Hi everyone 🙋♀️ My 15 y.o. daughter is struggling with depression and self harming behaviors. she quit the first attempt in a clinic after 5 days… now on the waiting list for a day clinic. We have good doctors and good advise, but cannot really help her get through this as she insists that she has to do it her own way. But Stagnation is hard to accept for us parents…
Whats wrong with her way?
Good question… she is quite unstable and not able to go to school or get up in the morning. She cannot really use her room because it is such a mess. We offer to help her to take little steps… not to much at a time. But instead she makes big plans, knowing that it will be impossible to execute them… she sabotages herself in every possible way… So we are basically stuck… But we are still on good terms, talk with each other and all. It is hard to accept that she does not want to be helped.
Have you explored why she might self sabotage? I believe it I linked to low self esteem and acceptance. Can you tackle that with her especially as it seems as tho you are trying to be supportive. Can you ask her how she would tackle her room for example but in smaller chunks? What about suggesting you redecorate together and clear the mess that way?