Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hello my friends! I’m so honored you decided to join. Today we are talking about safe spaces and how to build them for ourselves. I read a really interesting article on “nostalgia as safe space” recently. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/28/smarter-living/coronavirus-nostalgia.html Take a look and let’s talk: what are your safe spaces in the midst of this crazy 2020, and how do you maintain them?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Anyone traveling over from Career welcome!
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Thank you
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hey! So can we continue I think this might really help.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Here’s the brain chemistry part (yep I’m a nerd). When you’re kicking it into your cart there are PHYSICAL realities. Those we can’t replicate.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Sorry LOL in your car.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
BUT: there are visual cues that drive other responses which are purely about your brain.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
If we can replicate those visual cues- or aural etc- and access them during times of stress, it gives us a little room.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Think of listening to ambient music to go to sleep. Why does it work?
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Cause it bores your brain
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
(Hint: it’s NOT the sound)
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
The sound triggers a part of your brain which is comforted.
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
So still bores my brain to slow down get out of my fight or flight psyche and adrenalin kinky and chill out
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Now this the essential part of my method. We can hijack our stimuli (our phones our stress our email our newsfeed our everything) for our OWN good.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
We are literally wired that way.
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Same with white noise machines they knock me out fast
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Brenda if those stimuli affect you so positively we need to get you a Plotline Video!
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
And oops adrenaline junky
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
LOL me too. White water kayaking.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
So this whole technique comes from the Bad, the Mad, and the BadAss.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
The Bad: tortured and assaulted.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
The Mad: it was horrible and affected me but I hated being limited.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
The BA: used it to propel a 200 film career that taught me the power of visual.
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Like my writing
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
I have 20 videos and 10 soundscapes that I use to hijack my bad days.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Put something else in.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Are those days perfect?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Nope.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
But they are so much better than my bad days of yesterday.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
My current goto LOL
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Awesome
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
I’m not there. But I can close my eyes and hear the wind. A little. Feel the sun. A little. And see her face right in front of me.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
It’s not a solution. It’s not “going to a happy place”. I still have to deal with my life, with 2020. But...
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Ahhhh...a little easier.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
I invite you into this.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
For the above video I keep her ball by my desk. My work can be high stress. I hold it in my hand and watch the video for all of 16 seconds and somehow...
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
My brain gives me a little room. I’m clearer. I think I’m kinder. I hope so. But I did it right before I hopped on with you all, on a high stress day, and I feel focused on you.
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
That is truly inspirational. Thanks for sharing that
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
That’s where I want to be right now.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
(Even if I made you watch a vid of my dog 😅)
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
2 great sessions once again thank you. Stay safe and healthy
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