Do you find that people actually want open communication? Like they say one thing and then when you openly communicate a concern with them they shut you down and don’t accept it…
I think it's common for us to want conflicting things. We want open communication but equally many of us can get defensive if we feel threatened. It's so complex sometimes.
I think you’re right. Pointing out anything that someone may be doing differently (I hesitate to say wrong) or standing up for yourself immediately invokes a defensive response. I just don’t know how to get around that. Maybe I should work on my approach.
Try asking questions because you are curious. See what results from that. Asking questions help us pause before we speak. It is a way to not tell someone something rather be curious about how you feel about it or they feel about it. Is all you want about LOVE? Come from that space before you open your mouth.
Try asking questions and be aware of your intentions of what you are asking for. What if you ask yourself the same question you are curious of about them?