. And I knew I needed to regain faith.
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Fox
25 Jun
I feel that way too, but I also don’t like my job at all and it’s the only thing I have right now
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
I started using affirmations daily, and created a plan and followed it one step at a time. I affirmed to myself I am a happy, healthy, worthy, wealthy, woman. And eventually, one day I realized I was!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
It’s not just an affirmation, affirmations are a tool that can definitely help.
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Fox
25 Jun
I’ve used those before, when I was homeless one time it really got me through
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Pretending I had faith and affirming what I had said earlier, that everything was working out perfectly and that I trusted in the universe, helped me regain my faith
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Also attending a spiritual centre really helped
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
So what is it you would like Becca? Maybe it’s creating that affirmation right now!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Sometimes we need to make an affirmation more believable to us, so starting it with ‘wouldn’t it be nice if’helps
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
So, something such as wouldn’t it be nice if I had faith in my future? Or what do you have I have faith in my future? Or what if I am exactly where I need to be on my path and everything is working out beautifully?
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Fox
25 Jun
I know I need to change my path as I have no work-life balance so no friends or social life
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Then when that feels good to you you can switch it Up by getting rid of the ‘wouldn’t it be nice if’ or what if!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
So what is one tiny step you could take toward A social life or friendship?
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Fox
25 Jun
I’m hoping I can reconnect with people during the time off work
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
I remember many years ago reading Julia Cameron‘s book the artists way. One of the exercises was to write morning pages each morning. Another was to go on a date with yourself once a week. So to go someplace that you’d love to be that you’ve never gone to her don’t go to because you’re on your own. So for instance,It could be to go to an art gallery, or to have a picnic lunch in a rose garden
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Right on Becca, so what is the first step you could take towards reconnecting with people
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Fox
25 Jun
I already wrote a group post inviting people
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Beautiful! Did she set the date for the meet up?
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Fox
25 Jun
Not yet, I will talk to a couple of girls and see if we can work one out
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Will you call each person?
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Fox
25 Jun
Probably message them online
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Right on! Good for you, that’s awesome! So when will you message the first person? Tonight? Tomorrow?
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Fox
25 Jun
Maybe over the weekend, today I don’t feel up to messaging people
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Sounds great Becca!
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Fox
25 Jun
I’m anxious about it, but I think it’s a good start
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Set the date rather than a maybe, and take that first step! So I will contact the first person this weekend, correct?
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Fox
25 Jun
Yes 😄
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
It’s a fabulous start! I am happy for you! Go girl!!!
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Fox
25 Jun
I used to be really popular in that group, so hopefully they still want to connect
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Naomi do you have a small step you will take?
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Fox
25 Jun
What about you, Norma? Any steps you can also take? We could do a group exercise 😂
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Stop technique I started to talk about earlier is really a cool tool to use when we’re starting to feel anxious or upset or anything else. It’s a mindfulness technique. When you’re feeling that anxiousness, envision a stop sign. Next, focus on your breath just notice how your breathing follow the breath in and the breath out and focus on it for about a minute. See if you can slowly your breath down a bit and make it a deep belly breath or not!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Then you observe. Observe what you hear, what you see, what you feel, what your taste, what do you think, just notice everything going on around you where you feel it in your body. Then, ask yourself what’s The most important step for me to take now? Listen, and then take that step
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
For sure Becca! My next step is to do one page of the formatting on my book!
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Fox
25 Jun
Sounds like a good step!
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
And to learn one dance from the world groove movement program I took.
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Fox
25 Jun
That sounds like fun
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Yes indeed! Another fun step I’m going to take is to research electric bikes, contact a few bicycle stores and see if I can find one that’s perfect for me!
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Fox
25 Jun
My step for this evening is to make some food. It’s almost 7:30 and I haven’t eaten yet today
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Fox
25 Jun
I’ve neglected myself
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
All righty, I hope you enjoyed today’s session, and I look forward to seeing you again! Have an incredibly happy, healthy, worthy, wealthy week! Much love and inner peace to you!
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Fox
25 Jun
Have a good weekend
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
Beautiful Becca! Enjoy your meal! You are so worth it
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Norma ReidAuthor
25 Jun
You as well thank you! I am heading up Island to visit a girlfriend this afternoon for the weekend, it will be fabulous!
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Tropical Fish
26 Jun
Hi there. I was wondering if we could have a session.
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Fox
2 Jul
Yes we could Georgina, just click on “book a private session “
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Fox
2 Jul
Glorious morning or afternoon or evening- whatever it is wherever you are!
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Fox
2 Jul
My apologies for being a couple of minutes late Dash I signed into the online app, and somehow it has changed my info on my phone! It’s as if I’m a brand new person!
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Fox
2 Jul
That makes me think – is it that easy to become a new person? Maybe it is!!! It’s a decision we make in the moment!
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Tropical Fish
2 Jul
Where?!
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Fox
9 Jul
Hello again! Unfortunately I’m still not able to lead a session due to technical difficulties!!!
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Fox
9 Jul
Hopefully this will be fixed by next week! My sincere apologies!!
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HamsterHelper
13 Jul
Norma Tried to schedule again. Hope it worked
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