Tomorrow at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.

Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.

I don't care if your white, black, brown, purple, blue, orange or pink! you are perfect just the way you were born, we are all brothers and sisters ❤

I just need to rant about this. Why is it on apps, not even dating apps just regular apps for talking to people (not this one, others) guys always say stuff like can you twerk? Do you have a big butt? Like why would you ask someone these questions 😂 they’re so cringey 😂 I mean obviously it’s because I’m black but still. Don’t these people realise how cringey these questions are?

Normalize cutting off black toxic parents

In Singapore, law enforcement caught a person attempting to conduct an attack on places of worship. This is despite the fact that it is covid-19, and that there are plenty of sop’s in place. I’m really furious at the people who are not putting in the effort to manage situations like this. They don’t bother to assess the kinds of people with toxic mindsets that are growing out of this environment.

Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too. This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward. Come join us, please introduce yourself when there and join the conversation

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Hi everyone!

This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️

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Racism have so many faces maybe it can appear as a heat for your significant other human by jealousy and hate be careful don’t be blinded by the lights and shadows.

Being a minority in America and black need I say more

On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentine’s Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentine’s Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentine’s Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.

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Two white women on Wisdo were extremely condescending to me this week. Frustrated with the fact that people like this still exist and think they have the right to speak to people of color thus way.

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About to 420 if anyone wants to keep me company while I vibe plz dm me 😊

Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍

Question does any see any news or update on the George Floyd trial?

I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.

See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133

Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?

Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris

I just want to say that the amount of anti asian racism in America has been on the rise for the last year or so. It's easy to blame China for the virus and this leads to anti asian sentiment. At the same time I'm really proud that the vice president is Indian and African American. It just feels like two steps forward and one step back. Please stand with asians in your area the same you would do for any marginalized group. 😊

Gutted, shocked and devastated by the Sewell Report. Way to gaslight and invalidate.

Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though  most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in. 

I am re-posting because..well..I screwed the post up the first time. Sorry! I believe in your unique magic & wonder. Do you? You are special beyond measure. We share this journey called life. We are all part of the human family. I wish everyone realized that. We are ALL in this together.

How many of y’all heard the “13/50” argument? What is ur rebuttal for that?

Who is scared for the Chauvin verdict? What will happen if he’s acquitted? Will he face vigilante justice ??

Unacknowledged Grief Come learn and talk about Unacknowledged or Disenfranchised Grief tomorrow, Friday April 23 at 4 PM EDT ( NY time). Come to learn, to share, to be loved and supported and to discuss ways to fight bitterness and misery. I want this group to be a comforting, safe and participatory space. There are many situations in which someone’s grief over losing a loved one, particularly a spouse or partner or child, is not acknowledged by your friends and family. That hurts the survivor terribly and leaves them feeling incredibly lonely and abandoned in their loss. A few examples.. When your family did not approve of your relationship or marriage ...If your marriage or relationship was with someone of a different race..If you were in a same gender relationship or marriage and your family was not accepting for whatever reasons..If your loved one took their own life..If the loved one was drug involved and the people in your life were/are judgmental..and other reasons too many to list. Love and Light. Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC, Life & Loss Transformation/ Life Reinvention Coach.

So basically I’m a student psychiatric nurse that’s what I’m studying in university anyways we’re put on placement in a mental health hospital to see what the nurses do there. So there’s a patient there who was obsessed with my hair it was creepy. He’s a 35 year old man (white male) and I’m 19 years old black female. Anyways at first at placement I’d wear my hair with brown streaks and the rest is black and he’d always stare at me and laugh at my hair and if I went into another room he’d go in to look at me through the window and laugh 🤦🏾‍♀️ and he’d follow me around but then I got rid of the streaks and now my hair is just black and he stopped that behaviour. Anyways a few days ago I wore my hair in it’s natural form so Afro but tied back and he started acting strange again and following me around etc laughing (he has schizophrenia btw) anyways then I changed my hair back to tying it in a bun then he approached me yesterday saying “why have you changed your hair again? Did you not like it in the other style because yesterday it was frizzy” why is this guy so obsessed with my hair? Honestly I thought he’s racist bc there’s a while woman and she changed her hair she dyed it blonde and she was brunette before and he didn’t react to it so...

Do any black people here have white/ non people of colour partners who don’t support BLM?

Grief & Life Redesign today at 4 Eastern Daylight Time. Join us if you have lost a spouse or partner or someone close to you. Today's topic is Unacknowledged or Disenfranchised Grief. There are many situations in which someone’s grief over losing a loved one, particularly a spouse or partner or child, is not acknowledged by your friends and family. See earlier post if you want more examples. Come to discuss this or any other grief-related topic that you want to talk about. We welcome you. Come with an open mind please. And yes, one reason some people must suffer unacknowledged grief might be racism if you lost a spouse or partner who was of a different race and family or friends were disapproving of the relationship.

