Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Hello, and welcome to today’s online session of Happy, Healthy Worthy Wealthy Refirement! Thank you for joining me on this Good Friday! I’m Norma Reid, I’ve been life coaching professionally since 2004, and feel truly blessed to have met so many amazing people in my life!!! I welcome you to ask whatever you like and share whatever you like! Together let’s make this chapter the best chapter of your life yet!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Just a reminder, if anyone would like a coaching session you just have to click on the coaching link. If you were brought into Wisdo from an insurance company, you are entitled to three free coaching sessions. These sessions can be with three different coaches or just one, whatever you prefer!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Just a reminder, if anyone would like a coaching session you just have to click on the coaching link. If you were brought into Wisdo from an insurance company, you are entitled to three free coaching sessions. These sessions can be with three different coaches or just one, whatever you prefer!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
LOL, sorry about that!The session timed out, so I resent the message and then all three of them showed up! Hopefully the session won’t time out again!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Maybe I’ll make the comments shorter! Not sure why they timed out, as that hasn’t happened in the past!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Good Friday is a special day for me, as that is the day my mom died. She was only 65 when she passed, so I have already surpassed her by two years!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
My mom loved Easter, and always made it a really special occasion, so I felt it was very appropriate for her to pass on good Friday.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I really feel her presence this morning.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Today, I thought I talk about worthiness. Unless someone else has something else they would like to talk about?
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I find that there are ways that I have measured my self worth over the years that are no longer working for me in retirement.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I gained a lot of my worthiness over my work. I loved what I did and realize that I placed a lot of self-worth on my career. I loved teaching, facilitating others in moving forward in their lives. I miss that
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I hadn’t realized that I had measured myself or with when I did, so two years into retirement now, I realize how important that was for me!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I took a little part-time job coaching at a ladies gym, and I enjoy getting out and doing that three afternoons a week. As well I work on call for a college, helping students with learning challenges.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
And of course I still do a bit of coaching.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Good morning Mary, thank you for joining me!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Another way that I measured my self-worth was through my appearance, I’ve noticed that I always feel better when I’m thinner than when I’m thicker! When I am overweight, I tend to be really hard on myself! With getting older, it’s not so much about the weight anymore, But sometimes when I look in the mirror I am shocked at the old woman with lots of wrinkles staring back at me!
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
I have found that true also.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Yes, this growing older can be a challenge for us mentally and emotionally as well as physically!!!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Another way that people often measure they’re worth us on their net worth, and that’s another challenge with retirement – wondering if we’re going to outlive our retirement savings
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
True!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Often times we determine our worth by our friendships, our relationships. And that has been a challenge for many during this Covid time. And also in ‘normal’ times when we may not see as many people as we did when working.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
So I think it’s important to really take a look at how we’re going to determine or redefine how we measure our worthiness.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
So how do we do that?
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
Thank goodness for technology.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Yes, Technology has been a godsend during this Covid time! Zoom and other platforms have really helped bring people together! I started a weekly zoom call with some of my friends, and it has brought us all closer together! Most of them didn’t know each other before and they have become soul sisters!
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
Technology
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
According to psychology today, they state “ The genuine appreciation of our worthiness and quality depends on our achieving the state of what I call the four B’s: being, belonging, believing and benevolence.”
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
They define Being (personal) as: “ people with a sense of being have a sense of inner peace and self-acceptance, and feel grounded and at ease. They are grateful for who they have become and how they’ve acted with others. they have a realistic self image in that they’re aware of their faults and limitations. They appreciate themselves in spite of their mistakes, imperfections, and yes, physical and emotional scars. They’ve been caring and generous to others and have redeemed and forgiven themselves.”
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
The define belonging(social) as: “ people with a sense of belonging are members of at least one group or community that is important to them, where they feel like they’re appreciated, and they reciprocate those feelings. This could be a family, a congregation, club, gang, team, platoon, or other community. Members feel an organic affiliation and comfort with others who share values and traditions, and provide support, respect, and friendship. These relationships prevent the anxieties of loneliness, provide pleasure and enhance life. The warm glow of belonging contributes to physical and emotional health, and quality of life.”
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
The third B they talk about is believing (ethical/spiritual): “A sense of believing refers to guiding values and ethics of behavior. Millions of people venerate a God who gives some comfort and hope, and provides a set of moral rules for their conduct. But one need not believe in a supreme being to be ethical. Religious followers are no more principles or compassionate than agnostics and easiest. What is critically important to human beans is there need to believe in a system of moral principles and civil behavior. When we adhere to principles based on religion, or humanism, or other humane social philosophy, our lives are more meaningful, in times of joy as well as pain. When we humans wonder about issues beyond every day materialism, and Orion all about how minuscule we are in the millions of universes, we are removed from the fray and transported to a spiritual realm.”
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
The final B is benevolence: “a sense of benevolence is an awareness of how kind and generous we have been, or the positive effects we have had on others. Benevolence is a culmination of the other bs. Our personal legacies are best represented by our acts of decency and caring to each other. Notwithstanding our history of aggression and violence, we humans are genetically predisposed to be helpful to others in need. We can also learn to behave with more tolerance and generosity. The kindness and goodness we bestow to others throughout our lives is the essence of a sense of benevolence.”
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I see these four Bs as a much deeper way to evaluate or measure our worth!
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
Very helpful
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
So whether it’s these four Bs, or something else that we determine, it’s reevaluating how we determine our worth, and remembering even when we see the wrinkled person in the mirror, that we are worthy, we are enough. Changing the old story to a new one!
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
Thank you!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Being authentically who you are, and living each day the best we can, appreciating this incredible life that we are blessed to live, supporting others as well, with our kindness and generosity. Sounds like a great way to measure our self-worth to me!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
You are very welcome Mary, I am glad you found it helpful!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Any questions, or anything you’re wondering about?
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
No, I will reevaluate how I see myself. This has really helped. Thank you ☺️
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I wish you a very happy Easter! 🐣Happy Easter, happy spring, 💐happy happy everything!🙂
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
My pleasure Mary! If you’d like some support with that, feel free to book a session with me!
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ChestnutHelper
2 Apr
So true. See you next time.
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
I look forward to it!
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Norma ReidAuthor
2 Apr
Thanks so much for joining me!
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