Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Hello wonderful Wisdo folks! I hope today’s session finds you healthy and well. I’m so honored to have you here. As those of you who have been here before know well, a lot of my coaching work centers around narrative. What stories are we living? What stories are we telling ourselves? Specifically for today: let’s look towards the future. This has been an incredibly hard year on all of us, but there will come a time when things are much easier. Change is inevitable, including positive change. So picture yourself on that day, when you look around and things have changed. When life feels less chaotic, and you’re striding towards your goals. What are you doing on that day? Where are you? Who are you with? What does the world around you look like, sound like? What is your “after” narrative?
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Hello, that's a good question, not all that much will change for me, except being able to go to a nice restaurant
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
This is a technique I use for stress reduction. Picture that restaurant- put yourself there.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
For all of us, the “after” narratives work when they’re specific and attainable.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Mine is my car: packed with good friends.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
My dog 🐕
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Windows down and driving north to the mountains.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
A weekend of friends and kids and cooking and good wine.
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BearHelper
5 Aug 2020
Napa!! A fun get away. Wineries and neat shops.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
That time will come. And closing my eyes and picturing it, feeling it, hearing it, regulates my breathing and helps.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
I invite you all to try and share your after! Be specific! Take us there with you!
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
The restaurant I'd go to is a dimly lit, no jeans allowed, a light jazz pianist playing while sitting and enjoying a delicious dinner with good wine and friends.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
LOL I think I’m at the next table.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Favorite dish?
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BearHelper
5 Aug 2020
Filet with blue cheese, wedge salad. Martini. Asparagus. Or fresh carbonara. In Rome. In the spring. Carpaccio in Venice. Merlot. My future has travel attached to it.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Favorite wine?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
I’m going to have Chilean sea bass. And a glass of Pinot Noir.
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Veal gruyere, a good merlot
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
I do a lot of this kind of work, with video prompts and narrative training, for trauma survivors. The idea of the narrative “to come” can do so much to blunt the difficulty of the Now.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
And: gives us goals 😉. Great side benefit.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Thanks for joining in and try the exercise when you need it. A mental vacation. Just try to hook into your senses. That will help your breathing in turn.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
And...how are you today?
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Eeh. And you?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
I’m doing fine. What’s “Eeh” mean to Brenda 😉
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Just a lot of writing and music. Trying to stay cool in this heat. Taking breaks at work, to maintain my professionalism and sanity
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
That makes me so happy to hear. I’ve been leaning hard into music (writing is every day for me per work). Who are some of your go tos for music?
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Maxwell, collective soul, old matchbox twenty, Rick Braun, Santana, Alice in chains, bocelli
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
A tip for you and for all...have you ever tried Sense Association with music?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Very cool brain “hack”.
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
???
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Put on your music and sit in a comfortable space. But try to “bundle” other senses with sound. Hold an piece of fruit (I love oranges). Hold an ice cold glass of lemonade.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Breath, and if any negative thoughts come in, let the music carry them to a place just a little away.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
They can wait.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Listen. Feel. Taste. Smell.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Creative a web of positive sense associations.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
It’s the inverse of negative bundling. When we’re stressed we might smell things or feel certain ways in our body.
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Sounds good, I'll have to try that if I can make myself just sit still lol
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Or do it walking! I do it walking with a water bottle filled ice.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
That’s our brain at work. Let’s make it work for us!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Mindfulness is CONSCIOUSLY doing anything- breathing, walking, dancing- and using the movement and breath to self soothe.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Not all of us like to sit still. That’s more than OK. That’s your body telling you how s/he prefers to be mindful.
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Yup when the net's creep in the music/dining gets louder and my movements get larger
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
Listen closely to your body!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
5 Aug 2020
OK wonderful people. That wraps up today. Please stay healthy and take care of yourselves. ❤️❤️
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
Thank you. Have a stupendous week.
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DrumHelper
5 Aug 2020
*doll
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BearHelper
5 Aug 2020
Thank you for your time. I connected with this topic. A few things to think about!! 👍🏼 have a great week.
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