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Palm Tree
7 Jan
Hey everyone. Tomorrow, Friday the 8th of January, at 4 EST, I will have my group session that is normally for widows and widowers . This time it will be a bit different. I invite you to visit even if you have not lost your spouse/partner, no matter how old you are. We will be talking about ways you can help and support someone who has lost a husband or wife or long term partner. So perhaps it is your parent or a friend or another relative who has lost a spouse. Come find out ways you can understand and help them, and perhaps some things that might not he helpful or might even be more upsetting, even if well intended. I remember that when I lost my father, ten months before losing my young husband, I really did not understand what my mother was going through. Only after I, too, became widowed, did I have an inkling. Hope to see you there and if you attend, come with questions. Ask me anything!!
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Koala
10 Jan
So I was on this app, and basically a person invited me to join their live stream idk why so then I clicked on it then they were like hi and then they put on a YouTube video of a guy saying âI donât associate myself with n******â then I left the live then blocked them both. Idk why racist people would swipe right on people they hate?? How does that even make sense? Like you hate black people but you swipe right on them on dating apps?? Um what for??? lol
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Palm Tree
10 Jan
I am really sorry this happened. There are just some sick and awful folks out there. The best thing is to not give them the satisfaction of showing you are upset in any way. Good that you blocked them.
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Sunflower
12 Jan
Yâall ever notice that white folk talk down to you. Like youâre a child or you canât speak English?
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Tennis
12 Jan
I used to be a racist but I have recovered. Growing up in that environment is terrible but I've since left that family/church behind. They indoctrinate and lie to you. It's vile. Idk if this is the right place for me, just wanted to share that
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Giraffe
13 Jan
I feel like Black Lives should matter to us too. Iâm tired of turning on the news and seeing black people killing each other. This has gotta stop.
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Maple Leaf
13 Jan
Iâm having ptsd around racial trauma, where ex colleagues bullied and harassed me for my racial background. The experience left me feeling ashamed, isolated, disgusted and deeply frustrated with the way people saw others, and how selfish and judgmental they are.
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Palm Tree
15 Jan
Today at 4 EST, Fri, Jan 15
Are you really ready to start feeling better after death of your spouse or other loved one? Join me today and letâs talk about that.
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Palm Tree
20 Jan
Tomorrow at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive.
Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasnât recent, what worked for you? What didnât? Your experience can help others! Letâs figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears.
Itâs pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss.
Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.
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Palm Tree
21 Jan
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST.
Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive.
I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasnât recent, what worked for you? What didnât? Your experience can help others! Letâs figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears.
Itâs pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss.
Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
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Tennis
23 Jan
I don't care if your white, black, brown, purple, blue, orange or pink! you are perfect just the way you were born, we are all brothers and sisters â¤
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Koala
23 Jan
I just need to rant about this. Why is it on apps, not even dating apps just regular apps for talking to people (not this one, others) guys always say stuff like can you twerk? Do you have a big butt? Like why would you ask someone these questions đ theyâre so cringey đ I mean obviously itâs because Iâm black but still. Donât these people realise how cringey these questions are?
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Maple Leaf
27 Jan
In Singapore, law enforcement caught a person attempting to conduct an attack on places of worship. This is despite the fact that it is covid-19, and that there are plenty of sopâs in place.
Iâm really furious at the people who are not putting in the effort to manage situations like this. They donât bother to assess the kinds of people with toxic mindsets that are growing out of this environment.
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Palm Tree
27 Jan
Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too.
This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward.
Come join us, please introduce yourself when there and join the conversation
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frisbee
29 Jan
Hey Everyone. @k.-athena-devlin just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Palm Tree
5 Feb
This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free.
Hereâs what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! â¤ď¸â¤ď¸
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Rabbit
9 Feb
Racism have so many faces maybe it can appear as a heat for your significant other human by jealousy and hate be careful donât be blinded by the lights and shadows.
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Palm Tree
11 Feb
On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentineâs Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentineâs Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentineâs Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.
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Maple Leaf
12 Feb
Two white women on Wisdo were extremely condescending to me this week. Frustrated with the fact that people like this still exist and think they have the right to speak to people of color thus way.
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Elephant
13 Feb
Hey Everyone. @kaybian-tanner just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Palm Tree
17 Feb
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Letâs talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Letâs acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. âFor every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happinessâ. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Palm Tree
26 Feb
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those whoâve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on.
Todayâs theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others.
Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready.
You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief.
Letâs try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be?
Will you be there at 4? I donât love talking to myself.đ
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Palm Tree
5 Mar
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I wonât be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
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Palm Tree
11 Mar
See Zoom info below.
Notice:
Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time itâs on Zoom. More often itâs a texting chat.
WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12.
Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC
Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend.
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Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom-
What is your biggest challenge right now?
Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others.
Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy.
Itâs Ask Me Anything Friday.
I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
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Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo.
Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
Join Zoom Meeting
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09
Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574
Passcode: 050133
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Palm Tree
19 Mar
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
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Palm Tree
24 Mar
Hello Everyone:
My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed.
Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again.
I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds.
This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT?
and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME..
Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible.
Let's talk about that!
What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments.
Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group.
https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives
See you soon!
Regards,
Coach Iris
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Lion
25 Mar
I just want to say that the amount of anti asian racism in America has been on the rise for the last year or so. It's easy to blame China for the virus and this leads to anti asian sentiment. At the same time I'm really proud that the vice president is Indian and African American. It just feels like two steps forward and one step back. Please stand with asians in your area the same you would do for any marginalized group. đ
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Palm Tree
1 Apr
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom
This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.Â
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Palm Tree
2 Apr
I am re-posting because..well..I screwed the post up the first time. Sorry! I believe in your unique magic & wonder. Do you? You are special beyond measure. We share this journey called life. We are all part of the human family. I wish everyone realized that. We are ALL in this together.
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Popcorn
Wednesday
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Whatâs something that makes you happy?
Share some thoughts below!
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