Hi all. How are you feeling today? As we head into the Thanksgiving holiday here in the States, most of us will be experiencing a very different kind of holiday than we are used to. In my “ Perspectives” group today at 4 pm, I can share with you some mindfulness techniques. Hopefully these tips can help us find joy in the moment, despite these anxious and stressful times. I hope to see you later.
Would love to attend. I have another commitment at 4 but it sounds like something that will benefit a lot of us, Marian.
I see today that there are 183 members who have joined group, Widows and Widowers Rebuilding! So I have not met most of you and when I do live sessions I have not been able yet to do much more than talking to myself!! I am here to help you set goals and feel better and hopefully less lonely. I am here to give you some tips and tools and to facilitate your sharing them with each other. So please, take a very small risk and come forward here. First introduce yourself and tell us just one thing about why you are here! Welcome. Please don’t be invisible. Come on over if you have lost a spouse or long term partner. The live group is Fridays at 4, Eastern Standard Time, but if you can’t be there live, come over anyway and start reading and interacting.
Hi all. I hope you will join my “ Perspectives “ group this afternoon at 4 pm. Let’s learn to communicate better with our adult children, using direct and assertive techniques without creating conflict. I hope to see you later.
Turn your Dreams into Goals. Join me tomorrow, Thursday at 1pm Pacific!
Coming soon! I will be launching a brand #new #website just for #widowed #women. This won't replace my Vision Powered Coaching site but it is designed to reach that particular group. I hope you will like it and give me some feedback when it makes its debut very soon. Even if you are not a widow, please come take a look at it and pass it on
You don’t have to be a widow or widower to join today’s group chat at 4 in the Widows & Widowers Rebuilding Life group. Today we will talk some about Taking Care of and Loving Yourself More as it relates to going through loss and grief. We will also address things others may wish to discuss if they are widowed.
I am so excited to have a new platform (my new website for widows) to be able to reach and help more people through my coaching work. Come see my new site this week. It doesn't replace my Vision Powered Coaching site. It is designed to speak to that one population and I hope you will pass it on and join me in celebrating the debut. Stay tuned!
Hi all ! A snow storm is a-coming this afternoon on the East Coast (US) I hope you will be able to drop in to my “ Perspectives” group at 4 today. Let’s discuss the challenges of balancing caring for others with practicing self care. Sometimes we forget that we need care too!
Widows and Widowers, come participate in my group at 4 PM EST this afternoon. Or pop in and read and post afterwards, if you can’t make it. Today we will talk about the holidays and how to get through them, what to change, what to keep the same. Or we can talk about anything on your heart and mind right now.
widowscoach.com TODAY'S THE DAY, FRIENDS! Come visit and enter the contest. You don't have to be a widow to win, even though it's a site for widows! www.widowscoach.com CONTEST INSTRUCTIONS: It's a site for helping widows, one of the client population I work a lot with, though not exclusively. I am so excited because this will give me an opportunity to help even more people through my work as a Life & Loss Transformation Coach. So here's how to enter.. Step 1: Go to the url or web address of my new site. Go visit and check it out. Step 2: Share the url to my new site on your own Facebook page or pages and tag me in the post. (If you know me, let people know that.) Step 3: Send me an email by contacting me through the new web site in the Contact link on the menu of the site. Tell me a brief story of a significant hardship or obstacle you feel proud of having overcome, or one you would like to overcome. Remember, you don’t need to be a widow to enter. In the subject line of the email message, write Website Launch Contest. I will choose one winner. If I can't decide, I may need to enlist the help of a colleague. The winner will receive an Amazon gift card for $25 and YOUR CHOICE of Dr. Jeff Riggenbach's new self-help book, “The CBT Resilience Journal-21 Days Toward Developing Immunity to Adversity in a Pandemic Era". (I have no affiliation with Dr. Riggenbach) OR a copy of my published poetry collection, "Blooming Beyond Brooklyn-Poems of Roots, Sorrows & Lessons". ****Even if you don’t want to enter the contest, please come take a look when I reveal the site address, and pass on the link to those you know who could benefit, and especially if you know a widowed woman. widowscoach.com
Hi Everyone-I expect to do my group for widows and widowers next Friday, New Year’s Day, at 4 EST. I am hoping people can give me some idea of topics they need help with or would like to discuss. I will collect topics of interest over the next several weeks. Please pop in, even if you can’t do so in real time. Also I hope some people will consider attending even if they have not lost a spouse but know someone who has, so perhaps they can come to understand them better and can help them.
