I need some advice or your opinion. If you have felt empty and not loved for years. What would you do to help the relationship. This is what my husband had justified as his excuse for cheating. He says he loves me and that is the way he is still with me. I've been putting him through a rough time because of my pain. My mind won't shut off. Is it time.for me to walk away?
It’s important to ask yourself if you even want to forgive this person. That’s ultimately the deciding factor.
It seems like there are several different issues going on here. First of all, where are your limits and boundaries for the behavior? You sound deeply hurt so I’m guessing that’s a clear limit and boundary for you, but they are negotiable. It’s a choice. Secondly, there’s really no excuse for cheating, IMO. If there’s something missing in the relationship then you step up and deal with it with integrity. Thirdly, your pain is unresolved so of course your mind is very, very busy. I guess lastly how is he addressing what happened? I know for me closure can be difficult if someone is either unable or unwilling to have an empathetic conversation about it…. Sorry to hear you’re having to go through this!