Hello and welcome!!!
When did he walk out? Literally just now?
Happiness is important. I’ve only ever felt happy in my life once, but that’s gone now. Struggling to bounce back!
And you will, one step at a time!
Yes, We can create our own happiness, it’s an inside job! Sometimes, we try to flip the switch, and it just doesn’t seem to move. But if we just feel a little bit better then we’re on our way.
I remember after my ex and I split being very depressed. One thing that worked really well for me, is I wrote a list of touchstones, things that made me feel good, happy.
I also lost someone important to me. It was the first time I felt happy and accepted in my life! He kept telling me he had never seen me so happy, and that he was too.
For instance, the smell of home baked bread, watching a waterfall, listening to good music, talking with my grand child.
Hello and welcome Becca! Yes, the loss of someone we love is extremely difficult and challenging.
With the end of the relationship comes the end of the hopes and dreams that were created around that.
The good news is, we can and do get through it, one step at a time!
There are several things that we can do that can increase our happiness level even when we’re in the depths of grieving.
I would love you both to start a touch stones list of your own. Grab a paper and pen, or just start typing on your computer, and write down all of those things that bring you joy. Or you can share them here if you like.
I enjoy exercising. I don’t have a lot of time for it around my shifts though
What is one thing you’d like to share that brings you joy
Right on! Exercising is a wonderful thing, it helps us physically and mentally emotionally and spiritually! And it doesn’t have to be for a long time! Even just doing a walk around the block or dancing to your favourite tune! You can even find some cool little five minute exercise videos!
Exercise really does help us! Recent research shows HIIT, high intensity interval training, is amazing at anti aging! As is endurance training.
I really miss exercising! I used to do an hour and a half a day
So, what I did with my list of touchstones, and I’ve had many of my clients do this and it’s worked for them, is put the list on my fridge. Then I took each one and wrote it on a colourful sticky note and posted them up throughout my house. When I was feeling really low, I would read them and choose one and go do it.
So if you were to begin exercising again, what if you started out with even 10 minutes a day three days a week?
I will soon, I’m not allowed to work out at the moment, as I was in an accident and have a head injury. So it’s making handling things difficult as that is usually my coping mechanism
According to a leading brain researcher, Dr. Richard Davidson, he says that based on what we know about neural plasticity, that we can learn happiness and compassion, the same way we can learn anything else.
Oh Becca, I’m glad you are healing! Perhaps not the type of exercise you’re thinking of, but something modified? You may want to check that with your Dr.
When I contacted them, they just told me to refrain from exercise until I’m better. Maybe I can take up seared dancing or something 😂
Happiness is an inside job, we first create it in our minds. Several years ago, a researcher Dr. Candace Peart wrote a book called the molecules of emotion, which showed how our emotions change the chemistry in our bodies
Are you able to walk? There are chair exercises for sure! I I wouldn’t take something up without having it okayed first!
Am Never here
Puppy brothers you are real not a figment of my phone lolol
We’re talking today about creating more happiness in our lives!
So, one of the main things with happiness is that we can improve our happiness levels through conscious choice.
If we want to increase our happiness, it’s important to pay attention to what we’re saying to ourselves and others.
For instance are we beating ourselves up for what we aren’t doing or what we think we should have said or done?
I believe mindset is key to happiness.
And I believe it’s important to be compassionate with ourselves when we’re going through challenging times. Toaccept it is challenging, feel your feelings, but not for too long, then choose to do something that will feel better.
And not beat yourself up for the way you feel
Check out where the emotion is in your body, what it feels like. Then imagine giving it a big hug, letting it know it is seen, then move on!
Set yourself and happiness goal each day, so in the morning right down what you will do for happiness today.
Then when you do it, celebrate!
I am beating myself up at the moment, because I feel stuck in what I’ve lost. But now I can see he was playing mind games with me at times, so I wish I could just shake off all the feelings of missing him, losing out, wanting to talk to him and so on
Yes, seeing you’re caught in the emotions.!
Becca, have you got a good friend or support person?
No one at all
It’s a good practice to look at what’s behind that. So when you want to talk to him for instance, what is it that you’re wanting? Is it support, understanding, connection for example?
Right now it’s support, as i have meetings about my health to go through and I need to discuss it. But also I miss feeling happy, feeling like I had a kind of safety net
When you understand that need that wants to be filled then you can find another way to feel it!
Fill it lol
It sounds like finding a new friend is a great goal for you!
I work very unsociable hours, so I’m finding that very difficult
Thank goodness for Wisdo!
Well, I posted this morning asking advice for my meeting to help me prepare, and my message wasn’t even acknowledged. I find my situation too complex for here, I get the same responses. I’m grateful people try, but when I say I have no time for things around work - as in I wake up, go to work, come home and go to bed (my shifts are really bad) but they keep telling me “do things after work” I just feel like it’s hard for people to grasp my situation
Yes, and doable! I am sure there’s someone else that works crazy hours that’s looking for a friend as well! You may want to brainstorm some ideas around how you might meet others?
Goodness, our time has almost come to an end!
Becca, last week I think you told me how to see the rest of the message. Your messages I am only seeing part of, and when I click on reply which is what I thought you said to do, I’m not seeing the rest of the message! Can someone help me here?
Wisdo has been doing that ever since I joined
Oh my! Let’s hold the intention that there is a positive outcome with your meeting!
Changing our mindset to a more positive one increases our happiness, and it is doable!
Cheers to a great day, and a fabulous week, filled with happiness health worthiness and wealth!
Thank you for spending this hour with me
Good glorious day! Today’s topic- Don’t worry, Be Happy! Let’s create some inner calm! Come join me!