Hello All. Please join me for a live session Monday at 9am central time. We are going to end the year with a discussion on Moving On and from there a plan and steps to get started.
Re: My group on Fridays at 4 EST: Widows and widowers have many unique challenges . I work with many as they deal with grief and loss, yet begin to rebuild their lives and figure out who and how they now want to be. I have found that attitude and determination to make the most of life in spite of the hurt, make all the difference. I don’t only work with those who have lost a spouse. I help a variety of clients find new joy and purpose of rediscover old passions. However, I understand the special challenges of losing a life partner. I can best help those who come to this group if you let me know YOUR challenges and the things you need help with. We can work on some concrete things. Let me know either here, in the group, or via direct message.
Hello Wisdonians !! Today in Gillian’s corner we will be discussing meaningful activities and how they contribute to happiness !! Join us at 2:00 pm EST
Hey everyone. Tomorrow, Friday the 8th of January, at 4 EST, I will have my group session that is normally for widows and widowers . This time it will be a bit different. I invite you to visit even if you have not lost your spouse/partner, no matter how old you are. We will be talking about ways you can help and support someone who has lost a husband or wife or long term partner. So perhaps it is your parent or a friend or another relative who has lost a spouse. Come find out ways you can understand and help them, and perhaps some things that might not he helpful or might even be more upsetting, even if well intended. I remember that when I lost my father, ten months before losing my young husband, I really did not understand what my mother was going through. Only after I, too, became widowed, did I have an inkling. Hope to see you there and if you attend, come with questions. Ask me anything!!
Helloooo Wisdonians!! I wanted to stop by and invite you to Gillian’s corner. Today we are discussing purpose ! Do you have one and why you need one. So pack your bags and get ready to hop aboard at 2:00 pm EST
Today at 4 EST, Fri, Jan 15 Are you really ready to start feeling better after death of your spouse or other loved one? Join me today and let’s talk about that.
Tomorrow, Jan 21 at 4 EST come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. Tomorrow I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session tomorrow.
Hey everyone, I made a mistake. The excitement of our elections here threw me off. My group is Friday at 4EST. Come visit my group Widows & Widowers Rebuilding which name is soon changing to Help 4 Widows & Widowers. ( so the whole title will be visible.) You are welcome to come, even if you have not lost your spouse. Sometimes we discuss grief feelings and tools and finding ways to rebuild life in spite of the grief and ways to stay positive. I plan to discuss FEAR. If you have recently lost your husband, wife or partner, what sort of fears do you have? I bet others have had them too. What efforts have you made to tackle your fears? If your loss wasn’t recent, what worked for you? What didn’t? Your experience can help others! Let’s figure out some steps you can take to help deal with your fears. It’s pretty hard to hold a discussion with yourself , so hope some of you will visit. Come with any other topics related to loss of your dear spouse that you need help and support with and would like to discuss. Looking forward to our chat session on Friday. Sorry about the error. Hope to have some of you visit my group on Friday.
. “Often when you think you’re at the end of something, you’re at the beginning of something else.” – Fred Rogers Join me for a live session at 9 am CST Monday as we explore what Mr, Rogers was talking about.
Come join me live, in my group on Friday, January 29th, at 4 EST. It is a group for widows and widowers but anyone who has experienced loss of a loved one is welcome to attend. People are welcome to express their feelings, share things they would like help with, etc. However, I try to keep things focused on goals to help you find new peace and purpose too. This week, I plan to talk about mind shifts. We cannot change the loss and pain of losing your spouse or loved one. We can help you focus on the learning from the experience or experiences and the growth you have achieved or would like to achieve as you move forward. Come join us, please introduce yourself when there and join the conversation
Today I want to ask you if you are hungry enough to change? You might be inclined to respond quickly and emotionally. You might say you have tried to change and it didn't work for you. You might say you don't want to change. You might say you have been through too much loss and pain and it just isn't going to happen. I am sure you know I'm not talking about food here. Read the full article here: http://visionpoweredcoaching.com/hungry-enough-change/
This is Coach Iris, Life & Loss Transformation/Life Reinvention Coach, on Friday morning, Feb 5th. I am live in my group right now for just a couple of minutes. I just wanted to give people a heads up that I may not be able to make my group live this afternoon at 4 PM Eastern Time. Something has come up and I am not sure I will be free. Here’s what I suggest... if you were hoping to attend my group currently known as Widows/Widowers Rebuilding, ( Waiting for techs to do a name change) please stop in anyway. I may be there. If not, come post your personal challenges anyway. That way I will know what you want to talk about and what you need help with in the aftermath of loss of your spouse or partner, or someone else close to you. Remember though, that my hope is to help you not just with the challenges of loss and grief, but to shore you up and support you as you figure out how to navigate rebuilding your life and finding things to feel good about in spite of your terrible loss! ❤️❤️
” As you embark on the exciting journey into retirement, you will experience a transition that will be both thrilling and terrifying.” –Olivia Greenwell. Join me in a live session at Joyful Retirement Monday 9 central time as we discuss this quote and see if we are thrilled or terrified or maybe both.
