Oh my gosh! I was posting somewhere, but it wasn’t on this thread!!! Is anybody here?
LOL, this is too funny! I sent out a video somewhere and then started the chat under the video! I have no idea where that is!
So, I will start over again! Welcome to today’s session on self-love – specifically on forgiveness.
Said U r doing a sessions now ?
This month I’ve been talking about self-love because I believe it is the key to living a fulfilling life. Last week, I spoke about the three top areas I believe we need to embrace for self-love. They are self compassion, self acceptance, and self-care
Today I am going to talk about forgiveness, because I believe that’s a huge part of self acceptance and self-love
Welcome Sharon and Lois! I’m hoping you’re both still here! My apologies – I have no idea where I started this chat!
I think what I will do is read the section on forgiveness from my book to you. If you have any questions, or comments, speak up!! I’ll stop whatever I’m doing and respond to you as soon as I see them.
I’m still here
‘ forgiveness is just another word for peace in the language of the soul.’ It’s a quote by Neil Donald Walsh that I love.
The benefits of forgiveness are well documented, including better Health, increased income and weight loss. Forgive yourself and others, release the anger, shame and resentments, the’ could haves’ ’ should haves’ and the guilt.
they don’t serve you; they keep you stuck in a dark dense energy. Forgiveness is a decision you make to ultimately take back your power.
When you’re holding resentment not only do you play the victim role but you give your power to that person. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to become friends with them again or invite them back into your life. It’s simply the willingness to let go of the negative emotions which you relive when you think of them in order to claim your own inner strength, resilience and light
How do you do that? I think I have forgiven, and let go of the anger and resentment
When you open yourself to your light, you open yourself up to greater love and authenticity. When you take your power back, there ain’t nothing that’s gonna stop you, Wondrous Woman!
I remember watching James Rey on Oprah a few years back, speaking about how forgiveness is saying thank you for giving me, and highlighting whatever you gained from the relationship. Then you choose what you do with that wisdom. It’s a golden opportunity to learn from the past, to create a future even more wonderful than you can imagine. When you let go of resentment and anger, you open the door for love and joy.
I would love to hear your thoughts on that
OK, I’ll continue reading from my book.
Some people hold on to anger and resentment for years. Perhaps you wouldn’t know what to do if they didn’t have it. It’s another way of staying stuck in the past instead of enjoying the beauty of the present. My mom was an example of that; she spent a lot of her last year’s remembering the mini horrors of her life, instead of leaving them behind and creating more pleasing stories
First, take a fearless inventory. See your part in what happened. Then let go. Let go of the hurt the guilt the anger the shame and the resentment you’re harboring.
In the beginning you may have believed Mr. wrong victimized you, ultimately you realize that this is about experiencing yourself. You were with him because energetically U2 are a match and until you learn the lesson and change yourself, it’s highly likely you will meet and fall in love with another Mr. Wrong.
Look for what you learned about yourself in a relationship – the positive aspects and the parts you need to forgive. No beating yourself up for what you did or didn’t do - self compassion, girlfriend!
Be curious and identify what you may want to change in yourself, as well as how you want to be in the world. This is another beautiful personal growth opportunity.
For example, the positive aspects I didn’t want to change about me with my last Mr. wrong or my deep love and appreciation for nature. If I hadn’t been with him, I wouldn’t have spent as much time on the ocean or in the woods, experiencing the profound beauty that surrounds us, and gaining a deeper appreciation for life.
I appreciate how I see the beauty and each person and see his or her potential, and I love you and I can be. I discovered how much of an adventure I am, exploring places many people haven’t been. The parts I wanted to forgive about myself and change, including how easily I can give up what I enjoyed to place another, and hell when I kept silent rather than speaking my truth a little piece of my soul died
I learned to practice self-love and self compassion. I learned not to ignore my intuition. I learned that when I spoke my truth, set boundaries and did what I enjoyed, I felt stronger and confident, and he listened.
I got to feel and reveal past hurts that needed to be healed so that more of my beautiful authentic self could surface. I learned to speak my truth in my other relationships, tonight stays silent over the concern that I might hurt someone.
There is no power in the I’ve been done to mentality. Crisis happens because something needs to change. This is about finding the gifts from this relationship with him and yourself. with awareness comes choice. Can do things differently next time, except the way they are or continue the struggle
There are several ways of letting go. I’m sure you’ve heard of Catholic confession; when you go into a small room, tell your sins, the priest says God forgives you, tells you to do several Hail Marys and you walk out feeling absolved. It can be just as easy as that!.
Some other ways are: Byron Katie’s the work, Hale Dwoskins Sedona method
EFT, prayers, writing, Ho’oponopono to name a few.
In 1999 I took father Leo booth’s ‘say yes to life’ course. The daily practice was simple: ask yourself each night, what am I grateful for today? Who do I need to forgive today? And what can I do to make amends? At first you may not notice any difference in how you feel, and if she continue the practice, your strength and your forgiveness muscle.
Eldon Taylor says forgiveness is a simple as seen your mistake, taking responsibility for what you did, making amends, coming to peace with it and moving on.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!
I think perhaps I will end this session with sharing the ho’oponopono prayer. Ho’oponopono is a Hawaiian prayer for forgiveness. Dr. Hew Len Rehabilitated an entire forensic unit using this practice
He never saw his patients. He looked inside himself while reviewing their files and repeated the following for statements:
Please forgive me.
I love you
Check this story out on the Internet, it’s really interesting!
You don’t say the words to the person you want to forgive you think of that person and repeat the four statements in your mind continuously until you feel their beliefs. It doesn’t matter what or where do you see them in or if you only say two or three statements – it’s still works!
I know many people who use Ho’oponopono, Including myself, who have experienced almost instant forgiveness. Try it, you may like it!
Have you tried it Lois?
Alrighty then, I think this concludes today’s session. I hope you found it beneficial, and try the prayer – I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you. Next time you are harbouring resentment with yourself or someone else.
Self forgiveness, self acceptance, self compassion and self-care are what I believe the key components to self love. When we love ourselves, our whole world brightens up!
Wishing you a happy, healthy, worthy, wealthy life!
But then WHAM for no apparent reason it comes back and hits me like a wrecking ball.