Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Feeling stuck? Let’s meet right now and talk about what you have going on!
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Complete this sentence: I feel stuck about _________.
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Umbrella
18 Aug
Isolation. Lack of Communication (not texting). “Is this all there is?”
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
What boundaries have you expressed to yourself or to others?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
My boundaries are no drinking in my house
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
My son thinks he can ...I tell him no ...then he gets mad...I tell him the only way for him not to listen to is ...is to get his own place
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Hi Maxi! So nice to be with you! How are you since your operation? Are you enforcing the boundaries?
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
When is it time to ask for help? Who are you going to ask? What will you demand? Is there a compromise that needs to be made?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
No coprimise
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
No compromise..I've been through this before
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
He just got out of prison because of drinking
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
And I will not put up with it ...I won't go back to visit if he goes back
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Sorry for your hardship. So are you aware of him drinking at your house?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
He will lose his job if he continues to drink thru the week
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Consequences he suffers must be very hard on you!
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
I'm tired of these so called adults that drink and don't go to work
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
What do you want to do about it?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
I've told him he can not come home and drink and he can not come home with a buzz I can't stand the look
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Does he?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
I want him to move Be.so I do not see it
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
When are you going to give him a move out deadline?
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
Short of kicking him out nothing
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
I have to now
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
I want him gone now
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
If he had been working like he is supposed to he'd have money tomove
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
But now he has to borrow money from his dad who is an alcoholic....and understand s....and enables ....even tho he hasn't drank in a yr
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
And he makes more than I do
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
How about your challenge from me today is that you get very clear about how much you love him. Then get very clear about your boundaries. Then clear about what you will say. On Friday you let him know you love him and he is stepping over your boundaries so he needs to be out within the next month. Ask him how you can help him find a place to live.
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Will you do that?
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Much love to you! Perhaps he may just go live with his dad.
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Your boundaries will teach him boundaries. You can do this in a very loving way. Be calm the whole time! First be very clear for yourself so there is no wavering. Simply a notice and then a demand.
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Susan HusaAuthor
22 Jul
Much love to all of you today! Let me know if I can help. You can always DM me! ❌⭕️
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LemonHelper
22 Jul
Thank you for listening
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