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Hi everyone. Just want to let you know that if you are a widow or widower, I am inviting you to my chat group on Fridays at 4. If you were once widowed, and are remarried or in a new relationship, you are also welcome in the group. It is for widows and widowers of all ages and stages. We may all be different, and have different lives, but there are commonalities. I was once a young widow, raising my kids alone for a long time. I have been happily remarried now for many years. I have not forgotten the many challenges.
Tune in tomorrow-Gratitude and Positivity Even in Grief-Widows/Widowers Rebuilding 4PM EST Friday By the way, if you have lost your mother or father and the remaining parent is having a hard time, even if they are not Wisdo members, you might wish to be in the Widows/Widowers Rebuilding group to gain some insight and help them.
I see today that there are 183 members who have joined group, Widows and Widowers Rebuilding! So I have not met most of you and when I do live sessions I have not been able yet to do much more than talking to myself!! I am here to help you set goals and feel better and hopefully less lonely. I am here to give you some tips and tools and to facilitate your sharing them with each other. So please, take a very small risk and come forward here. First introduce yourself and tell us just one thing about why you are here! Welcome. Please don’t be invisible. Come on over if you have lost a spouse or long term partner. The live group is Fridays at 4, Eastern Standard Time, but if you can’t be there live, come over anyway and start reading and interacting.
You don’t have to be a widow or widower to join today’s group chat at 4 in the Widows & Widowers Rebuilding Life group. Today we will talk some about Taking Care of and Loving Yourself More as it relates to going through loss and grief. We will also address things others may wish to discuss if they are widowed.
(one minute read - potentially life changing...) By Author, Kurt Vonnegut: “When I was 15, I spent a month working on an archeological dig. I was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kinds of “getting to know you” questions you ask young people: Do you play sports? What’s your favorite subject? And I told him, no I don’t play any sports. I do theater, I’m in choir, I play the violin and piano, I used to take art classes. And he went WOW. That’s amazing! And I said, “Oh no, but I’m not any good at ANY of them.” And he said something then that I will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: “I don’t think being good at things is the point of doing them. I think you’ve got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all teaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them.” And that honestly changed my life. Because I went from a failure, someone who hadn’t been talented enough at anything to excel, to someone who did things because I enjoyed them. I had been raised in such an achievement-oriented environment, so inundated with the myth of Talent, that I thought it was only worth doing things if you could “Win” at them.”
Widows and Widowers, come participate in my group at 4 PM EST this afternoon. Or pop in and read and post afterwards, if you can’t make it. Today we will talk about the holidays and how to get through them, what to change, what to keep the same. Or we can talk about anything on your heart and mind right now.
widowscoach.com TODAY'S THE DAY, FRIENDS! Come visit and enter the contest. You don't have to be a widow to win, even though it's a site for widows! www.widowscoach.com CONTEST INSTRUCTIONS: It's a site for helping widows, one of the client population I work a lot with, though not exclusively. I am so excited because this will give me an opportunity to help even more people through my work as a Life & Loss Transformation Coach. So here's how to enter.. Step 1: Go to the url or web address of my new site. Go visit and check it out. Step 2: Share the url to my new site on your own Facebook page or pages and tag me in the post. (If you know me, let people know that.) Step 3: Send me an email by contacting me through the new web site in the Contact link on the menu of the site. Tell me a brief story of a significant hardship or obstacle you feel proud of having overcome, or one you would like to overcome. Remember, you don’t need to be a widow to enter. In the subject line of the email message, write Website Launch Contest. I will choose one winner. If I can't decide, I may need to enlist the help of a colleague. The winner will receive an Amazon gift card for $25 and YOUR CHOICE of Dr. Jeff Riggenbach's new self-help book, “The CBT Resilience Journal-21 Days Toward Developing Immunity to Adversity in a Pandemic Era". (I have no affiliation with Dr. Riggenbach) OR a copy of my published poetry collection, "Blooming Beyond Brooklyn-Poems of Roots, Sorrows & Lessons". ****Even if you don’t want to enter the contest, please come take a look when I reveal the site address, and pass on the link to those you know who could benefit, and especially if you know a widowed woman. widowscoach.com
Hello all. Today in Gillian’s corner at 2:00 pm EST we are talking about Character Strengths. How they help make us happier when we use them and decrease depressive symptoms!!
