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Tennis
3 Jun
Not doing good today. I had a mmc in march....it started on my 1st's bday. I should be 18 weeks this week and feeling kicks and movement. And all I feel is empty and alone.
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Guitar
5 Jun
Here if anyone needs chat 🌺🌺🌺
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frisbee
5 Jun
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Guitar
6 Jun
Here if anyone needs chat ❤️❤️❤️
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frisbee
7 Jun
🌹🌹🌹PMA Post 🌹🌹🌹 How’s everyone’s doing? Always remember no matter what you are going through there is someone here to chat to.
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Lemon
7 Jun
I feel so lost. I had an abortion and I don’t know how to cope. I feel so much regret, I just wish I never let go 😔
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Tennis
10 Jun
Did anyone else experience extreme migraines after mc?
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Maple Leaf
11 Jun
I feel so empty, I was told today that I might never be able to carry a baby full term, I can't imagine my life without a baby😭 losing my baby was hard enough but now never being able to have one is breaking me
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Maple Leaf
13 Jun
Feeling so sad and emotional drained....lm having miscarriage atm. l would like to pass it naturally (starting to think it might not happen this way). Description warning might offend some- i started spotting on the 31st may and that went on for a few days ; then on and off from bright red blood to dark red and heavy with clots (stopping over night - every few days to when l stand up in the morning its runny down my legs dark again) .....l blame my age mostly as l really wanted one last child lm 44 (l know thats to old l hear it all the time) lve never had a miscarriage and truthfully l am scared so much .... l was 2mths and l hadnt even got to share my news with anyone - usually l cant keep a secret but deep down lm glad l waited as it would have broken hubbys heart and my kids if l have told them. l haven't got the heart to tell hubby what's happening he thinks lm having a huge flush out of my system - as he puts it. No one can really tell me how long a miscarriage takes to pass naturally, l feel if it takes agers its going to fully change me . Hugs and thanks for listening to me
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Popcorn
21 Jun
Happy Father's Day! 💜💫💜 Be kind to yourself today.
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Full Moon
21 Jun
Ive had an abortion due to a sick pregnancy two years ago. Ive been questioning if im even a mother and how to say happy fathers day to such a situation to my boyfriend who grieves with me. I feel lost, upset and disgusted with who I am mentally. How do I make this a day of remembrance for him. Hes in the hospital...
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Guitar
25 Jun
How do you cope with seeing a baby who's family, like having to pretend like you can't crying inside. My uncle has just recently had a baby girl, i recently misscarriaged, i love her to bits but i just feel really sad when i see her and i don't think i even want too for a while
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Guitar
25 Jun
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Full Moon
4 Jul
I am going through my first miscarriage from my first pregnancy. I was about 7 weeks pregnant. The doctor could not locate the sac with the TV Ultrasound. I have been bleeding heavily for 6 days now and my OB has confirmed the pregnancy is a miscarriage. I feel very low, I can't stop crying, like my hormones are in overdrive. It feels a thousand times worse than any PMS I've ever experienced. My partner and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost a year and as soon as we find out we are pregnant and so happy with the news the worst has happened. I am really stressed with work because I really dislike my job and have work related exams starting in 2 weeks but I just can't focus or even care about them. I don't know what to do, I feel so hopeless right now.. 😞
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Guitar
7 Jul
Can someone message me please :/
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frisbee
11 Jul
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frisbee
22 Jul
🌹🌹🌹 PMA Post 🌹🌹🌹 How’s everyone doing? I know suffering this kind of loss is hard, you will feel you have no one who understand what you are going through. I’m here to tell you that’s wrong, everyone in this group understands and is here to talk when you need it.
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Duck
26 Jul
I have been threw 5 miscarriages. I have two kids 3 and a 9 month old. We found out we where pregnant again. My fiancé doesn’t want more kids and wants me to get an abortion. He refuses to talk about it. I don’t want to get an abortion but am feeling stuck. I went to the dr and she said to talk to him more before doing anything but I can’t seem to get two words in. He either leaves or gets defensive. Idk what to do or how to get him to understand how this hurts me.
