Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Hello and welcome, I hope this finds you well and healthy! It’s great to see you and be here on Wisdo. Today’s exercise is something I call Title Reduction. I’d like you to sit comfortably, breath gently, and say “I am” plus your “full title” to yourself. Go ahead and type it here, for example: “I am Michael Eldridge, writer/filmmaker/coach.” As you’re saying that sentence to yourself, think of all the stresses you are under. What’s bothering you now, or what are you worried about for the future? Let your eyes go “soft”. Don’t try to focus on anything, and just check back to these words when you need to. Now say to yourself: “I am…NAME” and let’s see how it feels to drop your title. Now as you breath gently, think of your childhood. Good, bad, doesn’t matter. Then: drop your name. Say to yourself simply: “I am.” How does that feel? Breath a few more breaths, saying “I am” to yourself on each one. How do you feel now?
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
Ok
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Hi there!! 🍁🎃
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
Hi😌
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Hi Spencer. 👍🏼
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
I am Jane/TJ I AM. I feel better and more centered.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Hey guys try the exercise and check in. How’s everyone doing?
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Great. It focused me. Centered.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
This is a technique I use called “bundling”. Our titles carry a lot of stressors and by stripping away the title, or reducing, we can relax and get a break from the “bundle” associated with the words.
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
Affirmed
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DrumHelper
23 Sep 2020
Agreed if for only briefly
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
This was a quick exercise. I’m in a car - parking lot of Target 🎯. Weird place. But some deep breaths can help me anywhere. 👍🏼
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
It’s intended to a be brief centering at first.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Then we build up time and practice. I started using it to work with my panic attacks.
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Bundling. Unbundling. Ok. I’m retired. So my title isn’t part of my identity anymore. Hmmm. Now I’m me. No title.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Think of what you mean to others. Friend, partner, relative. It’s all part of title. Even “retired” is a title.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
It developed over time to a point that when I started to feel them coming on I could say “I AM” very firmly and it helped.
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Yes. This is very good! I need this.
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
I am !
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
We’ve been discussing this a lot in these weeks. We cannot control our thoughts and stressors. BUT!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
They don’t control us either.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
We are in a RELATIONSHIP.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
And any good relationship needs communication, boundaries, ground rules.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
For example: I’m working at losing weight. “I am Michael Eldridge, overweight person.”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
But obsessing on that title only brings me stress. Which gets in the way of daily progress.
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
How do you get social support in a society of people with boundaries that prevent close relationships
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
That a hard one in today’s world I agree.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
So I “bundle” down the stress, the feelings of being overweight, the annoyance at slow weight loss, etc.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
And it makes me happier with myself as I knock off yet another pound 💪🏽
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
I am Tracie/sister/aunt/friend/bipolar lady I am Me I AM.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
If you can: keep repeating I am and then tag it to a certain kind of breath. Through the nose or very deep or with a small sound at the exhale.
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Wait. We can control thought, by how we manage or cope with them? Like when an anxiety thought comes. We can control it by using this exercise. Deep breathing.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Yes. And ask your stress: “do I need you right now?”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
By linking “I AM” to a certain kind of breath, motion, or sound, we strengthen it.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Let mw bring this to the main thread. We all have to watch out for “all or nothing” thinking. I’m not completely succeeding so therefore I’m failing is a common one.
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BearHelper
23 Sep 2020
Black and white conclusions
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
We are all in process. That’s the fact of our existence! Some processes go faster than others but by minding them we are certain to move forward.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Think of yourself about to start a long road trip. You get in the car, turn it on, and pull away.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Your destination is miles ahead.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
After a few minutes do you think: “what a crappy car! I’m not there yet!!”
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DrumHelper
23 Sep 2020
Ok, yrs cause the journey there can be full of beautiful landscape and wonderful surprises
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Or maybe it’s just a long trip. That’s OK. But you’ll be patient with the car yes?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Ya gotta treat yourself better than a car 😀!!
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
After eight years of family law matter and use all four of my children in a high conflict custody battle, and other major life losses, I have difficulty at all or none thinking. Even my counselor said that my isolation has become complete from friends, family, loved ones that simply checked out, became exhausted, fatigue, and put up boundaries. Family law matters over analyze losses in the past, but the loneliness and lack of social support continue. Not enough social support to be empowered to rise above the past trauma of 8 years of child custody hearings, and other life losses along the way. I want to be the amazing man I know I can be. Maybe a life coach to be a dependable friend???
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
That’s hard to deal with, I admire you for sticking through. A coach will be more a sounding board and will provide you with a guide and strategies to get you connected again.
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
I don’t want the social support to be none, but it is right now. I’ve tried everything I know.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
We’re about to reach the end of the hour. Spencer feel free to DM me. I’m happy to do a free Zoom consult later this week with you.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Hey all, thanks for being here. Have a wonderful week!!
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
I’m really new to this, what is a DM?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
23 Sep 2020
Direct message me. And welcome!
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Umbrella
23 Sep 2020
Thanks!!!
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ChestnutHelper
10 Oct
Your name sounds familar I was in the movie industry, here in New Mexico
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ChestnutHelper
10 Oct
Believe me, Ive alot. Past life adversities
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ChestnutHelper
10 Oct
Had
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