Hi Everyone-I expect to do my group for widows and widowers next Friday, New Year’s Day, at 4 EST. I am hoping people can give me some idea of topics they need help with or would like to discuss. I will collect topics of interest over the next several weeks. Please pop in, even if you can’t do so in real time. Also I hope some people will consider attending even if they have not lost a spouse but know someone who has, so perhaps they can come to understand them better and can help them.
Re: My group on Fridays at 4 EST: Widows and widowers have many unique challenges . I work with many as they deal with grief and loss, yet begin to rebuild their lives and figure out who and how they now want to be. I have found that attitude and determination to make the most of life in spite of the hurt, make all the difference. I don’t only work with those who have lost a spouse. I help a variety of clients find new joy and purpose of rediscover old passions. However, I understand the special challenges of losing a life partner. I can best help those who come to this group if you let me know YOUR challenges and the things you need help with. We can work on some concrete things. Let me know either here, in the group, or via direct message.
Hey everyone. Tomorrow, Friday the 8th of January, at 4 EST, I will have my group session that is normally for widows and widowers . This time it will be a bit different. I invite you to visit even if you have not lost your spouse/partner, no matter how old you are. We will be talking about ways you can help and support someone who has lost a husband or wife or long term partner. So perhaps it is your parent or a friend or another relative who has lost a spouse. Come find out ways you can understand and help them, and perhaps some things that might not he helpful or might even be more upsetting, even if well intended. I remember that when I lost my father, ten months before losing my young husband, I really did not understand what my mother was going through. Only after I, too, became widowed, did I have an inkling. Hope to see you there and if you attend, come with questions. Ask me anything!!
As long as love lasts there will be grief. Grief is forever, but you don’t need to be miserable forever. Make friends with your grief. If you have repressed the loss of a loved one and have carried that for a long time, or lost someone as a child or young adult and were not allowed to talk about it ( allowed by yourself or others) this grief wound may feel raw and tender even 50 yrs later. Now is the time to give this your attention and to let it out. That is one of the things I help people do.
When you enter a new phase of life, it may be scary. You may need some new tools and techniques to deal with the changes, but you will grow along with whatever life offers. A new stage may be just as wonderful, or more wonderful than the previous one. It may be more difficult too, but you have been through bad stuff before, and you'll get through this too. -Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC
Helloooo Wisdonians!! I wanted to stop by and invite you to Gillian’s corner. Today we are discussing purpose ! Do you have one and why you need one. So pack your bags and get ready to hop aboard at 2:00 pm EST
Today at 4 EST, Fri, Jan 15 Are you really ready to start feeling better after death of your spouse or other loved one? Join me today and let’s talk about that.
Tomorrow, Jan 21 at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too. This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward. Come join us, please introduce yourself when there and join the conversation
This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️
On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentine’s Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentine’s Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentine’s Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CLjEZAeggFw/?igshid=707q5z31lbvp. Finally I (and you) can hear the wonderful Dania Dbaibo Darwish speak in English. Dania is someone I am so proud to call a colleague. She is a Clinical Psychologist and Professional Coach in Lebanon. I consider her a Renaissance woman. Hear her speak about her work and particularly about EMDR.
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us if you are ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍 Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Grief will follow us through our lives. That is
So sorry- The last message got messed up so here it is again! Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133
The Platinum Rule. It takes the Golden Rule a few steps further and outside of the very normal thought process of "I think I know what's best for this or that person." But we might not. Asking shows compassion and willingness to understand the other person; whoever they are.
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.
I am re-posting because..well..I screwed the post up the first time. Sorry! I believe in your unique magic & wonder. Do you? You are special beyond measure. We share this journey called life. We are all part of the human family. I wish everyone realized that. We are ALL in this together.
Less stress, more time to enjoy life. Communication and setting boundaries can help. It’s not always easy, but boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Join us at 9am central in Joyful Retirement as we begin a three week discussion into boundaries. This week setting boundaries with your retirement partner and your children. Next week family and friends and week three boundaries with grown children who have not left home or who have moved back in.