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Ice Cream
5 Aug
I lost my 2nd child due to an ectopic pregnancy which I later found out was due to an std transmitted to me by my boyfriend (at the time) I didn’t know I had it intill 1 year later. But at this time I was already pregnant. I didn’t know I was pregnant at first intill I was rushed to hospital with sever rectual pain. When they told me I was pregnant I was half way between happy and upset because I knew something was wrong. I went to have a scan they couldn’t find the baby so they had to use do internal scan, at this point I was screaming because it hurt so much. I was rushed to theatre and they removed my tube and the baby. I couldn’t even speak or eat after losing it. All I wanted was the company of my boyfriend and I wanted a child so badly after losing the previous one. I know I should of cut ties with him but I felt like I needed him. Soon later we tried for another one, but i noticed he started to become controlling the first time he hit me, it was just a slap, he was crying and I believed him when he said he was sorry. I then became pregnant again but, I was losing that one too... we both were stressed and in the hospital things were getting so bad between us that he strangled me on the hospital bed. After that, he just become more controlling and more violent, even when we was at his moms and he would hit me in front of my son and his daughter. I don’t know why I never said anything. But I felt like it wasn’t his fault and that I was doing things to irritate him because sometimes my mouth can be unpleasant. We broke up but we were still seeing each other intill one day I didn’t delete someone of my social media and he slapped me and then we later on got into a huge fight and he strangled me. He was talking to this girl at the same time who he got to pick him up from my house but I didn’t know this intill months months later. I didn’t see him after the incident for a month, then we started talking again and it felt like he was nicer to me. So we gave it another go, but then I received constant messages from a girl who claimed she was having his child, I asked him about it and he denied it. She later rang me to confirm that she was 12 weeks pregnant and that she was keeping it. I was so heartbroken because he promised that we would have a child together and that he will wait for me intill I’m better so we can have one... me and his mom didn’t get along either anymore because of the arguments between us but she would constantly blame me and when I was walking to university I saw his moms boyfriend who spat on me, while telling everyone else that I was the one who spat at him. So when we got back together, I had all his family having there horrible opinions about me, when I didn’t nothing wrong. It was so painful because at one point I believed that they loved me more then my own family. So it ended up being me and him and his uncle who I thought was different and genuine but little did I know he was going to the gender reveal with my boyfriend who promised he wasn’t gonna go and they both lied to me about it. He had me in his home with my son from 5pm intill 4am waiting on him, while he was with her. She would constantly text me and tell me that he was talking behind my back to her, but she would only tell me when he stopped speaking to her. I noticed that every-time I did something wrong he would run to her about it and confide in her. He became more aggressive towards me where every week he would slap me or strangle me but the last 3 months of our relationship he was always paranoid that I was talking to other people and when he thought I was he would take my car keys and wouldn’t let me go out the house, he would sit next to me when I did something and hit me and I’ll just go to the bathroom and beg him to leave me alone. I stopped arguing back as much but I still would say things even though I knew he would hit me. He would bang my head against the wall, slap me consistently in my face, throw my phone at my face, tell me everyone hates me, tell me he doesn’t believe me that I never instigated the incident between me and his step dad. I got pregnant for him for the last time, at this point I knew that I was going to loose it. But he was there with me having a conversation with his actual baby mom after the childs second name. She knew I was pregnant and she did it on purpose. He left me in the hospital and told me after my surgery he will come back. But instead he was helping another female and her child. The last time we spoke was the last time he hit me, I had to ring police at this point because my son was on a child protection plan because he had punched me while my child was in my lap and my son had told the nursery and then social services got involved. It’s been like 11 months and I’m still not over the fact that my children are dead while his mistake is alive. It’s painful to watch him enjoy a child that I don’t have, when his the one that caused it and his babymom would constantly come between us, tell me things about him and then tell me I’ve lost children for a reason and that everyone was happy that I lost it. After his the reason that I can’t have children, he cheated, his was horrible to me both physically and mentally and all I tried to do was help him see that there is a better way and a better life. I know his not the one for me but it’s traumatic because I don’t know what I did to deserve it. It feels like a lot, when I talk about it. I was always upset, smoking weed and drinking when I was with him because it was painful all the time for me. No one had my back, no one understood what I was going through all they seen was that he left a pregnant girl for me and that I was in the wrong. I don’t understand It. I know his not the one for me but I don’t know what to do with myself, I’m so indecisive, I can’t make decisions and I get frustrated when I ask people to help me decide because they will often say it’s up to you. I don’t eat, people say it’s Cus of stress but I don’t feel stressed unless I’m talking about it. I find it hard to see others pregnant, or gender reveals or any kind of baby celebration. When I see a baby being born, it hurts me. I just want this part of my life to disappear. I feel and I’m scared that people are just trying to control me, I don’t ever want to be in that kind of situation again, I’m scared to be in a relationship.
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Koala
7 Aug
My life has just been a downward spiral of fuckery and nothing I do fixes anything. My MC made me never want to try for a child again.
