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Tropical Fish
8 Nov
Shelley, allow me to be the first to say Welcome to our wonderful community. We are here for you always ❤️ Boaz
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Full Moon
8 Nov
Yeahooo Shelley so great to have you here 💜
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Shelley D
11 Nov
I am beyond happy yo be part of such a helping group. I have been retired for 6 years and as I am quick to recognize nearly as much stuff went wrong as went right as I got ready to retire and made my way through the first year. I love sharing and celebrating wins and working with others. So let’s celebrate and share our joy and also work on those roadblocks together. I’m here for you as I’m sure you will be here for each other. Reach out say Hi and jump on in.
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Full Moon
15 Nov
Hiiiiiiii all 😃😃😃😊
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Shelley D
16 Nov
Hello Everyone. My name is Shelley D. I am a Personal Skills Coach with 8 years experience. I am so happy to be a part of Wisdo and this joyful retirement group. I have been coaching clients with retirement goals that included, loneliness, relationships, volunteering, and health issues, among others. I also have experience helping clients of all ages with communication, relationships, boundaries, goal setting, developing habits, and self confidence and careers. In addition to my coach certification I also have certifications as a mentor and mediator and I have a BA degree in communication. My plans for this group are to take lt wherever you want it to go. It is important, I think, to find joy in each day, I hope we can share how we are finding joy, especially now, during this pandemic. I also hope we can also share any roadblocks that we might be having. If one person is having a difficulty, odds are that someone else is having or has had something similar happen. That’s the beauty of Wisdo you are not alone, ever. Even when it’s the middle of the night in NewYork our Wisdo friends in London are having their morning tea. Many of you are new to Wisdo and perhaps new to the whole idea of this kind of communication. I too am new but I kind of jumped in and I have met so many wonderful people. Everyone is welcome, contribute if you want, ask a question, make a comment on someone’s post, or the just hang back and see how it’s done. You are all welcome and tell the friends you meet we will be meeting here every Monday and they are certainly welcome to join us. Bring your joy! One last thing, if there are additional things you would like to discuss goal setting, purpose, problem solving with me privately, you can click below on “ book a private session “ and it will take you to my calendar. So let’s get started Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. – How do you spend your days? Is it bringing you joy?
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Shelley D
23 Nov
Good Morning. Welcome to Joyful retirement
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Shelley D
30 Nov
Hello. Good Morning and welcome yo Joyful Retirement ! Last week I was able to sit in on a live presentation with Dr. Gill. We were talking about setting goals for retirement and it was a great lead in to this week here at Joyful Retirement as I wanted to talk about something that comes up all the time when I Coach new or about to be new retirees. “So now that you are retired what ya gonna do?” Sound familiar? If you have an answer then maybe you have done some planning. Maybe you have an answer but you didn’t really do any planning. Your have worked a long time to get to retirement. Now what. Well the truth is retirement is not really a destination, it’s another journey. To make this the best journey you can you need a plan. To make that plan you need to think about what you want or simply what are your priorities retirement. Is this something you have considered?
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Shelley D
7 Dec
Hello all it is 9 Am in Texas I am fairly new to being on Wisdo, but I kind of jumped in and I have met so many wonderful people. Everyone is welcome, contribute if you want, ask a question, make a comment on someone’s post, or the just hang back and see how it’s done. You are all welcome and tell the friends you meet we will be meeting here every Monday and they are certainly welcome to join us. One last thing, if there are additional things you would like to discuss goal setting, purpose, problem solving with me privately, you can click below on “ book a private session “ and it will connect you. Ok let’s get started. When I retired I was unhappy for the fist 4 or 5 months. I missed working and I spent a lot of time reaching out to my old coworkers. My life had changed, I was not working, but I wasn’t doing much of anything else either. Even though we are never free from change, we are always free to decide what to do about it. I decided to talk to s few people who had retired and seemed to be doing well. I learned some very good tips on dealing with the change retirement had brought. The best advice was to Make a plan and to be adaptable. If plan A doesn’t work bring out plan B. I began to think about the things that I could do now that I was retired. I made a plan, and one successful activity led to the next and next. Make a plan, set a goal, set a goal plan some steps to get there. Change is inevitable. What are your go to solutions or ideas.
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Shelley D
14 Dec
Several people have contacted me asking about handling stress and keeping the joy in Christmas. My first thought was that it sounds like a tall order, but if we approach this like anything else it should be doable. Priorities. So many times we get the ideal Christmas picture in our mind and over commit, when we can’t do it all make it all or buy it all guilt sets in. Let begin with priorities. What are your real priorities for this Christmas. Are they realistic? Do they include some time for you ?
