Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Hello all, I hope this finds you healthy and well. Thanks for joining! Today’s subject is going to be a technique I use for my clients called “sectioning”. We use it for focus, and to allow ourselves to put stresses or different aside in order to live happier and more productive lives. Before we get into the subject—let’s set up the exercise! First, please write one sentence about your current emotional state. Second, write one sentence about what is MOST on your mind right now. Be specific,, e.g., “the paper I have to write,” “my job search,” etc. Write away!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
@dylan-graves could you please take a breath and when you exhale say: “not right now”.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Say it gently.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
No need to yell at your thoughts they’re yours and important.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
But: “not right now.”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
I’m not saying STOP a thinking them. Just ask them to pause for a few minutes.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Thanks so much Michael. I must say many techniques work for me but only temporarily. I have yet to find something that keeps my mind free of worry.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
You’re busy with Wisdo 😉
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Yes! The problem is, right now I’m not anxious, but I can feel physical symptoms, and when I start to dwell on them, I think “how can these appear from nowhere? There must be something wrong”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Yes indeed that’s what sectioning is about. Want to jump in?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
First: can you set a timer for five minutes?
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Setting a timer. Done.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Now:
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
OK now: please find yourself a comfortable position. Try to align your head through your spine to your hips, nice and calm and straight. Supportive.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Breath and on the exhale, bring your hands together, clasp your fingers, and stretch your arms out.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Then breath again.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
On the exhale: arms above.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Breath again: then please stretch your arms and bring them solely to your sides. Let your chest expand.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Nice!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Now say: not right now.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
I’d like to talk to you about something fun. Something you like.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Everything I used to enjoy doesn’t appeal to me anymore. It’s so sad. I love walking. While listening to music. It’s my favourite thing to do.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
If the feelings or thoughts come, just gently say: not right now.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
You can go back to them later.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
What’s your favorite rainy day thing to do? I’m a movie guy. With a bomb late lunch.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
OK let’s start with music. It sucks that it’s not fun right now but it was. What’s your favorite music to listen to when you walked?
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Hmmm. Right now I’m really into alternative music
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
I LOVE walking and daydreaming and music. I like eclectic, anything from EDM to old school swing jazz.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Favorite band I should check out?
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
I think my all time favourite band is Fleetwood Mac!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
They are BRILLIANT.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
U2, guess I gotta agree. I’m from Ireland😅
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
😅 I’m third gen from Skerries. Have to agree too. It’s a national law.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Dylan did your timer go off?
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Oh it did, 4 minutes ago. Got too caught up. Sorry!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
No apologies. Now: let the negative thoughts or sensations come back in. Repeat the same breath - move.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Hands together.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Stretch arms out.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Over head.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Take good “Dylan breaths”.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Okay. Done!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
And then stretching to side expanding chest.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Awesome!! OK pop quiz favorite Max song and why?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Sorry “Mac” as in Fleetwood.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Probably Dreams or Seven Wonders. Seven Wonders because Stevie sang it on American Horror Story - Coven, my favourite show!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Landslide and Tusk in a dead tie for me.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Landslide is iconic
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Such an odd thing. There’s a U2 song, Sweetest Thing. I understand it now. When I first heard it I was breaking up with someone. Now it makes me happy.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
I actually think when I listened to a song last night, I started getting a little depressed. Since then I’ve been really unstable. Music can really affect you.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
“You know I got black eyes but they burn/so brightly for her”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
My eyes might be black but they can still burn with love.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
I love it!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Takes more than a punch or two to knock love outta me.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
OK your turn: song that makes you happiest, lyric example if you please 😉
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
I think a song that makes happiest would be More than Enough by Alina Baraz. My favourite lyric is “second I’m with you all my love pour out. Serve it on a platter, all that really matters, all they really matters is you keep showing up, promise I’ll remind you that you are more than enough”
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Putting Baraz on my Spotify right now.
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Oh you need to. She has made me feel so calm over the years.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Now: have the tougher thoughts and sensations receded for the last twenty minutes?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Even a little!
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Actually yes they have. My tongue has been burning and tingling for weeks and it feels less painful now!💜
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
THIS is sectioning. Our thoughts are ours. While I would never suggest we can COMPLETELY control them, if we can take a moment and decide- “not right now”- we can ask them to move aside. Maybe for five minutes. Maybe longer. The breath and movement activate a number of physiological aspects to help us with moving them. And with practice: this become muscle memory. When you breath and make your “sectioning” movement—your brain says, “OK, time to focus elsewhere.”
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
That’s extremely helpful. I feel like this was such a great talk!
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Like if I tossed you ball right now- your hand would move to catch it. Muscle memory.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Practice this whenever you want to move from one part of the day or task to another. I do it at ten times a day 😉
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SunHelper
24 Jun 2020
Amazing thank you Michael. Can we arrange a private session at some point?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
24 Jun 2020
Thanks for being here!! I’m opening up my next AMA hop over if you want!!
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