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frisbee
13 Aug
🌹🌹🌹 PMA Post 🌹🌹🌹 Going through this kind of loss shows how important friends are. Even if they have never experienced it themselves, friends can still provide comfort at times when you need it
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Popcorn
1 Sep
It will be my son's 1st birthday on 2 October. So many mixed emotions 🦋🦋🦋
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Popcorn
18 Sep
My son will be ONE in 2 weeks. So many emotions: Happiness, pride, loneliness, grief, fullness, emptiness, love, pain... My baby exists. My baby is important. My baby is loved. My baby is missed. My baby's memory remains to be alive. It is my job; It is my job to keep his memory alive. I am so grateful to have him as my first child. I feel an overwhelming amount of grief because of all of the missed milestones; Not only from these past 20 months but from all of the future ones. I do not regret getting pregnant with him. Even though it was not in the way it should, my son happened! My son was so very loved and cherished and it will remain that way.
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Guitar
19 Sep
How do i get over the fact my boyfriend doesn't want to try again? I misscarriaged in march and now he wants to not try for another. I respect it but how do I honestly come to terms with it? :/
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Dolphin
28 Sep
3 days ago I realized that I am suffering from a chemical pregnancy. I'm bleeding so much. I'm at a loss as what to do next. I informed my husband and collapsed into a puddle of tears on the bed. We have been trying to conceive for around 10 months. Now i feel like have this empty space in my chest.... I dont know what to do
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Mango
14 Oct
Hi everyone hope your all ok . I lost my baby in October 2009 and since then I’ve been upset . I’m with someone else now as my ex dumped me nearly 2 weeks later after it happened . Every year I remember my baby especially on the Wave of light which will be tomorrow Thursday 15th at 7pm local time . I light a candle for a hour and remember my baby and other people’s . If this is something you want to do and didn’t know about it google wave of light . I’m here for any of you as unfortunately I know it’s a horrible thing to go through.
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Mango
15 Oct
Wave of light 2020 . It’s 11 years since I lost my baby . It never gets easier .
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Hibiscus
23 Oct
I was forced by my boyfriend to have an abortion bc he said he would throw me out and I wasn’t taking my anxiety meds and when he started yelling I just agreed and went to the appointment and I hate myself. I hate that I was so confused and scared I allowed myself to be interrogated into losing my first born. I can’t believe what I’ve done & I can’t come to terms I just want my baby I am empty without my baby I was so scared that he would leave me and our baby and I would be stuck unable to care for our child alone I felt I had no options. I was so scared.
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Hamster
6 Nov
Around December of 2018 I had to have an abortion. I was showing extreme signs of a miscarriage and it was extremely painful for me. I went through with the abortion and its destroyed me. We couldnt support another life and I am no longer with him for this reason and other reasons. After going through the abortion, I no longer want to get married or have anymore kids. I dont want to sink into a depression again. My ex is trying to convince me that I'll be happy again and I'll want to have another child again. But tbh I no longer want that. It scares me and i dont want to put myself in a position to possibly get hurt or lose myself like that again. Idk what to do. I'm so guarded and i dont want to get close to anyone i could potentially like in that manner.
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Tropical Fish
14 Nov
I have not been thinking about my abortion. I’ve done well for a while. However last night I felt pain in my tummy, and this brought on the dream of me going through it all again. Vividly, I am holding my baby before I flush it down. Filled with guilt, in my dream the baby started moving a little. I still feel guilty for what I have done but personally I knew it was the right choice at the moment in time. I woke up saying sorry again and again to the baby
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Deciduous Tree
18 Nov
I had an abortion February this year I was 19 years old, I didn't want to do it but it was the right thing, recently my ex broke up with me because of it but I've never let it go, I had an attempt on my life because of the loss of my baby and the images from that day still remain. I hate myself for it, I have nightmares and im always saying sorry to my baby, God and everyone involved.
