Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hello my friends! I’m so honored you decided to join. Today we are talking about safe spaces and how to build them for ourselves. I read a really interesting article on “nostalgia as safe space” recently. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/28/smarter-living/coronavirus-nostalgia.html Take a look and let’s talk: what are your safe spaces in the midst of this crazy 2020, and how do you maintain them?
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Panda
29 Jul 2020
I like sitting on my front porch in a comfy chair to sit back, relax, and work on self help books. I also love rocking my son to sleep and I find that very comforting.
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PopcornGuide
29 Jul 2020
Sounds perfect. What a lovely way to relax 😁
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
How old is your son?
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Panda
29 Jul 2020
He’ll be 9 months the beginning of next month
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
One of the things I’ve learned while working with my trauma is the importance of creating physical “safe spaces”. Could be my bathtub. My bed. Or @rach-ann chair.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Muscle memory is a very powerful tool. @warren-g-1 where is your comfort zone?
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PopcornGuide
29 Jul 2020
My home with my family. It’s always felt safe here and I hope I make it feel safe for the rest of my family too
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Hello Michael. My physical safe place is my car.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hi! I love that space too; driving or just relaxing in the seat?
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PineappleHelper
29 Jul 2020
Hi there. For me, it’s probably getting changed into my pyjamas and watching my favourite movie. It comforts me and I feel cosy and safe.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hey guys taking this to main thread. So: these physical spaces are crucial. Of course. But they are also built from thought. We can take them- literally- anywhere.
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Panda
29 Jul 2020
Like just close our eyes and think about the comfort places?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
This is it.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
@rach-ann unfortunately not that simple. But: it’s about training our minds to put the same feelings back to us when we need them.
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
Awefully hard to do, take my keys away and it's a full panic attack and I'm kicking ads to get them back
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Your chair; the car. My Swiss Army knife. They are all objects with mental associations. That means they can also be thoughts, if we can replicate.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Take a moment today and really go deep with your senses on your comfort place.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
For all of us who have been through trauma, either our current one or past, please know our brains were trained to respond with such force.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
That is actually healthy. I was severely and horribly abused. My brain immediately sends a signal when someone is like that.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
BUT: it also sends signals when I don’t need it. When life is calm. Or I’m in a good space.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
We need to train our brains to send different signals. When we need them.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
When we need relief.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
In my practice I build videos, sound scapes, etc for my clients. For that relief.
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
We all need it from time to time. Why not use our favorite places?
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DrumHelper
29 Jul 2020
I'd when my anxiety is over the top I go for either a country drive or find someone to street race. Usually helps
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
“Mindfulness” has become an industry. Sit here. Chant this. Do itfor XX minutes. What if mindfulness was simply being able to replicate your own comfort?
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Michael EldridgeAuthor
29 Jul 2020
Hey guys travel over to Life Past Trauma if you want to continue. Apologies for the repeated prompt 😉
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