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Shelley D
21 Dec
Good Morning all I hope this finds you well and having a good day. Once again I’ve had some questions this week about trying to find joy and have less stress during this pandemic especially this month when so many of us will not be doing our usual holiday activities. There is no doubt holidays won’t be the same for most, but can we find some joy and a way to limit stress. As always I say set a goal, make a plan take some steps. My goal is to stay in the present. I like taking life one day at a time because for me difficult periods can seem at least manageable and I can keep stress from overwhelming me when I don’t get washed in worry about all of that unknown lurking stuff. I focus on anything that can bring joy. A funny video. playing Christmas music, watching movies, making a list of friends to call each day, I exercise in the fresh air, because for me, doing something positive or fulfilling makes finding joy a real part of my day and if I’m only dealing with now the stress level is ok. How are you finding joy? How do you dissipate stress?
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Shelley D
4 Jan
I want to close out the hour with this quote. As a life Coach, one of the things I do with my clients is to celebrate their wins. Large or small a step forward is celebrated. Even staying in place Is celebrated. We look ahead to where we are going, but we also acknowledge how far we have come. Every “I can’t do it” is followed by the word YET. I encourage you all to celebrate your wins everyday. You are amazing! Don’t forget If I can help or you would like to talk one on one reach out.
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Shelley D
4 Jan
The New Year is here and we are bombarded with “New Year - New You” everywhere. Maybe you just want to keep being you. Great! Not everyone wants or needs something new. If you are thinking about setting a new goal for yourself, last week we discussed the possibility of making a goal that puts us on a new path, to do new things and say goodbye to old habits, problems, and difficulties. This week we are going to take the first step to making those goals stick. Are you ready to take the first step? Are you planning any charges for the new year? Did you think about priorities and set goals? How did you set these goals? Are they realistic? What steps will you take to be successful ? As we discussed last week it is frustrating to try anything and not succeed. We want to be and strive to be the best person we can be. We hate failure of any kind. It affects our self esteem and can launch us into negative thinking about things that go far beyond our quest for moving ahead. The first step is to make your goal specific. Narrow enough to see a path to succeed and broad enough to encourage your efforts. What SPECIFICALLY do you want to accomplish. “ I want a better job” is not specific enough. “I want a job that pays x and challenges me”. is more specific. Not only do you know what you are aiming for, you will know when you arrive. Can you share some examples of specific goals, not necessarily yours but just share what you think a specific goal would be. We all want to be happier. Our happiness is up to us. Perhaps realizing that we are enough and celebrating who we are will help with happiness Or, If we have decided that we need to change something and we are working on our specific goal, to make sure our goal is achievable we must also be sure it is realistic. I am not saying don’t reach out to grab your dream. I am saying be realistic. If it’s impossible, you have set your self up to fail. If it’s too easy, you will ha ve failed yourself. Remember one step at a time, keep moving forward and build on successes. Please share if you have an example of building on a success, of setting and meeting a realistic goal and then another and another. Transition and change are never easy. If you are making a transition or a change, in addition to making a specific doable change, keep in mind why? Sara L. Dolan, an associate professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor University in Waco, Texas. Says “when making resolutions, changes, transitions, yes, consider what changes you’d like to make, but also why you want to make them.” What makes you feel committed to reaching your goal? Reminding yourself of the why can help keep you committed. What are your “whys?” These are specific to you. To feel better, to look better, to be healthier, to help people. Your motivations will power you. Would this help you meet your goal.? I want to close out the hour with this Quote. “For once, stop and thank yourself for how far you’ve come. You’ve been trying to make changes in your life and all your effort counts” As a life Coach, one of the things I do with my clients is to celebrate their wins. Large or small a step forward is celebrated. Even staying in place Is celebrated. We look ahead to where we are going, but we also acknowledge how far we have come. Every “I can’t do it” is followed by the word YET. I encourage you all to celebrate your wins everyday. You are amazing! Don’t forget If I can help or you would like to talk one on one reach out.
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Shelley D
11 Jan
Hello Everyone. I’d like to start the new year by introducing myself. My name is Shelley D. I am a Personal Skills Coach with 8 years experience. I am so happy to be a part of Wisdo and this joyful retirement group. I have been coaching clients with retirement goals that included, work, loneliness, relationships, volunteering, and health issues, among others. I also have experience helping clients of all ages with communication, relationships, boundaries, goal setting, developing habits, and self confidence and careers. In addition to my coach certification I also have certifications as a mentor and mediator and I have a BA degree in communication. That’s me how about you? If you are new to Wisdo or perhaps new to the whole idea of this kind of communication, welcome! Please contribute if you want, ask a question, make a comment on someone’s post, or the just hang back and see how it’s done. We will be meeting here every Monday and you are certainly welcome to join us. Anyone want to say Hi and tell us something about yourself?
