Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Hi there! I hope you will join me for today’s session on “changing those habits that keep you from happiness” starting now!!!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
LOL, I meant to send that as a message but instead started the session!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Anyhow I thought today we talk about the habits that get in the way of our happiness!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
I’d love for you to share what habit you have that prevents your happiness, and if you don’t feel like sharing, I’ll share a few common ones!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
And how to change them!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
A big habit is negative thoughts, allowing them to squash our happiness. Our past does play a huge role in how we think. And if you’ve adopted that, “ I’m doomed, happiness isn’t for me”
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
Hi Norma. I have a procrastination habit. Working on changing it but still if Zi can lug it off I will.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Thought, you can change it by ‘reframing’.
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
Put it off
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Hi Shelley, welcome!!! Yes, procrastination is a big one for many of us!
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
I’ve tried setting goals but end up changing them.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
so, how could we refrain that procrastination? Maybe it’s looking at procrastination as the timing isn’t right yet, or I need some more information, or what support do I need in order to move forward with this?
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Reframe not refrain! Lol darned autocorrect!
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
I underestimate how long something will take, put it off then rush and stress to get it done
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
I hear you! So it’s about creating a strategy that will serve you – such as giving yourself twice as much time as you think something will take to do! For some, that rush and stress at the end adds a little exhilaration! That would be me, I like deadlines and time frames because then I actually get things done!😁
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
It’s a bad habit. Things that are really important I make myself do like Dr appts and such, but like wrapping Christmas presents, I don’t really like to do it so I wait and wait then Christmas Eve I’m up too late.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Sometimes, the time that we take when we’re ‘putting it off’ it’s time where we’re thinking about what it is that we need to do!
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
Maybe it’s just stuff I don’t like😀
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Ah dear, I hear you loud and clear!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
So maybe it’s setting yourself a reward when you do what you don’t really like doing! For instance, setting a time to do it and giving yourself a reward like watching a movie, or having a bubble bath etc. after you complete the task!
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
Well goal setting and rewards works for many things perhaps like you said reframe it.
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HamsterCoach
30 Apr
Carrot and stick. I like that. I think I’ll try that with cleaning house this werkend. That was a typo but since I’ll be cleaning house it will be a Workend. Thanks
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Lol love it! For me, with housework it’s remembering how good it feels when my house is shiny clean! That gets me motivated to get ‘er done! That’s the 🥕!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
AnOther bad thought habits that can get in the way of success is all-or- nothing thinking!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
An example, is, “I’ll never be happy” or “I always put things off”
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Always and never are the keywords in all or nothing thinking.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
So reframing comes in here! What’s a reframe for “ i’ll never be happy”?
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
perhaps it’s” lots of people go from unhappy to it happy, I can learn some new habits”!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
I think mental habits are ones that people give up easily on attempting to change, because they want instant results! The more doom and gloom, or negativity, or powerlessness that’s engrained into us longer it may take to break the response, create new neural pathways. Yet, if we do take the actions- eventually change happens
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
A habit that’s good to cultivate is allowing yourself to feel whatever emotion you are feeling. To embrace it, and then to let it go.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
So, for example, when you feel fear, saying”Fear and you are welcome here!” Then letting the feeling wash over you, and then MoveOn, and allow love you.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
That was allow love in!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
I think sometimes we become impatient when happiness doesn’t come right away, or a habit doesn’t seem to be working, and we’re not getting the results we want.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Yet, if we just develop the habit of telling ourselves, “everything’s working out perfectly,” we create more peace and happiness within.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
And isn’t that ultimately what we want to experience?
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Alrighty, another bad habit is asking ourselves questions that start with Why.
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Why didn’t I do that for example or why do I procrastinate?
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Why questions often make us feel helpless, or guilty or shamed. So asking ourselves questions that start with what or how can remedy that!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
So rather than “why did I say that?”, You could ask yourself, “what could I say next time that will evoke a different response?”
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
More empowering, puts you in a place of power!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Alrighty then, we’re at the end of the hour!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
I hope you found this beneficial. Wishing you a day filled with happiness, a life where you feel happy, healthy, worthy and wealthy!
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Norma ReidAuthor
30 Apr
Chow for now!!💜
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