Transitions and Transformation: Exploring the Internal Truths Exhibiting External Character.
Welcome! Transitions referring to the internal dialogue and Transformation resulting in our being from the dialogue. What we think affect how we be.
How you be? Like, right now! Not how have you been!? How are you this very moment? Just take notice and label with a adjective. An adjective describes a noun which is a person, place or thing.
For the sake of simplicity, we will go over some ideas to help you learn how to overcome the thoughts that want to destroy your positive thinking. Please know that you may need to consult with a doctor if you need help. Sometimes our natural hormones are not enough to get us through to the part of our brain that we will call our P brain for this conversation. We define N as the negative thoughts and the part of our brain they stem from.
In “P” mode we move forward with ideas that are full of curiosity. Notice what you get curious about.
In “N” mode we roll around in pity and strife.
Notice the thoughts that you are clinging to. Label them.
You may also want to claim one if of LOVE and the other from EVIL.
However you define them, these are the thoughts that you are fully capable of transitioning!
You are in charge of them! And if you cannot take charge of them, seek a professional!
One way to do some habit forming thought transitions is: Take one minute to examine something in front of you. Really notice the texture, the smell, the feel, the sound it makes if you run your hand over it. Notice all of the sensations.
That is engaging your “P” brain. If you had thoughts coming in during that it’s ok. Did you notice though how when you got curious you were only thinking about the thing in front of you?
Now let’s think about all the negative thoughts you have. You have learned these along the way in life. Somewhere along your path of life you were subjected to some pretty yucky stuff. You adopted some pretty big lies about who you are and how _______you are.
Over time you have spiraled into depression because of it or overly exaggerated to exalt yourself and now you are a control freak.
What happens in transition of your mind is going from a child to an adult.
Overcoming the angst of childhood is the thought process of engaging as an adult.
So be kind to the child in you that got wrecked from all the turmoil. And show this child how to recover from getting all beat up and nurture it back to itself.
What do you want? What do you need to get it. How will you get it?
Start by being nice to yourself. Tell the GIANT in your head to simmer down!
Use the P to control the N
....LM NO P. Even our alphabet tries to take out the P! Haha!
You got this! When you get caught up in negative. Immediately just start looking at something intently. That will engage your P brain. Then you can get really curious about what you are about to do next!
This gives you P mode to say, aha! I want to.......
So start now! You want a clean space? Aha! “I am going to clean! All of a sudden your N shows up! NOPE! “I am cleaning because I love clean!”
Here’s another: “I am going to call _______. I am so curious about how they are doing!?”
Or, “I am so proud of you (speaking to self) for making a change today! You have been so mistreated by me! Today, we are making some changes. It is going to take some conscious effort but we are putting this i to practice from now on. So what shall we do today for a start!?”
Once you start engaging this way you show up differently. You exercise boundaries with people. You get curious about them. You get curious about being helpful to the group. The jerk that used to piss you off is now someone you show empathy to because you get curious about their thoughts. By asking them you help them reveal a great idea to build upon or shape in a mutual way.
This is how we transition our inner dialogue and transform how others see us and our character shows up as LOVE!
I rely in God to help me with my P thoughts. I have conversations with God ALL DAY LONG! He sets me straight!
Much love to all of you!