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frisbee
18 Nov
I loss my Bby at 28 in October 4th 2018 just like I lost her daddy in August 24 2018 it’s tough yalls it really is he gotten murdered & I felt like very emotional in deep pain still just thinking about it even when I watched my own miscarriage fall after crying deeply cuh of stress & all the negativity that was surrounding me & females who I thought was there for me thy put me thru a lot of drama & my even my own cuhzns which I will never will forget after stayin with em...just sayin I’m speaking my mind my emotions is every where & due too the holidays coming up I Ben in deep depression just tryin to find some trusted friends females friends who I can talk too & share my feelings & emotions with but I can’t cuh I’m too busy being angry at myself becuhz of the loss of my little family I’m 30 now it’s hard letting go I’m taken my frustration & anger out on the one person whose Ben there for me & it’s my puppy dad he’s Ben there for me help me when I didn’t have no place else to go but I’m giving him my trust cuh of my experience I Ben thru cuh I can’t seem to let it go... 😞😞😞 it’s sad yalls it really is & we in a world where us females can’t lift each other up don’t matter what color race you are we do blinded by our selfishness we need to be here for one another I want females friends but it’s hard...so until then like I said we all got a story nothing wrong wit sharing that Cuh when lose somebody that mess eats up inside so should nobody judge nobody cuh we all seeking help...we all Periodt
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Mango
22 Nov
I loss a pregnancy last year and I’m still annoyed when people act like it’s not a big deal
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frisbee
22 Nov
Yea it’s crazy becuh peoples don’t know the pain & feeling
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Duck
23 Nov
I had my implant removed in July and within 3 weeks after got pregnant. At 8 weeks I found out I was miscarrying although I was told by multiple places bleeding and cramping was normal. I then passed at home with my fiancé. I found out it had stopped growing at 4 weeks and I had been carrying it another 4 weeks. I’m not 3-4 weeks pregnant and I’m worried the same will happen. Has anyone else been there?
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Maple Leaf
4 Dec
Has Late term miscarriage in July at 21 and a half weeks... my baby was born alive and I had to hold him till he passed. My fiancé left me. I’m destroyed and trying to keep it together so I can work and pay bills
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Koala
9 Dec
I just feel like crap! I miss my baby and I miss my old life I just wanna restart and have a family
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Palm Tree
22 Dec
I had a very early miscarriage with a guy I only dated for a few months, I honestly didn’t want to even believe it happen so I never told anyone about it. It’s been three years and it didn’t really hit me again until recently. I’m still friends with the guy and him and his girlfriend just had a baby girl. I got to hold her and part of me was overwhelmed with emotions. I’ve held other babies before but she felt different, like the baby I was supposed to have but was given to someone else instead. But I also found some peace over it, knowing my time will come to be a mom just hurts waiting.
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Whale
22 Dec
I never got to hear a heartbeat. Never found out if it was a boy or a girl.. Never felt it move. I try so hard to be ok. To not think about it.. but it keeps hurting so much😔💔..
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Honeybee
7 Jan
Hello?
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Popcorn
15 Jan
Trying to stay strong. Trying to not let all of these emotions consume me. It is not easy.
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Chestnut
16 Jan
My sister lost her baby today. I want to help but don't know how - can someone help me?
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Maple Leaf
25 Jan
Hey Everyone. @ghislaine-smith just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Fox
7 Feb
Hey Everyone. @kei-anna just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Violin
8 Feb
Happy hello, I was advised to find a support group... My first thought was to turn to Wisdo! I visited the hospital yesterday morning, after waking up in pain and went to the bathroom in intense pain and bleeding. Went to work today still, since it was the first day of my promotion. (Let them know what I was going thru only after finishing my work around lunch time) Not going to work tomorrow to attempt to rest... Feeling all mixed up & overwhelmed with not being able to focus. Mind feeling clogged
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Whale
16 Feb
I took a pregnancy test yesterday morning.. there was a very faint line but I could see it and sent it to my cousin and she saw it too.. so I go very excited.. but started my period today😔.. so idk if I was actually pregnant..
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Trumpet
1 Mar
It has been 10 yrs since I loss my baby girl pass January 18
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Whale
5 Mar
I feel like im ok.. but then I see other people having babies and its like a trigger and find myself crying again.. like why cant I have a baby too?
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frisbee
9 Mar
🌹🌹🌹 PMA Post 🌹🌹🌹 How is everyone doing? I’ve been through this and I’m always here if you need a chat, a cry or simply just someone to talk to who understands 🤗
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Popcorn
14 Mar
Happy mother's day. I hope you all can do something special for yourselves today. 💕
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Canoe
1 Apr
I don't know if I wanna do any of this anymore. It's coming up to a year since I found out I was pregnant even tho deep down I already knew I was. I only got to really enjoy my baby for a few weeks before "he" (I say he because that's what I felt it was and what I got told by a psychic) was gone. I feel like my partner blames me for it even tho I blame myself already as I was doing things I shouldn't have. I just wish I could go back to the 12 weeks I knew him and could change it all. I feel like my relationships falling apart and that nothing I do is going to fix it. I just don't know what to do anymore...
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