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Rabbit
9 Feb 2021
Racism have so many faces maybe it can appear as a heat for your significant other human by jealousy and hate be careful donāt be blinded by the lights and shadows.
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Palm Tree
11 Feb 2021
On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentineās Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentineās Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentineās Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.

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Elephant
13 Feb 2021
Hey Everyone. @kaybian-tanner just joined the group. Please join me in welcoming them and introducing yourself here!
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Elephant
15 Feb 2021
About to 420 if anyone wants to keep me company while I vibe plz dm me š
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Palm Tree
17 Feb 2021
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Letās talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Letās acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. āFor every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happinessā. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Palm Tree
26 Feb 2021
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those whoāve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on.
Todayās theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others.
Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready.
You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief.
Letās try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be?
Will you be there at 4? I donāt love talking to myself.š
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Palm Tree
5 Mar 2021
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I wonāt be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
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Palm Tree
11 Mar 2021
See Zoom info below.
Notice:
Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time itās on Zoom. More often itās a texting chat.
WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12.
Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC
Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend.
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Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom-
What is your biggest challenge right now?
Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others.
Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy.
Itās Ask Me Anything Friday.
I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
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Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo.
Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
Join Zoom Meeting
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09
Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574
Passcode: 050133
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Palm Tree
19 Mar 2021
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?

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Palm Tree
24 Mar 2021
Hello Everyone:
My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed.
Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again.
I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds.
This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT?
and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME..
Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible.
Let's talk about that!
What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments.
Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group.
https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives
See you soon!
Regards,
Coach Iris
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Lion
Helper
25 Mar 2021
I just want to say that the amount of anti asian racism in America has been on the rise for the last year or so. It's easy to blame China for the virus and this leads to anti asian sentiment. At the same time I'm really proud that the vice president is Indian and African American. It just feels like two steps forward and one step back. Please stand with asians in your area the same you would do for any marginalized group. š
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Palm Tree
1 Apr 2021
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom
This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, thoughĀ most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.Ā
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Palm Tree
2 Apr 2021
I am re-posting because..well..I screwed the post up the first time. Sorry! I believe in your unique magic & wonder. Do you? You are special beyond measure. We share this journey called life. We are all part of the human family. I wish everyone realized that. We are ALL in this together.

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Palm Tree
22 Apr 2021
Unacknowledged Grief
Come learn and talk about Unacknowledged or Disenfranchised Grief tomorrow, Friday April 23 at 4 PM EDT ( NY time).
Come to learn, to share, to be loved and supported and to discuss ways to fight bitterness and misery. I want this group to be a comforting, safe and participatory space.
There are many situations in which someoneās grief over losing a loved one, particularly a spouse or partner or child, is not acknowledged by your friends and family. That hurts the survivor terribly and leaves them feeling incredibly lonely and abandoned in their loss.
A few examples.. When your family did not approve of your relationship or marriage ...If your marriage or relationship was with someone of a different race..If you were in a same gender relationship or marriage and your family was not accepting for whatever reasons..If your loved one took their own life..If the loved one was drug involved and the people in your life were/are judgmental..and other reasons too many to list.
Love and Light.
Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC, Life & Loss Transformation/ Life Reinvention Coach.
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Koala
Guide
22 Apr 2021
So basically Iām a student psychiatric nurse thatās what Iām studying in university anyways weāre put on placement in a mental health hospital to see what the nurses do there. So thereās a patient there who was obsessed with my hair it was creepy. Heās a 35 year old man (white male) and Iām 19 years old black female. Anyways at first at placement Iād wear my hair with brown streaks and the rest is black and heād always stare at me and laugh at my hair and if I went into another room heād go in to look at me through the window and laugh š¤¦š¾āāļø and heād follow me around but then I got rid of the streaks and now my hair is just black and he stopped that behaviour. Anyways a few days ago I wore my hair in itās natural form so Afro but tied back and he started acting strange again and following me around etc laughing (he has schizophrenia btw) anyways then I changed my hair back to tying it in a bun then he approached me yesterday saying āwhy have you changed your hair again? Did you not like it in the other style because yesterday it was frizzyā why is this guy so obsessed with my hair? Honestly I thought heās racist bc thereās a while woman and she changed her hair she dyed it blonde and she was brunette before and he didnāt react to it so...
