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TennisAuthor
27 Jul
Anyone here that can offer some advice about a poly relationship?
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Sled
27 Jul
What type of advice are you seeking ?
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TennisAuthor
27 Jul
My girlfriend broke up with me a week ago. We have been intimate twice since. We have talked briefly about being in an open relationship. Trying to figure out the best way to move forward with that possible relationship
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TennisAuthor
27 Jul
A few reasons She felt her work stress could not allow her to give me the time and energy I deserved. She said she might not be ready for a relationship and she might not be monogamous after all
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Sled
27 Jul
Do you feel that emotionally you'd be able to handle being in an open relationship with her ?
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TennisAuthor
27 Jul
When we first started dating for 4 months it was open. I made some mistakes then that I have learned from I think so but I am fully aware things might change
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Sled
27 Jul
As long as you know what could happen and aware of all the potential outcomes. If you feel you could handle it then go for it. If you think it might not work out so well then maybe you shouldn't do it at this time. Trust your gut and remember that you need to watch out your own well being. No one else will so please keep that in mind. Not saying be selfish but you need to make sure you're not putting yourself in an emotional hole that will be extremely difficult to get out of if things go South. Just looking out for ya 🤙
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HedgehogHelper
27 Jul
Poly relationships are tough, IMO, and demand an incredible level of integrity to make it work without making a mess of things. Are you prepared to be in a relationship that might actually be more work than monogamy?
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DolphinHelper
27 Jul
You may find that a healthy poly relationship is actually more maintenance and communication than monogamy. For that reason, it might be better for you guys to just agree to take several steps backwards into casual dating since the reason you broke up in the first place is because, as you described, she doesn’t have the time or emotional resources to maintain one healthy relationship, never mind several.
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