Hi there! I hope you will join me for today’s session on “changing those habits that keep you from happiness” starting now!!!
LOL, I meant to send that as a message but instead started the session!
Anyhow I thought today we talk about the habits that get in the way of our happiness!
I’d love for you to share what habit you have that prevents your happiness, and if you don’t feel like sharing, I’ll share a few common ones!
And how to change them!
A big habit is negative thoughts, allowing them to squash our happiness. Our past does play a huge role in how we think. And if you’ve adopted that, “ I’m doomed, happiness isn’t for me”
Hi Norma. I have a procrastination habit. Working on changing it but still if Zi can lug it off I will.
Thought, you can change it by ‘reframing’.
Put it off
Hi Shelley, welcome!!! Yes, procrastination is a big one for many of us!
I’ve tried setting goals but end up changing them.
so, how could we refrain that procrastination? Maybe it’s looking at procrastination as the timing isn’t right yet, or I need some more information, or what support do I need in order to move forward with this?
Reframe not refrain! Lol darned autocorrect!
I underestimate how long something will take, put it off then rush and stress to get it done
I hear you! So it’s about creating a strategy that will serve you – such as giving yourself twice as much time as you think something will take to do! For some, that rush and stress at the end adds a little exhilaration! That would be me, I like deadlines and time frames because then I actually get things done!😁
It’s a bad habit. Things that are really important I make myself do like Dr appts and such, but like wrapping Christmas presents, I don’t really like to do it so I wait and wait then Christmas Eve I’m up too late.
Sometimes, the time that we take when we’re ‘putting it off’ it’s time where we’re thinking about what it is that we need to do!
Maybe it’s just stuff I don’t like😀
Ah dear, I hear you loud and clear!
So maybe it’s setting yourself a reward when you do what you don’t really like doing! For instance, setting a time to do it and giving yourself a reward like watching a movie, or having a bubble bath etc. after you complete the task!
Well goal setting and rewards works for many things perhaps like you said reframe it.
Carrot and stick. I like that. I think I’ll try that with cleaning house this werkend. That was a typo but since I’ll be cleaning house it will be a Workend. Thanks
Lol love it! For me, with housework it’s remembering how good it feels when my house is shiny clean! That gets me motivated to get ‘er done! That’s the 🥕!
AnOther bad thought habits that can get in the way of success is all-or- nothing thinking!
An example, is, “I’ll never be happy” or “I always put things off”
Always and never are the keywords in all or nothing thinking.
So reframing comes in here! What’s a reframe for “ i’ll never be happy”?
perhaps it’s” lots of people go from unhappy to it happy, I can learn some new habits”!
I think mental habits are ones that people give up easily on attempting to change, because they want instant results! The more doom and gloom, or negativity, or powerlessness that’s engrained into us longer it may take to break the response, create new neural pathways. Yet, if we do take the actions- eventually change happens
A habit that’s good to cultivate is allowing yourself to feel whatever emotion you are feeling. To embrace it, and then to let it go.
So, for example, when you feel fear, saying”Fear and you are welcome here!” Then letting the feeling wash over you, and then MoveOn, and allow love you.
That was allow love in!
I think sometimes we become impatient when happiness doesn’t come right away, or a habit doesn’t seem to be working, and we’re not getting the results we want.
Yet, if we just develop the habit of telling ourselves, “everything’s working out perfectly,” we create more peace and happiness within.
And isn’t that ultimately what we want to experience?
Alrighty, another bad habit is asking ourselves questions that start with Why.
Why didn’t I do that for example or why do I procrastinate?
Why questions often make us feel helpless, or guilty or shamed. So asking ourselves questions that start with what or how can remedy that!
So rather than “why did I say that?”, You could ask yourself, “what could I say next time that will evoke a different response?”
More empowering, puts you in a place of power!
Alrighty then, we’re at the end of the hour!
I hope you found this beneficial. Wishing you a day filled with happiness, a life where you feel happy, healthy, worthy and wealthy!
Chow for now!!💜