Fighting the blahs Everything else is fine
I am in a toxic relationship I know this she can understand that. She just can't see the toxicity she's been accustomed to past relationships.
I have been trying to keep my head up but it seems I have no one, no family to talk too much less count on. I have been forced to think only for myself. I'm sorry but I see there is no mercy for me nobody has any sympathy therefore I just keep my head above water and I'm trying to be the best I can be. But this relationship is 1 forward 3 backwards. I need to get out of this relationship not healthy in any way besides I carry most of the weight of it.
Hi everyone I thought I ask you some quiz questions. If you know the answer leave it in the comments or message me. 1-What was nationalised in 1956 by Gamal Abdel Nasser? 2-How many pennies were there in a pre-decimal pound? 3-The Reichstag building is in which European city? 4-What was founded by General WIlliam Booth in 1865? 5-Which (U.K.)sitcom character often says the words: 'I don't believe it'?
Feel free to join me today in my weekly live session at 11am PST 👋
Hi all. I hope you will give my “ Perspectives” group a try. It is live today, at 4 pm. We will be sharing our thoughts and feelings about this most difficult holiday season, and then I will teach you some mindfulness skills to help find joy in the moment. Mindfulness can help decrease feelings of stress and anxiety. I hope to see you later.
Hi Wisdoians, If you are free at 4 pm (EST) today, I hope you will drop in to my “Perspectives” group. I am going to chat about “making new friends and keeping the old.” Staying or becoming social is important for all, and even more so during the pandemic and during the retirement years. See you later?!
Hello Wisdonians !! Today in Gillian’s corner we will be discussing meaningful activities and how they contribute to happiness !! Join us at 2:00 pm EST
Hi all. I hope you will join me today at 4 pm for my “ Perspectives” group. Let’s talk about loving kindness meditation, to help decrease stress. See you later?!
Hey everyone. Tomorrow, Friday the 8th of January, at 4 EST, I will have my group session that is normally for widows and widowers . This time it will be a bit different. I invite you to visit even if you have not lost your spouse/partner, no matter how old you are. We will be talking about ways you can help and support someone who has lost a husband or wife or long term partner. So perhaps it is your parent or a friend or another relative who has lost a spouse. Come find out ways you can understand and help them, and perhaps some things that might not he helpful or might even be more upsetting, even if well intended. I remember that when I lost my father, ten months before losing my young husband, I really did not understand what my mother was going through. Only after I, too, became widowed, did I have an inkling. Hope to see you there and if you attend, come with questions. Ask me anything!!
Hi all. I hope you will drop by my group, “Perspectives,” at 4 p.m. today. Let’s discuss how to build or increase resiliency, and decrease stress. See you later?
Today at 4 EST, Fri, Jan 15 Are you really ready to start feeling better after death of your spouse or other loved one? Join me today and let’s talk about that.
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
Hey Everyone. @dennis-chapman just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
Here is an article of mine that might be helpful to some: https://visionpoweredcoaching.com/challenges-death-of-spouse
Retirement is not the end of the road... it's the beginning of the open highway.
Don't act your age in retirement. Act like the inner young person you have always been !
Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too. This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward. Come join us, please introduce yourself when there and join the conversation
Health doesn't always come from medicine. Most of the time it comes from peace of mind, peace in the heart, peace in the soul. It comes from laughter and love 💘
This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️
On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentine’s Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentine’s Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentine’s Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.
#Sparkle in #2021 I have heard people say, “Today wasn’t my day”, or “Last year wasn’t my year”. Things happen, but only your attitude can make a total disaster out of an entire day, week, year, etc. Learn to find the good and to see the lessons. They are always there! Now what will you do to make this year one that brings not only learning, but joy? No matter what has happened to you in the past, you can shift the way you see and do things, when you focus on creating joy and begin to believe in yourself and your goals.-Coach Iris, Vision Powered Coaching
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CLjEZAeggFw/?igshid=707q5z31lbvp. Finally I (and you) can hear the wonderful Dania Dbaibo Darwish speak in English. Dania is someone I am so proud to call a colleague. She is a Clinical Psychologist and Professional Coach in Lebanon. I consider her a Renaissance woman. Hear her speak about her work and particularly about EMDR.
"Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions" Moe Silberzweig
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us if you are ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍 Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Grief will follow us through our lives. That is
So sorry- The last message got messed up so here it is again! Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍
You are NEVER too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.
Retirement is wonderful if you have 2 essentials - much to live on and much to live for.
It’s important that we understand grief, but we must be careful not to use it as an excuse to stop living and working to improve our lives.
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.
A significant component of mental health in retirement is waking up and feeling that your life has purpose. Join us today at 2:00 pm in Gillian’s corner where we will discuss the power of purpose
Article some may find helpful. https:visionpoweredcoaching.com/challenges-death-of-spouse/