I'm new to this group. I could share my life story but the present is what is messing me up. I suffer from the consequences of the decisions I’ve made for more than 50 years of adult life. Regret and discontent haunt me. Recent politics has caused much discord in my extended family. A once close family is now fractured and my brother hates me and only communicates with me to share that hate. Otherwise, crickets, as they say. I have a large breed dog I rescued last fall and she loves me but I get hurt everyday because she jumps on me and can also pull me down hard and I bleed from her scratches. My husband also. We are in training but she is still over exuberant. Everyone says she is way too much dog for us. But now we’re all emotionally attached and have a lot of time and money invested. However, I have tried to rehome her but no takers and except for the city (kill) shelter there is no space for her anywhere within 350 miles. I came here for the possibility of friendship and comfort of community.
Hi and welcome to Wisdo. I’m Fi, one of the Guides. If you have any questions, or simply want to chat, please just let me know 😊
I was ready to turn my adopted cat in because of biting which only seemed to get worse. Talk to your vet. If the animal doesn't match your lifestyle, you may not be doing any favors. Vet can give you practical advice, recommend schedules, training, other resources for new homes. I had to rehome a dog years ago. We were in a college town. A student adopted her & he took her everywhere, she had a much better life than i could give her.
It sounds like you and I have lived a very similar story. I have days where the regret is like being run over by a bus and it’s all mixed up with grief. I definitely judge myself for “who I should have been” for so many people I love so dearly when I was being the only person I could have been at the time. I try not to share the “blame” but I am getting better at sharing the “responsibility”. Yes; I am 100% responsible for who I was but so are they. It would have been impossible to be “me” if they weren’t being “them”. We were all doing the best we could with what we had to work with…. (((Hugs)))
As far as the dog goes I’m a die hard dog lover and would love to chat about it if you think it would be helpful. Our Tessa is a rescue and she just goes nuts sometimes because she’s just so dam grateful for the ordinary. Like seriously. It catches her by surprise sometimes that we’re actually feeding her. Again!!!!! She twinkle toes on her tip toes. We adore that girl!!
That is so sweet. I’m keeping my girl, of course. But I do hope a somewhat normal life can be had soon. ✌️