Hey there! I’m baack, got the technical issues sorted out, thanks Wisdo!
And that is really what we’re stores about, yes?
It could be retirement Andrea! So using that as an example, I found after a year of retirement, travel and play, that I was feeling purposeless.
And also quite a bit broker than I thought I’d be lol!
Definitely broke Which is depressing
And have had a ton of fun helping people find peace, joy, fulfilment etc.
Definitely broke. Scary, too.
Yes, I found that too Sheila and Andrea, and slipped into that spiral downward. Then I started looking at other possibilities and ways of living, started affirming what it was I wanted, visioning it, and creating it.
I know affirmations sound corny, but they truly do work if you use them!
I used them a lot when I was homeless. Every time I felt hopeless and like giving up, I would say one and feel determined
You may not get exactly what you want but if you’re open to possibilities, you may be surprised at what will unfold!
Yes! Do you recall the information you’d use Becca?
The one that sticks in my mind the most is “hard work now, rewards later”. That’s when I was working two jobs, six days a week and it would get overwhelming
I know living costs can be scary in retirement. I live in one of the highest rent places in Canada. Rents have increased drastically over the last couple of years, but my pensions haven’t!
Please explain “affirmations”. How is it used? Even as a teacher of English to second language students, I don’t understand.
Affirmations are a statement you can use to keep you moving forward, towards a goal. Or something positive for people with anxiety and depression to repeat in times of difficulty. They can be used in a lot more circumstances, but those are the two I relate to
Yes exactly, with covid everything has skyrocketed
I got creative Andrea! I posted on Facebook a bit about me, what I was looking for and what I was willing to pay, and let people know and ended up with a great garden suite for half what it would cost others!
Sure, affirmations are positive thoughts that we say to ourselves. So for instance, “I am confident I will find a beautiful home at a price I can afford”
Before I went back to work as a teacher, I was working 2 4hour jobs plus closing at our small convenience store. Always tired. I only saw my kids while I was working at school in the guidance office.
Or I am confident in my ability to create love and abundance in my life!
Oh I like that, that’s something I need to work on
Great definition Becca!
When we get stuck in that negative belief that things are too expensive and there’s nothing to find that’s affordable, it closes us up to seeing other possibilities. And when we start affirming that the ideal place is out there for me at the ideal rent, we start feeling more hopeful, and our worry system of the brain calms down. That opens up the executive functioning part of the brain that helps us think of other possibilities and ways of doing things.
Just last night while I was working on my budget, I’ve decided that I have to stop eating out on Sunday evening with my group of single, older women and my monthly meals with my high school friend who is also single. I hate to have to do that because that’s what is keeping me sane. But sometimes, the budget has to be the dictator.
SHEILA, I hear you! We do have to take a look at our budget and what we can do! Maybe it’s joining the group and having a nappy or dessert!
So, for instance sharing a bit about you and what you’re looking for in your social media, posting a note at your local gym or other place to hang out. I even got creative, and started sending out emails to new rental apartment buildings, And asked if they were allocating any apartments for lower rents. And one gorgeous apartment actually was!
I had a few people on Facebook comment that I’d never find anything for what I wanted to pay, then I had other people really stories of how that’s exactly how they found some thing, and had several people contact me with places to rent at the price I wanted to pay.
In June, I went on Facebook to sell some things. Big items for me - like asking $50 for a metal detector that my husband probably used twice. I was surprised with what I was able to sell. But now I’m right back down to ziltch.
Good for you for being creative and selling some items! Can you maybe see if you can get some other creative ways on how to generate more income?
A lot of retirees take a little part-time job. Some for the finances, and many just for the pleasure of having a routine and something to do and being with people!
My next step is going to be giving up my cable tv. If I can keep my internet, I should be able to watch the things I want to see online. Right?
I don’t have a TV at all, I watch everything online
It can be very dark if we’re stuck in what is the present and not seeing hope for the future. It’s really important to have faith that all will unfold beautifully. And then be open to possibilities!
Great idea About the cable! I gave up TV back in 2003, not because I couldn’t afford it, but I just didn’t want to spend my life in front of the TV! With the Internet I can choose what I want to watch. I haven’t missed cable at all.
I had gone back to subbing at the elementary in April of 2019. But then CoVid happened and I wasn’t able to sub from February 2020 on. Partly because of my health - asthma and heart issues, but also because my kids didn’t think it was a good idea. I’ve spoken to the school secretary, and she has put me back on the list for next school year. If I could work just 3 days per month, I’d be thrilled.
I’ve talked about setting a morning routine several times before, and I can’t stress it enough. I know when I follow my morning routine I feel a lot more positive, and take action steps toward what I am looking to create. I start my morning routine with journaling. I write whatever comes to mind, sometimes just for a couple of minutes sometimes for half an hour. It doesn’t matter how long it is!
Then I affirm what it is I’m working on changing or creating.
That’s awesome SHEILA, I’m happy for you!
I’m not sure why your name keeps capitalizing for me, but it does
I work 8 to 12 hours a week coaching at a ladies gym and absolutely love it! It gives me connection, purpose, plus a bit of cash, so financial freedom!!!
I don’t journal per se, but a dear friend who is 13 years older than I am, send each other long, long texts nearly every day about “whatever”. So I tell my kids that if they ever want to know what I’ve been up to, they could just read my Janice texts.
Getting back to the morning routine, another thing that I do every morning when I’m journalling is write about three good things that happened the day before. Or you could do it the night of! I just find it’s a wonderful way to start my morning, as I recall three good things that happened the day before and it sets me in the mood for good things to happen today!
I’m a member of a forum, and I started a thread there called “three positives from your day” and encourage people to come up with three, especially on the worst days. Sometimes it can be something as simple as enjoying a song on a the radio! I think it’s important not to get caught up in the negative
I also like to send an intention for the day, and an action step to take toward what it is I’m wanting to create.
I’ve been dominating the conversation. I’ll let you get back to what you had planned. Sorry.
Having someone to share with every morning is awesome! There’s a bit of accountability there, so if you use it for positive rather than complaining, it’s a really super healthy tool
I absolutely try to be as positive as I can be because my friend often isn’t.
Becca, love the thread you started!!! Can’t see all you wrote though!
LOL, have you heard of the 30 day complaint free challenge? It might be something to invite your friend to do with you!
Complaining and worrying take us further down the hole, we need to build ourselves up so we can feel good and cress as te the life we desire!
Changing my life (or planting the seeds, anyway) is what I hope to achieve with my time off
Time to grab a pen and paper and let yourself dream Becca! Don’t worry about the how, first get clear on what you want. Then trust, have faith and take action! Affirmative action!!!
I am worried about staying focused, and achieving what I need to
With the three good things, in the science of happiness course I took, it said it’s important to write down why it’s a good thing as well!
You mean with your time off?
Yes, I can get depressed when isolated for too long
Maybe next week we could talk about focus and taking action, as we are already at the end of this hour! This flew by!
This time next week I will only have two shifts left - hard to believe it’s coming so soon!
Thanks so much for joining me today! It’s been great fun! I hope to see you next week! Wishing you a happy, healthy, worthy, wealthy, day, week, and life!💝💖💫
Have a good week
Exciting times Becca!!