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Shelley D
18 Jan
I will be participating in the National Day of Service this morning so I won’t be able to join you. We have been working on Smart Goals so I wanted to leave you this and challenge you to think about what new opportunities have opened up since retirement. Think of your own retirement plan and start working on your Smart Goals. See you next week.
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Shelley D
25 Jan
Hello everyone we have spent the past few weeks discussing goals, and achieving goals after retirement. When I say the word “retirement,” what pops into your mind? Is it a vacation or travel? Is it a golf course with friends? Is it time to read or do “projects”? Maybe relaxing with your grandkids? Whatever it is, I hope it’s a happy image. You’ve probably spent years planning, saving, and making money by working hard in your career. Your job may have been your passion, but now is the time to seek out new opportunities. How do we get to those happy images?
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Shelley D
25 Jan
Next week how Roy plans into action.
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Shelley D
25 Jan
How to put plans into action.
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Shelley D
1 Feb
We were going to discuss action plans today, but several people this week have talked to me about happiness. So let’s take time out to talk about laughter. “You don’t stop laughing because you grow older. You grow older because you stop laughing.” Maurice Chevalier As a life Coach I have always tried to keep humor in all I do and some fun with everyone I Coach. I have a group of friends that have been zooming during this pandemic because at some point every few weeks one of us will reach out saying, “ let’s zoom, I need to laugh.” Studies have shown laughter is good for us. It has been suggested that adults only laugh 12-15 times a day while children laugh from 200-400. The message for those of us in the retirement sphere is: laugh more. Laughter can put a ‘damper on the production of stress hormones’. And it releases endorphins—natural pain killers and mood boosters in the body. It also helps you lose weight. The International Journal of Obesity noted that 15 minutes of laughter burns up to 40 calories. 15 minutes a day for a year—depending on the intensity of the laughter, of course—could add up to weight loss of four pounds. Do you think laughter is important? What do you do to keep joy in your life? What could you do more of? Less of?
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Hello, I'm Gwen I'm new to the group. I need to learn how the group works.
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Shelley D
8 Feb
” As you embark on the exciting journey into retirement, you will experience a transition that will be both thrilling and terrifying.” –Olivia Greenwell  One of the hardest transitions for people to make is moving from a life of work to a life of leisure, and choice. Most people are defined by their job. When you meet someone new what is the first question you ask or are asked. “What kind of work do you do?” So you can see the transition is not just retiring from work. It is also transitioning from the work you to the retired you. The transition to retirement is scary for some, for some it is exciting and for others it is difficult. Retirement planning before and after retirement can help you with a path and help with those choices so you can better navigate the new life in front of you it is never too late to set some goals and start planning for a joyful retirement. Are you having or did you have a difficult transition to retirement? Are you finding it hard to be away from work? What are you doing to help with the transition?
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Shelley D
15 Feb
Hello Wisdonians. Last week we started talking about the five stages of retirement. We started with Pre retirement or Gearing up to retire. This week we are talking about the Cheering phase as you first step or transition into retirement. It will help to remember that life has been and continues to be a transition. Retirement is a phase - it is a transition. US census data show there are 47.8 million US citizens age 65 and older, representing 14.9 percent of the total population. According to Gallup’s research, those currently employed project, on average, they’ll retire at age 65 and the average retirement lasts about 18 years. Some people think of the first part of retirement as the honeymoon phase. It might last from a few months to a couple of years. The time when things are new and exciting. Have you experienced this phase? Did you have feelings of excitement, relief, and freedom from the stress and responsibilities of your day-to-day working life. Was there a down side to this phase “Retirement: ma time to enjoy all the things you didn’t have time to do when you worked.” Catherine Pulisfer
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Tropical Fish
15 Feb
Hey Everyone. @james-randono just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Shelley D
22 Feb
Hello Wisdo Friends, Welcome to Joyful Retirement, I am glad you are here. Jump in and participate if you want or just hang back and read along. Let’s get started. We are working on the Stages of Retirement. When you started to consider retirement you probably had lots to consider regarding the transition from work to retirement. Retirement is one of life’s greatest transitions and getting it right is not accidental. Retirees do not adjust all at once to retirement. Instead, retirement happens in stages. We have covered the first two stages of retirement gearing up or pre retirement, and cheering or honeymoon phase. Today we are going to discuss the fearing phase, being afraid you made a mistake by retiring. After the emotional high of retiring and the honeymoon phase is over, many people feel a sense of disappointment as retirement does not meet their expectations. It is not what they thought it would be. Boredom, fear, loneliness, anger, and frustration, are all feelings that can happen during retirement, beginning especially in this phase. People spend so much time looking forward to retirement, and almost always the beginning is great. Once retirement sets in, it can feel less exciting than it was hyped up to be. People often may end up feeling like something is missing in their lives. They are missing purpose. Have you experienced this phase? What did you do? We’re you able to move on or make adjustments?