We are all worthy ❤️

Happy Juneteenth everyone! 😊

I imagine I'm not the only one disappointed by the sentence given to Chauvin. It feels as though for each step forward we end up with three steps back. Sending love to you all 💜

For those of you who don’t know, a Canadian case of a John Doe by the name of Septic Tank Sam has been identified 40 years after his body was found in a septic tank. Apparently people who worked on the case knew he was murdered but didn’t think of pursuing his killer cause “it was so long ago, why charge someone for a murder they did almost 50 years ago?” Is it wrong that by that quote alone, something tells me Sam’s ethnicity was Native?

I’ll just vent everything out. Well basically I was under investigation in university because when I was working as a healthcare assistant (nurses assistant) I arrived late to the shift because I don’t drive and I had issues with transportation I apologised to the nurse who was in charge that day but she wasn’t nice to me that entire shift. Bare in mind this nurse is in her mid 40s and im only 19. Anyways I didn’t know I signed something wrong that day but then the nurse told me and then talked to me about it then I apologised again and then she sent the other healthcare assistants home so I thought I was going to be sent home too but I didn’t voice anything I just stood in the office then the nurse told me to go sit with the patients. Anyways this nurse reported me to my university for coming to work late even though I told them in advance I’d be coming late and apologied also she said I had a bad attitude when I hardly even talked to her the entire shift 😂 anyways my family thought it was racism because she’s white and I’m black and she was really rude to me the entire shift.

https://medium.com/@jessica.colvin10/comparative-analysis-of-strange-fruit-and-blood-on-the-leaves-9ac2855d3e5c. Info on one of the popular songs being use on TikTok

The things tht can never be tht hurts you because you want them to be 💔🖤💯🙃

🍁🍂PMA🍁🍂 Recently I started reading The Diary Of Anne Frank. What is one book that has changed your life? Share some thoughts below!

Join me in giving a warm welcome to the new members that joined our community! 💫

Hello my dads just been told he’s got a year left to live scince having cancer. He’s recently had a second chance to get surgery after having to deal with what we were told before. I work for my mum and dad and one of his workers bully’s me everyday and calls me usless at my job. And shouts at me down the phone and comes up to the office when I’m on my own to shout at me. I’ve been working my ass off for my parents for the past three months on my own in the office. This guy who’s been bullying me I can’t take it no more with everything going on! I went to my mum about it and nothing was done. He started swearing at me on text messege the other day about how thick I am. So I swore back at him and ended up saying stuff to him. Which btw is a big deal to me as I have social anxiety My mum how now taken his side because he has told them I’m bullying him and he’s fed up. I feel like I’m going crazy. Anyway last week my mum said take a week off cause your clearly not coping. Then the next day she messeged me saying your going to leave me to do it all then?! So I went in work to be spoke to like shit again. So everyday this week I’ve left early before I should finish and basically walked out because I’ve had enough. My mum has just messeged me to say I’m sacked. And she’s had enough of me and I’m so selfish. I really don’t know what to do. Am I the problem?

I have just had a false allegation and it’s hurting me

I was going through a rough time in my life and I felt like I was surrounded by monsters. It was my final year in college, six years after leaving my country and four years of winning asylum. I have dealt with homophobia all through high school, that I can’t remember growing up. I only remember wanting to leave and so when I had the chance I did. I left the only life I knew behind but because I wanted freedom so badly I didn’t think of how much that loss would affect me for years to come. I still think I made the best decision. And even the best depression ends up taking you through a lot of pain and damage. But when I thought things would get better, it actually got worse. I needed to take control of my life. I transferred to college in New York for my last two years. And I had never been to a place that felt so cold. Both literally and figuratively. The transition was easy and smooth and I was ready to start a new/fresh life. The first semester was good, I met people. But then things took a turn. I had never dealt with racism, and a class structure that was so rigid you would want to kill yourself because of it. What they call the Ivy League is a horrible place for poor students. It’s hard to get in but it’s even harder to stay. And while society is awful with plagues of racism, and classism, it’s magnified on these campuses with extreme levels of privilege and narcissism. Coming from a place where people talk to each other, look out for each other and then being in a place where people look at you as if you are alien, felt like I was damned to hell. I didn’t realize that my skin color mattered until I sat in a classroom where I being singled out because of the color of my skin. I began to realize that no matter what I did, I was not only a student. I was a black student. I was a human being for god’s sake. I had feelings. I had already suffered 6 years of not facing my family, being alone, that I didn’t want to deal with another form of discrimination. I just wanted a good education… a hug. But people didn’t stop seeing me for my skin color. I couldn’t ask for help because there weren’t many people who looked like me. And after almost two years of agony, I saw myself moving again, this time not for freedom, but for a peace of mind. I hadn’t finished healing from the trauma I had experienced in my youth years from homophobia, yet I was contending with added trauma from the exclusion and stigmatization that I had experienced in college. It left me bare, scorched and depressed… it weighed on me physically and mentally. Diabetic and suicidal… I felt I couldn’t connect with anything or anyone, I was numb. So, I decided to move to a small suburban town to start fresh again. Find a community and seek out a life… one that I could live, like an actual person despite being gay and black.