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Palm Tree
23 Apr 2021
Grief & Life Redesign today at 4 Eastern Daylight Time. Join us if you have lost a spouse or partner or someone close to you. Today's topic is Unacknowledged or Disenfranchised Grief.
There are many situations in which someoneās grief over losing a loved one, particularly a spouse or partner or child, is not acknowledged by your friends and family. See earlier post if you want more examples. Come to discuss this or any other grief-related topic that you want to talk about. We welcome you. Come with an open mind please. And yes, one reason some people must suffer unacknowledged grief might be racism if you lost a spouse or partner who was of a different race and family or friends were disapproving of the relationship.
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Full Moon
1 Jul
For those of you who donāt know, a Canadian case of a John Doe by the name of Septic Tank Sam has been identified 40 years after his body was found in a septic tank. Apparently people who worked on the case knew he was murdered but didnāt think of pursuing his killer cause āit was so long ago, why charge someone for a murder they did almost 50 years ago?ā
Is it wrong that by that quote alone, something tells me Samās ethnicity was Native?
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Koala
Guide
4 Jul
Iāll just vent everything out. Well basically I was under investigation in university because when I was working as a healthcare assistant (nurses assistant) I arrived late to the shift because I donāt drive and I had issues with transportation I apologised to the nurse who was in charge that day but she wasnāt nice to me that entire shift. Bare in mind this nurse is in her mid 40s and im only 19. Anyways I didnāt know I signed something wrong that day but then the nurse told me and then talked to me about it then I apologised again and then she sent the other healthcare assistants home so I thought I was going to be sent home too but I didnāt voice anything I just stood in the office then the nurse told me to go sit with the patients. Anyways this nurse reported me to my university for coming to work late even though I told them in advance Iād be coming late and apologied also she said I had a bad attitude when I hardly even talked to her the entire shift š anyways my family thought it was racism because sheās white and Iām black and she was really rude to me the entire shift.
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Honeybee
Helper
10 Aug
https://medium.com/@jessica.colvin10/comparative-analysis-of-strange-fruit-and-blood-on-the-leaves-9ac2855d3e5c. Info on one of the popular songs being use on TikTok
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Elephant
18 Aug
The things tht can never be tht hurts you because you want them to be šš¤šÆš
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Popcorn
Guide
6 Oct
ššPMAšš
Recently I started reading The Diary Of Anne Frank. What is one book that has changed your life?
Share some thoughts below!
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Giraffe
27 Oct
Hello my dads just been told heās got a year left to live scince having cancer. Heās recently had a second chance to get surgery after having to deal with what we were told before. I work for my mum and dad and one of his workers bullyās me everyday and calls me usless at my job. And shouts at me down the phone and comes up to the office when Iām on my own to shout at me.
Iāve been working my ass off for my parents for the past three months on my own in the office. This guy whoās been bullying me I canāt take it no more with everything going on! I went to my mum about it and nothing was done. He started swearing at me on text messege the other day about how thick I am. So I swore back at him and ended up saying stuff to him. Which btw is a big deal to me as I have social anxiety
My mum how now taken his side because he has told them Iām bullying him and heās fed up. I feel like Iām going crazy.
Anyway last week my mum said take a week off cause your clearly not coping. Then the next day she messeged me saying your going to leave me to do it all then?! So I went in work to be spoke to like shit again.
So everyday this week Iāve left early before I should finish and basically walked out because Iāve had enough. My mum has just messeged me to say Iām sacked. And sheās had enough of me and Iām so selfish.
I really donāt know what to do. Am I the problem?
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frisbee
3 Dec
I was going through a rough time in my life and I felt like I was surrounded by monsters.
It was my final year in college, six years after leaving my country and four years of winning asylum. I have dealt with homophobia all through high school, that I canāt remember growing up. I only remember wanting to leave and so when I had the chance I did. I left the only life I knew behind but because I wanted freedom so badly I didnāt think of how much that loss would affect me for years to come. I still think I made the best decision. And even the best depression ends up taking you through a lot of pain and damage.