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Shelley D
1 Mar
Hello wise Wisdo Friends, Welcome. Be sure to jump in and say hello, make a comment or send me a heart if you find something you like. Always glad to hear from you. The number of Americans retiring daily has nearly doubled since the year 2000. Currently, roughly 10,000 people turn 65 each day, the standard age for retirement, according to a Deutsche Bank note published Tuesday. And according to Census forecasts, that number is set to rise. It will reach nearly 12,000 people within the next 10 years. By 2030, according to the Census Bureau, all baby boomers will be older than 65. In less then 10 years there will be more people over 65 then under 18. These statistics are having an impact on many aspects of life. There is a growing need for orthopedic professionals, care facilities, and housing. If you are retired more and more facilities and leisure facilities activities are being aimed at you. Are you in a position to pivot and take advantage of these opportunities. The next phase of retirement is steering phase. Steering your retirement as it evolves. This is often considered the most challenging stage. After you go through that whole “when I retire I’m gonna...”list, you begin to feel a loss of purpose, that thing that launches you out of bed is gone. Have you gotten to this phase yet? How have you taken charge of the loss of purpose. What launches you out of bed?
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2 Mar
Hey Everyone. @mary-leadbetter just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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2 Mar
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Shelley D
8 Mar
Hello Wisdo friends. Welcome to Joyful Retirement. Please chime in and say hello, make a comment if you want to or just hang back and send us a heart if you are so moved. I’m glad you are here. As always you can reach out to me if you have question or if you are interested in some individual coaching. I am happy to help. We have spent the last few week talking about the stages of retirement. Today we are going to talk about the last step, the “reengineering “ step. The final retirement stage may start 15 years of more after the start of your retirement. A time to re-engineer and prioritize simplifying your life. Retirees in this phase have figured out many of the ups and downs they faced at the beginning of retirement. So this sense of being content in their retirement means experiencing less depression and anxiety. Having been retired for 15 or more years retirees finds themselves settled into a fun and rewarding retirement lifestyle, and doing things that make them feel fulfilled. Have you thought about it how your retirement will be in 15 or 20 years? Is your current retirement plan putting you on track for this transition?
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8 Mar
I wish!! But you know what they say about that!
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8 Mar
Hey Everyone. @kim-germond just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!hi im mike
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8 Mar
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Shelley D
15 Mar
Hello Wisdo Friends, So glad you are here. Welcome to Joyful Retirement. I have been retired for 7 years and I hope by fostering these discussions we can make the path a little smoother for others. I am a coach here on Wisdo and If you have questions or if you want to learn more about one on one coaching reach out, I would love to help. In the meantime please participate if you want, or just say hi. You are among friends. We have spent the last few weeks discussing the stages of retirement. Today a brief review of those stages and hopefully a discussion on where you are on the journey and some input on what has gone well and not so well. Also if you have questions, ask! Someone in the group may have the answer. We’re all in this together right. The first phase Gearing Up is the phase before retirement. This is when most people shift their focus from building their careers to focusing on the financial planning aspect of retirement. Just as important Is making sure you have planned for the what now of retirement, not just the how. A majority of retirees don’t usually spend enough time on emotional planning. Setting a goal and planning to make sure you have fun and find purpose in this  transition and on into retirement. Look down the road, what will make you happy and fulfilled? Making lifestyle decisions, such as downsizing to have more financial freedom and the ability to age in place, will help you plan for a more trouble free retirement. This phase usually begins 3-5 years before retirement. The second phase of your retirement is your time to really celebrate and adjust. You have retired! This is the Cheering phase as you first step or transition into retirement. It will help to remember that life has been and continues to be a transition. You have spent many years working toward this moment so don’t expect to know all the right moves in a day or a week or even in 6 months or a year. It might take awhile to settle in and figured out your new routines or relationships. I always encourage setting both short- and long-term goals. This helps with a direction, something to keep you grounded and have something meaningful to look forward to. Some people think of the first part of retirement as the honeymoon phase. It might last from a few months to a couple of years. Did you pre plan retirement so you would have goals and a purpose? Did you retire to something? Have you experienced this “Cheering” phase? If so, do you have advice for others. Have you thought about how you will spend your time so you can feel productive or fulfilled while still doing the things you want.
