I wake up every morning to my ex messaging me to get rid of our unborn baby it’s been going on for 2 weeks now and it’s getting worse. He threatened to kill his self if I don’t - I’m definitely having this baby but 😭😭😭😭 abusive comments are NOT THE ONE! Any tips/ help I’m getting so depressed and I’m 2 months pregnant !!
do you intend on involving him when you have the child?
Yes I want him to be there but I gave him the choice of if he wants to. We came to the agreement of co-parenting and being civil for the baby. Everyday I wake up to abusive messages even though he said he will be there for the baby
I'm really sorry that you're going through this right now it's a very difficult time. Your boyfriend is in a dark difficult space it's not a healthy space for you or your unborn child. He needs to take some space away from you and think about what he really wants. You've made a decision to have this child and so that means if he wants to be with you that means supporting you with this child. Block his calls and texts for a period of time. This man can't bully you into an abortion. His actions won't be any healthier when the baby is born if he doesn't change his mindset. And if that's something he's not willing to do then no child deserves a father that never wanted to be there. Have courage for you and your baby.
I agree with the
I agree with the above. The only thing I would add is, from a parent perspective, it’s worth checking in with yourself about who this person really is and what kind of father they really will be, not making decisions based on the kind of father you wish they were/hope they will become.
If you are planning to keep the baby, save his texts. You might need them if you are in a custody battle. I’m sorry you are going thru this. Try not to stress. Because if you are stressed, the baby is stressed. I know that is hard right now, but that baby needs to be number one priority. Is there anyone close you can talk to about this? Don’t go thru this alone! Maybe even try to find mom groups, so you have support. Message me if you need someone to talk to, about anything. I’m a single mom…with an emotional abusive ex. So I feel your pain.