On Friday at 4, Feb 12th, we are going to have a Helping Hearts pre-Valentine’s Day session in my group. This is for those who have lost a spouse or partner or other dear loved one. Not everybody celebrates Valentine’s Day, but for those who do, or have in the past, this can be a very difficult and poignant day. So today I would like to invite you to come share some favorite, loving memories of your dear one. Was there a special way you celebrated Valentine’s Day? What are some of your other fond and happy memories. Yes, it is possible you will cry, but tears are not necessarily bad. They provide release and help us express and let out feelings that might otherwise seethe internally and boil over in a difficult way. Sharing good memories is also a way of honoring your departed and celebrating your love. Death does not end love. Come share and celebrate with me /us.
Are you holding on to anger after the death of your spouse, partner or another loved one? Anger at the departed? Anger at the world? Anger at others who have not understood your pain? Let’s talk about this on Friday at 4 EST in my group. Widows/Widowers Rebuilding Life ( still waiting for name change please, Wisdo Techs). Let’s acknowledge true feelings, share, understand and learn how to handle and get rid of that anger. “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness”. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hello Wisdo Folks. I invite you to join me today at 4 EST. While it is technically a session for widows and widowers or those who’ve lost their partner, anyone is welcome to come and talk about and learn about loss and grief of other loved ones who have passed on. Today’s theme is Speak Their Name. It can help to share things about your loved one. Come tell us one or more of your treasured memories and listen to others. Sharing and honoring them by speaking of them can be an important step in the grief process. Sometimes family and friends do not understand and are uncomfortable about this sharing, which can hurt the bereaved who need the sharing. So come and speak their names and tell us , if you feel ready. You will find a safe space to do this in our session , but I try to keep the environment a positive one too, and not a place filled with misery or self-pity. The focus is sharing but also learning and a desire to feel better in spite of your grief. Let’s try to come up with a goal or two you can commit to for the coming week. Simple, small goals are a good place to start. What might yours be? Will you be there at 4? I don’t love talking to myself.😍
It’s important that we understand grief, but we must be careful not to use it as an excuse to stop living and working to improve our lives.
I am so sorry, but something important has come up and I won’t be doing the chat group this afternoon at 4 EST( March 5th). I apologize. Come and say hello any time. Coaches on Wisdo are also available for booking private coaching sessions! If you are a widow, widower or have lost another loved one through death, come to this group or pm me. I may do a Zoom in the near future also. Wisdo likes to have a helper or guide present on Zooms. Would you like to volunteer to help out some time if 4-5 ET would not be too late for you? Let me know so I can run it by Dr Gill.
See Zoom info below. Notice: Come visit with my community on Fridays at 4. This time it’s on Zoom. More often it’s a texting chat. WISDO Friday 4 PM EST,. March 12. Rebuilding Life-Loss of Spouse or Partner Session with Coach Iris Arenson-Fuller, PCC, CPC Anyone who has lost other loved ones is also welcome to attend. ********************* Plain Talk and Sharing For this Zoom- What is your biggest challenge right now? Can you share something that has helped you with your grief or something you find or found inspirational that could help others. Let's get to know each other. Come prepared to share a fun or silly fact about yourself too. People need to smile and laugh, even in the throes of grief. That is part of awakening to life and staying healthy. It’s Ask Me Anything Friday. I try to keep the conversation real, sincere and kind, and not dominated by negativity, but if you have something you need to express, it's fine. If you need extra help, you may pm me on Wisdo or we will get a Guide to help you. Looking forward to getting to know you. ——————————————- Iris Arenson-Fuller is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting for Wisdo. Time: Mar 12, 2021 04:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada) Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89264463574?pwd=azN6MmJTWTl3QWpWblprT0w0Tndudz09 Meeting ID: 892 6446 3574 Passcode: 050133
Try not to waste your energy on thoughts that keep you worried and negative. What are some things you do to get out of that state of mind? What works best for you? We all have both positive and negative energy surrounding us. The constant negative energy prevents us from living a fulfilling life. Maybe it’s not the life you wanted or asked for, but it’s the one you’ve got.