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20 Mar
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Shelley D
22 Mar
Hello Wisdo Peeps. Great to have you drop by Joyful Retirement. As a life coach I have been working with retired and pre retired people for 9 years. I look at this weekly opportunity in Joyful Retirement as a way to pass on some of the knowledge and information I’ve learned along the way from others and a chance to learn lots of new things from you. So jump on in with a comment or just send us a heart if you are so inclined. If you have question about anything or if you would like to talk about personal one to one coaching reach out. Today we are going to start working on challenges you might have and how to meet them. One of the issues that I have worked on with retired people is turning off their brain so they can sleep. Some people have no problem falling asleep. However, many others have severe difficulty falling and staying asleep through the night. Not sleeping well can effect your memory, your mood, stamina and even digestion. Trusted Source This happens to almost everyone from time to time, but for some it is a real problem. Many people try relaxing by doing meditative breathing, light exercises, using music or nature sounds to soothe them to sleep. Other people swear by warm milk, a long warm bathe, turning down the temperature. In addition to adjusting the light and temperature many people use aromatherapy. Aromatherapy is the use of essential oils. It’s used to help with falling asleep because it may help with relaxation. Have you ever had trouble turning off your brain so you can sleep? What have you tried? What has worked or not worked?
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23 Mar
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Shelley D
29 Mar
Hello again and happy Monday. So glad you stopped by. If you are new to Wisdo or perhaps new to the whole idea of this kind of communication, welcome! My name is Shelley D and I have been a Life Coach for 9 years and I am a coach here on Wisdo. Please contribute if you want, ask a question, make a comment on someone’s post, or just hang back and see how it’s done. We will be meeting here every Monday and you are always welcome to join us. If you ever have a question about Wisdo or would like to find out about one on one coaching, please reach out. Let’s get started. Today we are going to begin talking about one aspect of retirement that can be a blessing : “Retirement: a time to enjoy all the things you never had time to do when you worked." (Catherine Pulisfer) as well as a curse: “The trouble with retirement is you never get the day off.” (Abe Lemons) Our careers provide structure to our lives five days a week, and weekends can be consumed by chores and rest. The cycle starts all over again Monday morning. But once you leave your job for good, there's suddenly a lot of time to fill. Have you truly thought through how you will fill that time in retirement? "Retire from work, but not from life." M.K. Soni Have you found retirement a blessing, a curse or both? Did your retirement plan include a plan for your free time?
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Join me in welcoming Debra to show your support. Reply and say hi 😊
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Shelley D
5 Apr
Hello Wisdo Friends, Glad to have you dropping in for a chat if you are inclined or just send us a heart if you read something you like. We are here to help each other and I am so glad to be a part of such a great group. If you have questions about Wisdo or about private one to one coaching reach out. On to our topic. Last week we talked about how important it was to maintain your social connections Connections with family as well as friends is important but finding something fulfilling gives purpose to your life it is also important to find a balance between activities and relaxing so you can enjoy retirement in the best way possible. But what if retirement turns out to be too easy and you have too much time on your hands? As we discussed when we covered the stages of retirement you need to plan activities for your retirement that are fulfilling and joyful for you do. Retirement gives you more choices for spending your time than before and you certainly don’t have to only pick one thing Retiree Geraldine Watson did her first skydive at the age of 85 and she reported yo Senior Planet that she really loved it and would maybe do it again, but now she was interested in Paris. Did you make a plan to have something to do so you could have joyful days? What will you do? How are you filling your days? What advice do you have for others?
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Shelley D
12 Apr
Welcome to Marvelous Mondays here at Joyful Retirement. So glad you are with me here today. This week we begin working on Boundaries with partner and family. Next week friends, and others we might make commitments to, and the third week“Setting boundaries when adult children have not left or have moved back home” As always please feel free to reach out with questions about our topic, Wisdo or coaching. Perhaps you have a list of all the books you haven't read or movies you want to see again or recipes you want to try. Maybe you have found some old friends on the internet and travel plans are in the works but sometimes even before the ink is dry on your farewell card from work everybody in your life is making plans for your free time. How do you say YES TO YOU without feeling guilt? Maybe you are already over committed and have no me time? It is never too late to set up some boundaries. If you are already drowning in yeses to everyone else, it’s time to make a plan. Whether it’s your children, your friends or others, let’s talk about situations that may need some boundaries set. Are you over committed? Do you find it hard to say no because you don’t want to be mean?
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