i need advice so this guy who went back & forth with me years ago apologised to me this past january & wanted me to know that he changed so i believed him because his apology seemed very real & wasn’t just a plain “i’m sorry” if you get what i’m saying. so anyways my bday was in the beginning of february so he took me out for a drink which was nice then we kept talking for about a week then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. weeks pass then in march he talks to me again & told me the reason why he was mia is because his grandma had covid so he was scared about it, so we talk again. then at the end of march, he took me out which again was nice. about a monthish later (late april), he stopped talking to me again for a bit cause he got in a car accident which was 100% real. he had to take time for himself which makes sense after getting in an accident. so i made him take his time then a few weeks later (middle of may) he was talking to me again. two weeks ago he came over my house for dinner which was nice but i also had anxiety when he was over & he knows i get anxiety so it didn’t bother him. i was nervous cause i wanted everything to be perfect (cause that’s just how i am) & also i was afraid my family was gonna intrude my dinner but like i said he didn’t mind that i was in a funk, he even said so. when he left i made a joke saying “oh are you gonna see me in a few months again?” we both laughed & he promised me that he would see me again soon. last week he started acting distant again, it seems like it’s like that around every time he sees me. he tells me he has mental health problems which i get because i have it too. so when his mental health gets bad he’s very distant towards people which is valid cause i know people who are like that but…it always seems to happen about a week after he sees me?? do you think he’s using it as an excuse & is seeing other people or it’s just a coincidence that it happens those times (excluding the car accident that was actually bad). should i talk to him about it or just wait for him to come back??
I am not sure what he is up too. My thought is if you enjoy the times he is around then keep seing him but dont sit at home and wait. Go out make friends and maybe he will realize what he might lose with you. You are to great to sit waiting. If he is sincere he will maybe try to work on his distance. I wish you luck. It sounds like you enjoy your time together.
This man is showing you his world as it exists with his current mental health issues. If this works for you the writing is on the wall. It is most likely that things will not change much or potentially issues could get worse. Again if that works for you ok. If not friends is best.