Hello Wisdo Friends, “Unfortunately, people put more time into planning a trip to Disneyworld than how they’ll spend the next 35 years of their life. The biggest misconception is that retirement’s going to be perfect without any planning or preparation, like something magical will happen. Retirement can be a fantastic life stage. But don’t show up on retirement day and then try figure it out." Don Veto Come discuss this with us at Joyful Retirement on Monday morning at 9 central time as we review the 6 stages of retirement, including setting goals and transition.
Hello, Wisdonians! I hope you will pop in on my group at 4 PM New York Daylight Savings Time today, Friday, March 19th. It is called Widows/Widowers Rebuilding for now though still waiting for Wisdo to change the name. However, anyone who has lost a loved one is welcome to attend and join discussions. It's no fun to do these groups alone so let's have some company and participation please. Today I will share some reflection questions to help you with your grief and some other things to help you in managing and rebuilding life. Also the discussion is open to things you would like to discuss. Almost nothing is off limits as long as we are kind, respectful and open to other opinions and ways of viewing things. Will I see you there?
Hello Everyone: My Friday Group Session at 4 PM Eastern Daylight Savings Time (N.Y. Time) is for those who are widows, widowers or have lost a partner, but others who are interested or have lost a loved one, are always welcomed. Please come to the session on Friday, March 26th if you are free. It will be a texting chat session this week again. I generally have a planned topic or two, but you may also bring issues or questions to the table and we can discuss what is on your hearts and minds. This week my plan is to discuss: HOW CAN COACHING HELP ME THROUGH AND BEYOND MY GRIEF? WHAT IS IT? and also: Discussion--THE BEST VERSION OF MYSELF IS YET TO COME.. Do you believe that statement? Is it possible for you even after you have lost your dear spouse, partner or close loved one? I believe it is probably not, IF you have convinced yourself it isn't possible. Let's talk about that! What else? Well, that depends on what you bring to the table. You make these sessions dynamic. We coaches love to have you attend our sessions, rather than talking to ourselves for an hour or more. Come prepared to chat, to meet each other, or at least to say hi and let us know you're there, if you're shy. You are a valuable part of my community. I see that there are a large number of people who are part of this community, but I would love to meet you in my live sessions. If you are not free at that time, please pop in any time, read what's there and leave some comments. Here's a link directly to my Friday 4 PM group. https://wisdo.com/communities/widowsers-rebuild-lives See you soon! Regards, Coach Iris
Loneliness/Dating and Other Issues After Death of Spouse or Partner-Friday, April 2nd, 4 PM New York Time (DST) A chat group tomorrow-not Zoom This is a group for widows and widowers but others are also welcome if they come with an open mind and not with a lot of pre-judgments. If you have lost someone else close to you, we can support you and be understanding, though most often the issues are not exactly the same as when you have lost your spouse or life partner. You are still welcome to pop in.
I am re-posting because..well..I screwed the post up the first time. Sorry! I believe in your unique magic & wonder. Do you? You are special beyond measure. We share this journey called life. We are all part of the human family. I wish everyone realized that. We are ALL in this together.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell if retirement is a reward for a lifetime of hard work or a punishment. Terri Guillemets Join us at Joyful Retirement on Monday at 9 am central time as we discuss what to do to fill those retirement hours.
Would you like to know how to say no when you keep saying yes? Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships and, really, a healthy life. Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill. Join us at 9am central in Joyful Retirement as we begin a three week discussion into boundaries. This week setting boundaries with your retirement partner and your children. Next week family and friends and week three boundaries with grown children who have not left home or who have moved back in.
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to decide how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept and what you choose to do or not do.” Anna Taylor Hope you can join us as we continue our discussion about boundaries on Joyful Retirement Monday 9 am central time. We will be talking about boundaries with friends and organizations you are a part of.