But when I thought things would get better, it actually got worse. I needed to take control of my life. I transferred to college in New York for my last two years. And I had never been to a place that felt so cold. Both literally and figuratively. The transition was easy and smooth and I was ready to start a new/fresh life. The first semester was good, I met people.
But then things took a turn. I had never dealt with racism, and a class structure that was so rigid you would want to kill yourself because of it. What they call the Ivy League is a horrible place for poor students. Itās hard to get in but itās even harder to stay. And while society is awful with plagues of racism, and classism, itās magnified on these campuses with extreme levels of privilege and narcissism. Coming from a place where people talk to each other, look out for each other and then being in a place where people look at you as if you are alien, felt like I was damned to hell. I didnāt realize that my skin color mattered until I sat in a classroom where I being singled out because of the color of my skin. I began to realize that no matter what I did, I was not only a student. I was a black student.
I was a human being for godās sake. I had feelings. I had already suffered 6 years of not facing my family, being alone, that I didnāt want to deal with another form of discrimination. I just wanted a good education⦠a hug. But people didnāt stop seeing me for my skin color. I couldnāt ask for help because there werenāt many people who looked like me. And after almost two years of agony, I saw myself moving again, this time not for freedom, but for a peace of mind.
I hadnāt finished healing from the trauma I had experienced in my youth years from homophobia, yet I was contending with added trauma from the exclusion and stigmatization that I had experienced in college. It left me bare, scorched and depressed⦠it weighed on me physically and mentally. Diabetic and suicidal⦠I felt I couldnāt connect with anything or anyone, I was numb.
So, I decided to move to a small suburban town to start fresh again. Find a community and seek out a life⦠one that I could live, like an actual person despite being gay and black.
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Owl
18 Dec
I just donāt know how many more poc have to die over these wreck less racistsā¦itās crazy to me how they can have proof that they did things and still not be held accountable smh itās crazy to me because itās like whose next⦠itās ridiculous to want to cause harm to another over a complexion⦠how can we live in a world with these people that have these biases that refuse to change, share power, be truthful, etc š”
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Honeybee
Helper
9 Jan
āØSurvivor's inspiration quotes āØ
š: Inhale the future, exhale the past
š: You are stronger than you think
š: Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it
š: The past has no power over the present moment
š: I love the person I've become because I fought to become her
š: Don't be ashamed of your story, it will inspire others
š: Don't judge yourself by what others did to you
š: Believe in yourself, you have the power to heal and manifest anything and everything
š: A healthy relationship doesn't drag you down, it inspires you to be better
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Honeybee
Helper
10 Mar
I was Harassed by police back in December of 2021. It was around the time I only had about 9 dollars on my Foodstamps card, and I was walking from the Mini Mart. I walked back to my house down the street and suddenly, I noticed a Police Car was in front of me on the other side of the Stteetlight. I was on the pedestrian side of the sidewalk and it was a Very Cold Night so I was rushing to get home and not suffer from terrible frost bite. As I was waiting on the Light to turn so I can get gone fast I took a Left to get my house faster, the police car took turned to my direction, following me and seeing where I am heading or (to their Knowledge) looked so Conspicuous. Anyway, after they went head down the stop sign all the way down the street, I turned around and walked back to the same direction that i was heading to. Then all of a Sudden, the Cops drove right back around following me and question why I turned and walked this way or that way?! Like WTF do you want from me?! Stop harassing me, i didn't do anything shady or anything like that... man I hate My neighborhood and cops in general. I honestly don't see why Anyone would want to become a Police officer or anything of the Like.. it just doesn't seem like the ideal type of job that's noble. I mean most police harass and discriminate Black folks or constantly "talk to them" and question their whereabouts.. I don't like talking to police, or even Asking for help from them, it's just not fair at all.. I didn't even get a Case worker to help me put my abuser in jail but the moment that I get the police called on me for panhandling... its Game over for me.. this sucks. But thankfully I got over the situation and decided to find employment and work hard and get out Of Town, atlesst where police will stop harassing me and do their Job for once..
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Violin
22 Apr
Iām an African American and Iām from Wisconsin, lately Sometimes I go into stores and I go to school and I get so many stares just by living life
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Sun
26 Apr
Life consists of 2 days. One for you, and one against you. When itās for you, donāt be proud or reckless. And when itās against, be patient. For both days are a test for you.

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